Why, yes, we should all be feminists. We should reclaim the word. We should work to denounce the negative stigma attached to the word.
This is an effeWhy, yes, we should all be feminists. We should reclaim the word. We should work to denounce the negative stigma attached to the word.
This is an effective essay. It's short and easily digestible. And it has some great nuggets of wisdom, such as this one: The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognizing how we are. Imagine how much happier we would be, how much freer to be our true individual selves, if we didn’t have the weight of gender expectations.
I think I'd be more moved, however, if I had listened to this talk rather than reading the essay. Or maybe if I listened first and read second. But, alas, I fangirl. And, even despite recent backlash against Adichie for comments toward the Trans community, I'm still a fan....more
Perhaps my expectations for this book were set too high. It was suggested by a student, so I figured it must have something going for it. But, it realPerhaps my expectations for this book were set too high. It was suggested by a student, so I figured it must have something going for it. But, it really fell flat to me. I suppose it's possible that it isn't the books fault. I am still riding the wave of Forgive me, Leonard Peacock, so maybe I just am not as receptive to connecting with a book or characters right now. However, I think that's probably not being realistic.
I expected to be devastated by this book. I hoped for it actually, because the subject matter is devastating. But, instead, I turned page after page with apathy. How does one muster apathy for a book about a school shooting? Particularly when we are talking about someone like me who cries at commercials and text messages. Believe me, I wanted to connect with and care for these characters. I wanted to invest myself in their stories. To feel the loss as the characters close to them were torn painstakingly away. It just wasn't there though. The writer spent too much time trying to build suspense and keep the plot moving forward that the depth of the characters ended up being neglected. And this is a subject that really requires depth. It isn't enough to just tell a tale of tragedy. It needs to be done justice in a way this book doesn't deliver on....more
Well, that was unexpected. I didn't intend to finish this book in a day. But the book did a good job of pulling me in and making me invested even afteWell, that was unexpected. I didn't intend to finish this book in a day. But the book did a good job of pulling me in and making me invested even after I knew whether or not it would leave me devastated.
I fully expected this book to mess with my mind, but definitely not in the ways that it actually did. I thought, book about suicidal-homicidal teen. It's going to be depressing, hit me in the feels. But I'd escape the reading otherwise unscathed emotionally. The problem with that expectation, however, was that I saw myself in the adults that Leonard tried to connect with. And at the same time I was forced to remember what it was like being that teenager, trying to just get someone to notice. Making deals in my head. This book just forced me to question my own roles in society and what I choose to do with my story. Will I be the principal who can't take 5 minutes to look up at the clouds with a student or will I be a Herr Silverman who gives the gift of a carefully timed mystery? I don't want to miss the connections people are trying daily to make. And not just kids.
Leonard goes into the world and watches stupefied adult zombies March from point a to point b in life, finding no joy or connection. They cram into small spaces and don't even acknowledge each other's existence. I think most adults become good at hiding that raw, longing for connection, but are we all still making deals in our heads? No, not the kind of deals that Leonard made. It isn't life or death, usually. But, deals like if she hears my ideas and doesn't think they're stupid then I will not call myself an idiot today. Or, if he sees past my "I'm fine" then I'll tell him the truth. The problem is that we get so caught up in our own lives. We become more like the manic, sunglasses lady. Paranoid and distrustful. Not open to the telepathic messages of connection people may be sending (intentionally or unintentionally). I don't want to live that way. This book made me see that.
I don't have all praise for the book though. The ending felt like a cop-out. I was annoyed by the lack of closure...and usually I like that sort of thing. It's just the way it's done in this case makes me feel cheated....more
I'm a little bit angry with this book right now. Don't get me wrong. That doesn't mean I disliked it, obviously, I did (4 stars), but it made a few yeaI'm a little bit angry with this book right now. Don't get me wrong. That doesn't mean I disliked it, obviously, I did (4 stars), but it made a few years trickle down my face. In all fairness, I actually appreciate that depth of emotion...much more than I appreciate the cliche love story. I am so anti-love story. Also, I really wish the ending had been messier. Leave some questions unanswered. Give me more to ponder. Aside from those gripes it was great. It made me really think about my own burdens and encouraged me to get my kids (students) thinking about theirs (and thinking about their willingness to take on the burdens of other people)....more
As a general rule I do not like love stories. I particularly do not like YA love stories. They are so...idealistic. But, I am also the type to fangirlAs a general rule I do not like love stories. I particularly do not like YA love stories. They are so...idealistic. But, I am also the type to fangirl. So, after I read All the Bright Places and was thoroughly moved I decided I'd give this one a go...even though I am so anti-love story. I am nothing if not loyal.
This story did have a lot going for it...first, the fat girl doesn't have to lose weight to be loved, which almost never happens in the books I've read. It's always, I still love myself but also I've gotta get fit. And then the boy falls for the girl. Or the girl falls for the girl. Anyway, that's shit. This didn't do that and for that I appreciate the book.
On the note of prosopagnosia, I actually didn't feel like it added much to the overall story and character development. I mean, I know it was a major plot point, but it wasn't a good one. I found Libby's struggle with anxiety far more real and less gimmicky.
Speaking of being gimmicky, this book was...but did I hate it for that? Nah. I actually liked it a fair amount. I particularly like the idea that we should all have a coming out. No, the book doesn't explicitly say that, but it's implied. I know it was liberating when I came out as who I really am...even if I was kind of forced out. But why shouldn't everyone get to have a coming out? We are all hiding something. There are parts of us that we think no one will accept. Why can't we come out as our real, true selves? I don't know, maybe we do this on a small scale with every new person we trust. But why isn't it bigger?
I also like the overall message of "you are wanted." But I don't necessarily like that wantedness hinges upon the boy wanting the girl. And this is why I have a problem with love stories. I want to see a story of someone falling in love with himself or herself. I know on some scale Libby is doing that, as she comes out and dances and embraces her role in society. But it was still outshadowed by the love of the boy....more
I wish that I could jump on the 4/5 stars bandwagon, but I can't. I think the general premise is great, the ideas are genuinely useful! However, whatI wish that I could jump on the 4/5 stars bandwagon, but I can't. I think the general premise is great, the ideas are genuinely useful! However, what was said in about 130 pages, probably could have been condensed to about 40 really solid pages. This was the same problem I found with the Secret. I'm just not someone who responds well to being given the same information over and over in different ways. Tell me once and expand, that's great. ...more
This was recommended to me by a former student and I always like to read the books that stick with them, so I picked this one up. I have to say, I hopThis was recommended to me by a former student and I always like to read the books that stick with them, so I picked this one up. I have to say, I hope this book doesn't serve as a model of good writing, because it's just a mess of redundant little snippets. The message of this book could have been achieved in 2 pages, max. But, instead, it is drawn out to 200+ pages.
That said, the message (or "The Secret" as it is called) is a good one: your mind creates your reality. Your thoughts attract everything that comes to you, so basically if I think "I will never be loved" Then I will never attract love. If, however, I think "I want love and I will be loved" Then I will attract love. I can see how this is true, but I hardly think it's a secret. And to present the message through the guise of science is somewhat insulting to science. I am absolutely a fan of the marriage between philosophy and science, when done well; this, unfortunately did not do so in an effective way....more
I didn't want to like this book as much as a did, because it is bright and shiny toward the end. I don't know that depression can ever co-exist with hI didn't want to like this book as much as a did, because it is bright and shiny toward the end. I don't know that depression can ever co-exist with hope and I don't think it will ever give up its home in your head to be replaced by something more shiny. But, alas, it does in this book. And yet, the book still broke me....more