4 star rating for this book means it is really helpful for the family of a newly diagnosed dementia/AD patient. If you need a list of practical consid...more4 star rating for this book means it is really helpful for the family of a newly diagnosed dementia/AD patient. If you need a list of practical considerations (a checklist of sorts) and a summary of the issues, this book is it.
I wish there was more information about WHEN to do some of these things, instead of the general recommendation to do them right away. I feel like we need more information about the stages of AD in regards to safety concerns and "when" a loved one needs more help. No one wants to act too soon.
"Part 1: Decisions" was the most helpful in my opinion. I am a planner for my own life, so these practical considerations make sense to me. So many ideas that wouldn't have occurred to me otherwise.
I read this book after my husband read it, for information only, to support him as he goes this with his mother. On a practical level this book is helpful. On an emotional level, this book is devastating since this is hard to accept. This disease is so different from cancer or other illness. With cancer, being proactive and involved is considered helpful by the patient. With AD your help is resented. I'm afraid the author of this book (who is also the director of the Alzheimer's Research Foundation) is correct when he/she says this is more of a seige than a battle.
Hopefully better understanding of this disease among family members, with the help of this book, will help preserve family relationships. It is important to understand that the reactions and emotions run from anger, denial, fear, depression and finally, acceptance.
Another fear with AD is heredity. According to this book, "It has been shown that of AD patients who develop the disease at age 40, nearly half of their siblings will develop it also. Of AD patients who develop the disease after age 60, only 20 percent of their siblings will be affected. Likewise, a certain protein has been found on chromosome pair 21 (the same chromosome that carries down syndrom) in Alzheimer's patients, yet not everyone carrying this protein develops the disease." It appears there are many factors in who will develop AD. I am going to put aside my concerns for my husband, children and other family members. It is too overwhelming to worry about this.
The author asks families to write letters and consider being part of the research for this disease. At the printing of this book in 1992 (this book is seriously out of date) more research dollars were going toward AIDS than AD ($7500 per patient vs. $100 per patient).
I will look for more updated information later.(less)
I love this book. I'm amazed at the statistics. When people say "things have changed," the only things that have changed is the media coverage, our pe...moreI love this book. I'm amazed at the statistics. When people say "things have changed," the only things that have changed is the media coverage, our perception of danger, and the recommendations of so-called experts. This is one of the best "parenting" books I've read. I love how she picks on my favorite pregnancy book "What to Expect..." I took the making "every bite count" with a grain of salt, but it's true, most parenting books encourage you to be a perfect, helicopter parent and it starts at conception. I love her sarcastic writing style that made me laugh and yet she wrote some zingers that made me think. I love her common sense approach for a society gone crazy with soul smothering safety.(less)
This is a great example of a Living Book about a family who moves to the Galapagos Island of Floreana in 1932. The story is about the family, how they...moreThis is a great example of a Living Book about a family who moves to the Galapagos Island of Floreana in 1932. The story is about the family, how they survived, and the interesting people who tried to live on the island or sailed in to see them. Nothing about Darwin but you get a sense of the flora and fauna on the island. (less)
I loved this book. I like the author's witty and humorous writing style. Instead of just reading an entertaining story like watching a movie, this boo...moreI loved this book. I like the author's witty and humorous writing style. Instead of just reading an entertaining story like watching a movie, this book had some surprising insights to ponder. Of course, you can just keep reading and still enjoy. I want to re-read "Love Walked In" after reading this book, and will likely re-read this one too. (less)
I read this book on an airplane in 3 hours. I would give this more stars if I were reviewing it for my kids (4 or 5 stars) but I've decided to let my...moreI read this book on an airplane in 3 hours. I would give this more stars if I were reviewing it for my kids (4 or 5 stars) but I've decided to let my kids help me rate their books (or I will assign a rating based on their enthusiasm for a book). I did not read this book to my kids yet, since they are too young. This is a good book for young adult readers. I didn't realize it was YA fiction when I bought it at the airport so I was hoping for one of Grisham's legal thrillers. This book does not have the depth and details of his other books, which makes it appropriate for younger readers.
I found most of the plot to be believable. However, I have a hard time believing that adults would seek Theo for legal advice (only one did at the end), but I can see his friends at school asking him the questions they did. Also, I found the direct involvement of a 13 yo boy in a conversations with a judge and witness to be too far fetched.
This said, I much perfer this book to other kid detective books like Hardy Boys, Nancy Drew, etc. I will save this book for my kids to read one day. A big part of the story is about a government class going to the opening day of a murder trial and following the trial. There is quite a bit of information about law and courts, I think this book is educational and could inspire kids to become a lawyer. (less)