Lazy, complacent and apathetic people make me sick…physically sick. They’re contagious. Complacency, sloth and apathy are infectious diseases and they...moreLazy, complacent and apathetic people make me sick…physically sick. They’re contagious. Complacency, sloth and apathy are infectious diseases and they’re destroying our society.
Larry Winget has the cure. It’s his newest book: Grow a Pair: How to Stop Being a Victim and Take Back Your Life, Your Business, and Your Sanity.
Sure, there are some circumstances and conditions you simply can’t control. If you’re focus is on things you can’t control, it’s on the wrong target. You can’t control the government, the economy or even the guy in the cubicle next to you…
…but you can always control your response and your attitude.
“That’s right- work on you before you concern yourself with other folks…instead of worrying yourself with fixing everyone else, focus on fixing yourself.”
That’s part of Larry’s opening salvo- and he doesn’t stop there. Stop worrying about what you can’t do and focus on what you can do; even when it comes to business, society, government and the economy.
You can make a difference, if you Grow a Pair. Whatever happened to the notion that every person makes a difference one act at a time? We better get it back and Larry’s book is a powerful guide.
“People with a pair have reasons for things not working out; people without a pair have excuses for things not working out.”
Larry takes on some big issues in Grow a Pair. One that particularly resonated with me was our growing problem with incivility.
“I know this flies in the face of the PC crap we have been taught. You should be tolerant of who people are, but intolerant of their stupid actions.”
He tackles parenting…
“Kids will learn more by watching you and the example you set than from any other thing…So be a real parent, and grow a pair. Stop being your kids’ friend. Be their parent and do your job.”
“Interesting that some people used the recession as an excuse to fail and some used it as an excuse to reinvent themselves, get stronger, work harder, serve their customers better and grow their businesses.”
And even the government…
“Bare minimum, vote for politicians who have a pair…vote for people who stand up for their beliefs and yours…Can I guarantee that things will change if you vote? No. But I can guarantee that things will never change if you don’t vote!”
There is one glaring problem with Grow a Pair…
That problem is that the people who need this book the most will never open the cover…unless you grow a pair and make sure they do!
If you believe like Larry does, and like I do, that the answers to our problems lies in the simplest of each of our daily actions…you’ll find Grow a Pair a thoroughly enjoyable and validating read.
More than that, as always, Larry challenges each of us to look in the mirror and face up to whether or not we’re really doing our best.
Buy two copies…
Buy one for yourself. You’ll enjoy it thoroughly- and one for someone you know who really needs to Grow a Pair. You don’t have to say a word. You’ll make a statement just by dropping it on their desk.(less)
My favorite books are true stories that read like novels, and those that will transform the way I think in some meaningful way. "Unbroken" accomplishe...moreMy favorite books are true stories that read like novels, and those that will transform the way I think in some meaningful way. "Unbroken" accomplishes both!
"Unbroken" should be required reading in every high school history class. Hillenbrand shares the wrenching story of life as a WWII prisoner under the brutal culture of the Japanese military.
I've met WWII POWs who shared, hesitantly, some of their experiences. This book takes you all the way in. It's certainly a story of survival under unimaginable hardship, but much more than that it's the story of the resilience of the human spirit.
Louis Zamperini is a hero- but we often think of heroes as people apart from us. Hillenbrand gives us the human side of the real physical and emotional challenges he and his fellow POWs experienced.
The next time you think life is tough, or you wonder how you're going to make it, read "Unbroken."
The fact is you can’t do business unless people know you. In this extremely crowded marketplace, those who are most recognizable and trusted are those...moreThe fact is you can’t do business unless people know you. In this extremely crowded marketplace, those who are most recognizable and trusted are those who will rise to the top. The most recognizable and trusted names in any business are those with the most visible and credible expert positioning.
Ken Lizotte gives you a step-by-step guide to becoming a “thought leader” and recognized expert in your field. “The Expert’s Edge” is a comprehensive guide to developing expert positioning and leveraging your expertise to promote your business through writing, publishing, media exposure and networking.
Lizotte’s principles help you gain market recognition whether you’re on a national platform or you’re trying to expand your customer base for a local restaurant. Anyone, in any business sector can apply these techniques to generate PR and expand business potential.
There are plenty of books about the importance of blowing your own horn in business. “The Expert’s Edge” is the essential manual for trumpeting your message with a clear and true note!(less)
Like many small business operators, I do most of my own marketing. Still- I want my brand and marketing materials to compete globally and stand with c...moreLike many small business operators, I do most of my own marketing. Still- I want my brand and marketing materials to compete globally and stand with companies with major league budgets.
