For the price tag, I'd say this is a decent intro to learning about HSPs. However, I found it lacking for what *I* was looking for.
While the author iFor the price tag, I'd say this is a decent intro to learning about HSPs. However, I found it lacking for what *I* was looking for.
While the author included many references, I felt this book focused on basic coping strategies and affirmations. The suggestions were helpful to a degree, but some seemed so obvious as to make me wonder why my time was wasted with such filler.
Speaking of, the affirmations were seemingly a large and repetitive part of the book. I wanted to jump ahead on multiple occasions. For me, knowledge and then experience built from that knowledge builds my confidence as opposed to just telling myself positive remarks.
The author talked about how HSPs have been given a gift in these traits, but she didn't really elaborate. A list of adjectives is not helpful to me, especially when so much time was spent on coping strategies and suggestions, as well as, the need to spread the word that HSPs are normal. I wanted to read about how HSP traits are a gift. If nothing else, through examples. I was hoping for ways to hone my gift.
I wanted ways to celebrate this, rather than spending so much time and focus on defending it and convincing everyone, including HSPs ourselves, that we're normal. It wasn't until the last few paragraphs, when I finally felt the author flipped the script in that subtle distinction.
I felt the content wasn't well balanced, but gathering from the author's experiences, I can see why she focused on the topics she did.
I guess what I'm getting at is, while not a bad book, it wasn't exactly what I was looking for. Sadly, it left me looking for more and not more from her....more
I have to say that I was pleasantly surprised when I learned the direction Driver took. This book is not a witch hunt for liars, which I hate to admitI have to say that I was pleasantly surprised when I learned the direction Driver took. This book is not a witch hunt for liars, which I hate to admit, is a large percentage of why I picked the book up. But I discovered something better when Driver explained that to uncover the liars in our lives, we need to seek out truth.
Janine not only takes you on a journey of self-reflection and growth, but she teaches you accessible techniques for reading body language, vocal cues, statement analysis, and more. She's labeled or itemized every aspect with easy to remember names, making them easier to study and remember.
I really feel that what the reader gets out of this book is highly dependent on how much he/she is willing to put in. The more I label something I've witnessed and say "why" I've labeled it as such, the stronger my BS Barometer is becoming.
It may seem like make work or what have you to do some of the exercises, but having put in the work, I'm telling you it's anything but. Treat this like a textbook, and you'll be very pleased with the results.
An invaluable read that I will continue to keep handy for a time, as I continue to improve my BS Barometer.
Driver has a new fan, of her knowledge, & packaging for sharing that knowledge. ...more
This book was a revelatory read. Eye opening and life changing.
I REALLY wish Alice Miller was still alive, because I would've loved to have gotten toThis book was a revelatory read. Eye opening and life changing.
I REALLY wish Alice Miller was still alive, because I would've loved to have gotten to know her. She seemed like a fascinating person!!
This book sheds light in corners I've never heard talked about. Corners that needed exposing long since. I wish I could give this book to everyone I know without anyone taking offense, and actually have them glean from it what I have. Discussion is the spark to an idea catching like wildfire.
This book is just chock full of valuable and insightful information. It's more about identifying the problem, the source, the cause, etc. If you are looking for the next step, how to address the issue/problem, look into a few of her other books. ...more
This book was rather impressive. I don't know exactly WHAT I was expecting, but it exceeded my undefined expectations.
The author backs up his experieThis book was rather impressive. I don't know exactly WHAT I was expecting, but it exceeded my undefined expectations.
The author backs up his experience and claims evidenced by this book, so not one word or paragraph was wasted. It was concise, to the point, and presented in a visually & logically appealing fashion to keep the reader engaged, especially if you work in an environment that hinders your attention span. I appreciated that the visual learner in me was tapped into, not just with graphics but through stories, as well.
McCormack explained why it's necessary to be brief, how it will benefit you and those you work with, and the difference between being brief but clear and brief but not communicating adequately. He covered the topic very thoroughly. This is definitely a book I will recommend.
I find it sad that we've come to this place as a society where this is how we function, but if you don't adapt you'll only drown or be washed away. I'd rather adapt than sit in a hovel, growing old, and complaining about the state of the world.
First, this was excellent! Gladwell not only makes his case but he is also careful to warn the reader not to completely dismiss further thought an4.5*
First, this was excellent! Gladwell not only makes his case but he is also careful to warn the reader not to completely dismiss further thought and analysis. He really writes a well rounded approach to this topic. (It was quite refreshing after my last read!)
Early on, Gladwell basically implies that he will tell you how to improve your ability to make snap judgments, or to Blink. That's a rather rough summation.
For the longest time, I kept waiting for the magical explanation, the how to, if you will. The pages were slipping by, chapters running out, and I was frustratingly no closer to the answer I sought. But then as I was reading the afterword, it's like the clouds parted and the sun shone down. LOL It just suddenly hit me. The entire time I've been reading this book I've been working toward my own answer!
Every story he shared or example he mentioned, those people have all developed their own answers. It's a matter of what YOU want to be better at Blinking! The professor who studied the marital relationships developed his own method for doing so, which enabled him to inevitably improve his Blinking ability. The professional food tasters have their own methods. There isn't ONE magic answer that's one-size-fits-all. It's personal. It's what YOU want to be better at Blinking.
So, don't go into this book expecting Gladwell to hand you THE answer. That's not what Blink is about. This book is about opening your eyes, my eyes, our eyes to understanding.
It wasn't until Anne Katherine brought her personal faith into the book, that I felt she lost some of her objectivity. It became a mini-sermon talking from a perspective of faith completely missing how God violates our boundaries.
She claims God gave us free will & he never forces us to do as he wants us to but he kinda does. If you don't follow his ways, if you don't totally commit your life to him, if you don't repent of any wrong doing, if you continue to blatantly oppose him, in the end you're going to hell. That sounds more like manipulation & a violation of my boundaries.
As an example, she presented this quote: "My religion is the only true religion." Then she said "the Lord's boundary is being violated." I don't entirely follow. Practically every faith believes it is the one true religion due to their doctrine or holy book. Unless she believes that God can be approached from any religion. In any case, IMO if someone said that statement to me & I don't hold the same belief system, then they are violating my boundary.
Later, when she talked about parents either violating boundaries by intruding/enmeshing or by distance/neglect with their children, she talked about what parents need to do for their children so they don't have certain issues as adults. But she said nothing about being one of those grown children & how to deal with healing, setting boundaries, etc.
Anne Katherine covers a wide breadth of boundary violations. I'm just left with more questions & wanting more info. Maybe that means she's done her job; I've had a healthy introduction now it's time to dig deeper....more
Read Oct 2011: This book has rocked my world. I'm looking forward to reading another book by this author regarding building & maintaining boundariRead Oct 2011: This book has rocked my world. I'm looking forward to reading another book by this author regarding building & maintaining boundaries.
This book focuses on the root(s) of boundary problems. Only the last chapter or so discusses how to address these issues. But what an eye opener!!
I truly wish I had stumbled onto this book years & years ago....more
A friend lent me this book, after we saw the movie, together.
Initially, I didn't expect to get much out of it. I mean, I'm recently divorced after 10A friend lent me this book, after we saw the movie, together.
Initially, I didn't expect to get much out of it. I mean, I'm recently divorced after 10+ years of marriage, and I'm not looking to get into another relationship, just yet. So, the lessons inside wouldn't really apply. How mistaken was I.
The examples posed and the answers given shed an awful lot on my marriage. No wonder I felt unloved! He just wasn't that into me!
It's freeing in a way. There was never anything I could've done to change things....more