I thought this was cheesy, annoying, and overdone even BEFORE she made some ridiculous crack about millenials being entitled, which is such a trite thI thought this was cheesy, annoying, and overdone even BEFORE she made some ridiculous crack about millenials being entitled, which is such a trite thing to say that ignores all social, political, and financial nuance that I am not even going to get into it. I enjoyed her story about Selena Gomez and the importance of authenticity ... but of course she wasn't going to bring attention to all the ways Selena Gomez is highly problematic including her bullshit Indian/"Tribal" cultural association bullshit that pissed the Desi community off a while back. Oh, and the picture of her with Scooter Braun elicited a similar reaction - he's the idiot that basically excuses everything Justin Bieber does, no matter how heinous, but of course he's a "nice guy" and they had such an "authentic interaction" and blah blah blah.
Unnuanced. Annoying. Cloying and desperate. I eye-rolled my way through this whole mess. I gave it a star because the pictures are pretty. Honestly, read the name of each chapter, maybe the occasional pull quote, and you'll get the whole message of the book. This is not rocket science; the vast majority of the text reads like filler. I'm disgusted with myself for wasting my time on this.
Great book, so informative, and actually very engagingly written (which I wasn't expecting). However the author sounds like a total grump. I would notGreat book, so informative, and actually very engagingly written (which I wasn't expecting). However the author sounds like a total grump. I would not want to hang out with him unless he was a few beers in, in which case I think he'd be a blast and we'd get along very well.
Totally recommend this book, especially if you're fascinated by how our brains work, random social phenomenons, and if you're just plain interested in how, why, and the myriad of ways we humans are total fucking morons. ...more
Terrifying concept. TBH I didn't think it was very well written, and it wasn't engagingly written. I've read books about horrible, dark, compelling thTerrifying concept. TBH I didn't think it was very well written, and it wasn't engagingly written. I've read books about horrible, dark, compelling things, and they've still been written engagingly. This, not so much. But I read it for a book club so it wasn't like I was going to just stop in the middle or the beginning. And there were times, to be fair, when I was on the edge of my seat like oh shit what's going to happen. But all in all, I was way underwhelmed by the writing. THe concept was straight terrifying though. ...more
I have no memory of buying this book, downloading it, or loading it into my VoiceDream app to automatically make it an audiobook. But I was in the mooI have no memory of buying this book, downloading it, or loading it into my VoiceDream app to automatically make it an audiobook. But I was in the mood to listen to an audiobook one day and opened up the app. I saw this book and clicked on it out of curiosity. I'm glad I listened.
It is a deeply honest book, one that made me have to think about things in my life that I frankly did not want to think about. I recommend it, and I am sure I will come back to it at different points in my life, to refresh the lessons. The big one I am taking away from it, and which I'm putting into practice, is being true to my thoughts and feelings, and expressing them. I have never been an emotionally brave person; I am trying now.
There were many, many lines and paragraphs that stood out to me and made me reflect, but I had copied one in particular into the Notes app of my phone:
"Addictions are safe little deadly hiding places where sensitive people retreat from love and pain. No one can touch us there, so we feel protected. But since love and pain are the only things that grow us, we start dying as soon as we hide."
Ain't that the truth.
(Also I'm just going to be honest I find it hard to believe that in a few months - a year?? I think? - her husband went from the guy who left her on the couch after they aborted their child to go to a party, and then was like omg I love you and the kid (they got pregnant again a few months later and hse kept it) more than anything please marry me. Like .... ok?? Not buying it?? But hey what do I know; they lived it and if she writes it then I'll take her word for it. Just seems like an awful intense turnaround in a short period of time. Just saying.)...more