To help me get the job done I have two books within reach on my desk at all times- one is “People Buy Brands Not Companies” by Dr. John Tantillo. In the spirit of full-disclosure Dr. Tantillo was instrumental in helping me develop my “Think Like a Black Belt” and “Black Belt Mindset” brands. It is because of the results produced with his incredible guidance and advice that I can so enthusiastically recommend “People Buy Brands…”
With a very frugal budget and Dr. Tantillo’s guidance we built a globally recognized brand that has turned into lucrative speaking opportunities, major media appearances and sales of my own book. The techniques we continue to use are yours for the taking in “People Buy Brands…”
Dr. Tantillo is well known to TV viewers as “America’s Marketing Doctor.” He appears regularly on FOX News sharing his sometimes unconventional and always effective advice for branding and marketing your business whether you’re a Fortune 500 exec or a small time entrepreneur.
This book is an essential addition to your business library! If you want to develop or expand an effective marketing campaign, don’t do a damn thing until you read “People Buy Brands Not Companies.”(less)
“In this era of information overwhelm, staying open to new solutions to problems at home and work is no longer the issue. The key to adult growth and...more“In this era of information overwhelm, staying open to new solutions to problems at home and work is no longer the issue. The key to adult growth and development is upgrading our capacity for coping with and capitalizing on a flow that is only going to become more frenzied and pervasive as technology advances. We can’t prevent the flow from gaining ground and force, but we can restructure and refine our existing strengths to better navigate and benefit from the onslaught. By establishing new strategies for success, strategies that draw out and fortify inner resources to calm the storm, we responsible adults can learn how to be in control, competent, confident, and complete–no matter how persuasive and persistent those professional and personal improvement appeals and antidotes become.” From Life Your Way.
In a genre that alternates between extremes of pseudo-mystical new-age fluff and inaccessible exercises in psychology that should come with a warning label, Amy Wood, an experienced psychologist and life coach in her own right has found the ground where reality meets expectations.
Wood knows from her own practice what works and what doesn’t when it comes to personal development. She understands intimately what people can handle and more important, what they’re willing to do. Using specific examples, she cuts to the heart of the matter and leads the reader through a logical sequence of steps that will make your journey to change manageable and satisfying. In each chapter she provides actionable steps to help you “Apply the Wisdom” that will help you get the results you’re looking for.
Whenever I’m doing a presentation and often in my writing I share this idea:
“Perfection is not a destination; it’s a never ending process…Enjoy!”
Amy Wood has given us a powerful manual for this process and a wonderful guide for making meaningful life changes.(less)
Bill Corbett straps on his parenting Black Belt in this no-nonsense approach to raising “Cooperative Kids!”
Parents are still the most important influe...moreBill Corbett straps on his parenting Black Belt in this no-nonsense approach to raising “Cooperative Kids!”
Parents are still the most important influences in any child’s development, and Corbett’s “Love, Limits, Lessons: A Parent’s Guide to Raising Cooperative Kids” offers sound advice for parents based on discipline, involvement and compassionate strength. The author confronts the contemporary social climate head-on and offers solutions that work today based on values that have worked across generations.
Corbett’s entire book resonates with the concepts of Black Belt Mindset, especially the concepts of discipline and gratitude which the author blends masterfully:
“It’s definitely a different world than the one we experienced as children. We work harder to day to create comfortable lives for our families and it’s hard to accept that our children don’t seem to appreciate what they have and what we do. In so many ways it’s become a world of instant gratification with just about everything available 24/7 for our convenience. But it’s up to us to teach our children gratitude through the example we set and the discipline we use at home.
“Some parents think that discipline simply involves actions you take when your children misbehave and act out. It’s not! As a variation of the word ‘disciple,’ which means to teach or train, discipline means ‘the training expected to produce a specific character or pattern of behavior, especially training that produces moral or mental improvement,’ and it’s an opportunity we have ever time we are with our children…”
If we want children to become productive, responsible and happy adults we must be disciplined in training them to be so and we must discipline ourselves to lead by example. It’s often said that children are the future; if so, the training and guidance you give your children shapes that future.
I am always optimistic about our future. I see remarkable parents and amazing children every day. “Love, Limits, Lessons” will help shape that future by helping struggling parents overcome challenges, by helping good parents become better and by helping those considering parenthood prepare for the adventure!
I’ve been blessed in my life to meet several people who, in just a short time, left an indelible mark on my life. In my role as web-TV host for Flying...moreI’ve been blessed in my life to meet several people who, in just a short time, left an indelible mark on my life. In my role as web-TV host for FlyingNorthAmerica.com I had the privilege of meeting someone who changed the way women are treated in America forever. This woman is Captain Julie Clark, and her book is: “Nothing Stood in Her Way” written with Ann Lewis Cooper.
Julie is an aerobatic pilot. An aerobatic pilot is an artist that paints in the sky by sharing with us the grace and power of man and machine in flight. Or in Julie’s case, woman and machine in flight! This is an important distinction because when Julie started the typical aviation career for a woman was stewardess, not pilot.
