Wah, I had hoped for a little more here. I suppose if I cared more about my appearance and grey hair I would have been more into the book, but I don't...moreWah, I had hoped for a little more here. I suppose if I cared more about my appearance and grey hair I would have been more into the book, but I don't have any qualms about going grey...I've never colored my hair and have no intention of starting. I'm actually really curious to see what I'd look like, but if I felt it made me look older or as though I had given up, well, I kind of already feel that way now! Well, not really, but I mean, I just don't worry about it. I am more for authenticity above anything else, but to be honest, that doesn't mean I wouldn't ever consider having my eyes done...my lower brows have covered my upper eye-lids for as long as I can remember...one day in the future modification may be necessary just so that I can see! Also, I find those non-surgical facelifts to produce pretty amazing results!
Anyway, this book is a bit dated in some ways; it was written in 2007. The author towards the end mentions that she sees a glimmer of change on the horizon and I really think there has been a change to some degree in the past 7 years; at times I wondered what the thoughts of a contemporary writer might have been on the same subject.
p 71 "And I was equally relaxed when it came to hair. Kate, of course, applied her outrageous colors as an adolescent, and when Lucy was little, her hair was charmingly disheveled. I actually took pride in the fact that both girls didn't have perfect hair all the time--to me, their undergroomed hair showed the world that they were self-confident, independent spirits with more important things on their minds."
p 200 Quoting Betty Friedan's 1993 The Fountain of Age: An active, realistic acceptance of age-related changes--as opposed to denial or passive resignation--was thus the key to a continued vital involvement in life, a very different face of age than disengagement and decline....Mindless conformity to the standards of youth can prohibit further development, and that denial can become mindless conformity to the victim-decline model of age. It takes a conscious breaking out of youthful definitions, for a man or a woman--to free oneself for continued development in age.
p 201 Quoting Andrew Weil's Healthy Aging: Because aging reminds us of our own mortality, it can be a primary stimulus to spiritual awakening and growth.(less)
This is so readable! When I think of all the research that went into this book and then consider how well written it is...well organized, concise, int...moreThis is so readable! When I think of all the research that went into this book and then consider how well written it is...well organized, concise, interesting...I'm blown away! I don't think too critically about anything anymore, but this book really gets you...thinking! I should have known not to read certain passages relating to the pets who suffered during Hurricane Katrina...I had nightmares for days after watching a documentary several years ago...but I read them anyway and sure enough that's where my thoughts turned when I went to sleep the other night. Anyway, as one who adores my pet and can't imagine a world without animals, this was a great read.(less)
I wasn't sure what to expect from this book; perhaps just to see if the author agreed with me about behaviors today that I find incredibly rude...and...moreI wasn't sure what to expect from this book; perhaps just to see if the author agreed with me about behaviors today that I find incredibly rude...and she did on many counts so I guess I got that much from it. Actually, more than that, I was hoping for some really good suggestions on dealing with the rudeness, but I found that the way she handled some of the situations made her at times just as rude...I'm more for taking a higher road. She did acknowledge in some ways that in some instances, people don't realize that they're being rude and I agree with that. Also, pointing out to someone just how rude they're being is likely to escalate the situation and I also agree with that. A better book might be one that educates people on rudeness, like, you might be a rude person if you...stand in the middle of a grocery store aisle on your cell phone as though you're the only person in the store; or you talk on your cell phone at a volume which forces all those around you to listen whether they want to or not; or you let your dog poo on someone's lawn and then don't pick it up, etc. Such a book might get people to at least think twice about some things. This book might just piss them off.
I just don't understand how there are some people, like myself, who always think about being polite and often go out of their way to be polite and yet others are so ignorant when it comes to basic human kindness and reciprocity; it is something that really bugs me. Burns my toast, yo! But another note she made that I totally agree with (sometimes I think she contradicted herself) is that it's just up to us not to let it bother us; when I am in traffic and someone does something incredibly rude or ridiculous I just try to turn it into an action that took place for a reason...maybe this is the last day they can be late before they'll lose their job....that might make one cut off three people and very narrowly avoid a major pile-up. Maybe that guy is driving like a maniac because his wife is in labor and he's desperate to get to the hospital. Maybe that person sitting at the light even though it turned green a minute ago is lost and was looking at a map and just missed the light, maybe she really isn't a ditsy idiot driver after all. By re-framing I wind up feeling compassion and then I don't get angry. I keep trying to get Mike to think more like this!! So, anyway, an interesting book to some degree, I read it in one sitting, but I had higher hopes for it. (less)