“Nothing Stood in Her Way” is more than the story of a female pilot; it’s the story of a life filled with challenges and adversity overcome with enthusiasm, grace and charm. Julie was still in high school when in the span of a few short months her mother died and her father was murdered by a deranged gunman while at the controls of his Pacific Air Lines plane in the most widely publicized aviation disaster of the 1960’s.
That would have been enough to stop most any rational human being. Despite numerous other challenges, family separation and personal loss, Julie forged ahead and crafted a life full of adventure and success. Her father’s legacy was a love of flying that would eventually shape Julie’s destiny.
Like many other women of the emerging “Jet Set” age, Julie started her aviation career as one of the legendary Air Hostesses flying for TWA. Having met Julie, I cannot imagine her being satisfied as a glorified waitress, even a high-flying one. No, Julie belonged at the controls. She would overcome numerous other obstacles and set-backs and break through the boy’s club of commercial aviation to become an airline pilot and America’s first female Captain at a major airline.
As much as I’m tempted to trumpet the rest of the story, I don’t want to spoil the adventure for you! Read “Nothing Stood in Her Way” and you’ll meet one of the most remarkable and inspirational women of our time. Julie will take you on her journey from the constraints of the ground to the limitless freedom of flight and through her ascent as she pierced the “glass ceiling” in life as well as in the air.
Julie is one of those rare leaders that through undaunted courage and perseverance change the world in which she lives for the better. Woman or man, you will be changed by Julie’s example of she lives life on her own terms while still exemplifying the best of all feminine qualities of grace, charm and genuine compassion.
As a person, Julie is a remarkable combination of fire and water. She can swear like a pirate (or a pilot!) or go toe to toe with a man twice her size one moment, and then in the next welcome you into her most tender self with a warm hug and an infectious laugh. Her energy and her spirit is well captured in this book which should be required reading for all modern women and for anyone who faces what might seem to be insurmountable challenges.
I personally hope to get to know Julie much better over the next few years. I am grateful for such a quick and genuine friendship; in just a few short days Julie has become a major inspiration in my life. Not ironically her aerobatic plane Julie still flies at age 63 is a type called a “Mentor.” Read this book and Julie will become your inspiration and mentor too!
In researching for one of my upcoming projects: Full Contact Ethics, I became fascinated with the story of Jonathan Edwards. The Politician by Andrew...moreIn researching for one of my upcoming projects: Full Contact Ethics, I became fascinated with the story of Jonathan Edwards. The Politician by Andrew Young chronicles his misadventures with power, ego and deception. This book is a fascinating look at political and material power from an ethical perspective, but also serves as a cold slap in the face of our culture of success at all costs and our obsession with power, fame and wealth.
If this story were not so well documented, you might think this is a John Grisham thriller rather than a first-hand account written by a man who, blinded by ambition and ideological loyalty, found himself a pawn in the high-stakes game of national politics.
Although it reads like a novel, The Politician is unfortunately not a work of fiction. It’s a terrifying look inside the corruption of the American political system and the amorality of American high-society. Unlike a classic novel, there is no hero. At various times I was pissed off at every single reprehensible character in this rogue’s gallery:
John Edwards: The blindly ambitious megalomaniac Andrew Young: The greedy and ambitious sycophant Elizabeth Young: The schizophrenic, blindly ambitious accomplice Reille Hunter: The parasitic, love-starved groupie These are the people who are destroying whatever sense of decency, honesty and propriety we have left in our culture -- and they damn near attained the ultimate position of power in the free world.
The entire sordid story is disgusting – and I couldn’t put it down! I wanted to know why these people did what they did and how anyone could possibly reach the lowest levels of hypocrisy, cheating, lying and outright criminal deception. As compelling as this story is; there are no real answers. It’s difficult at times not to feel some sympathy for Andrew Young and his family, but that in itself is a horrifying realization!
Young knew what he was doing was wrong. I’d challenge you to read the book as an ethical exercise and to decide where, if at all, you would have chosen a different path than Young’s. It seems to me that this book might never have been written had Edwards and his minions been able to keep the story of his affair with Rielle Hunter under wraps. If Edwards had become president or vice-president, and that would not have been an unlikely possibility, Andrew Young may have continued to rationalize his role and may have justified his means through the ends.
Ultimately, this is not the story of an affair gone bad. Had any of these people had the moral courage to step up and end the charade, this might have been an uplifting tale. Had Edwards simply accepted responsibility for his actions he may have even gained esteem, garnered sympathy and may well have survived his indiscretions to eventually gain the White House.
This is a fascinating if terrifying look at American culture and society. Did our cult of personality create the perfect conditions that spawned this level of arrogance? Are we so morally bankrupt that we can empathize with anyone in this tragedy?
I cannot guarantee you’ll like The Politician and part of me resents that anyone is able to profit from this misadventure, but in the end I’m very glad I read it and if you care about American society and the future of our country, you’ll be glad you read it too.(less)