I downloaded this on audible.com to listen to on my increasing long distance travels.
Wow, I mean really wow!
Listening to Bruce tell his story in hisI downloaded this on audible.com to listen to on my increasing long distance travels.
Wow, I mean really wow!
Listening to Bruce tell his story in his words, with his cadence, in his time, reading from the book that took him seven years to write was an absolute pleasure, it blew me away. This book and life is a triumph of self, therapy, insight, goal setting, sheer grit and a whole load of determination. Bruce Springsteen is all that and more. Frankly I am in awe.
It begins with his childhood and chronologically takes us all the way to 2014. We hear about his past, the gene pool that shapes him, factors that influence his belief systems, what socioeconomic and political back drops that impact various choices and decisions. This interwoven with along with the poor mental health surrounding his various family members. Powerful stuff and all in his authentic voice.
I have seen him live in concert once, had his music as a back drop to my life and recently been told in-depth about his benevolence by a friend who is a "Brucer" this means a real fan........Sto be honest one of his most regarded fellow musicians was more my style. I am a huge fan and a member of the generation that reacted strongly to the British punk sound. Joe Strummer is my man and it was refreshing to hear Bruce hold in him such high regard. I am also a friend of he had filled me in on ...more
This is an important book - it reads like a good old chick lit, yet is in fact the real life experience of Bryony Gordon's OCD. There is lots of boozeThis is an important book - it reads like a good old chick lit, yet is in fact the real life experience of Bryony Gordon's OCD. There is lots of booze, sex and drugs but the critical thing here is it demonstrates why these distractions become problematic for people. They are always a symptom of something underlying and Bryony takes us on a journey that explains how and why she got where she was at her worst and best, and what is required to end the debilitating cycle. In essence healing occurs when a sense of self value is obtained. This is of course so very difficult to achieve when you have nothing but deep self loathing that began due to distracting yourself from your debilitating mental illness.
In this easy read she beautifully dispels the myth that mental health is only to found in certain demographics. She also shows how when attempting to function by hiding the dysfunction becomes a greater stress. Choosing honesty was her salvation and this is not an easy choice in the world we currently reside.
Our mental health care and understanding has been poorly understood by the masses for a good many decades. It is not a separate entity to physical health nor is something to be taken for granted. Mental and physical health are inextricably linked and modern times appear to be exacerbating our belief that acknowledging the psychological side of our health is a sign of weakness. It is not a sign of weakness, self-care and gaining insight and awareness into why we distract allows healing and will ultimately improve relationships and society as a whole.
Therefore I have nothing but respect for someone who has the writing skill to make a nightmare funny and entertaining and ultimately helpful. One size does not fit all, drugs, therapy and professional help are a must. The best bit is at the end when she discusses the real help she received from a loving family and good psychologist, sadly the trauma and time taken to get there is all too familiar to me. The stigma, bias and prejudice shown to both mental illness and obesity are where I spend my days working, stories like these really really help.
A big thumbs up to this brave and courageous woman for speaking up intelligently with whit and an accessible self effacing style that will be of benefit to any young or old anxious, OCD, depressed, eating disordered, drug taking, alcoholic and sex abuser sufferer. You are not alone and seeking appropriate help and support totally useful....more
This is another of those books I wouldn't have chosen to read voluntarily. Mainly because the blurb on the back would have put me off. That said I canThis is another of those books I wouldn't have chosen to read voluntarily. Mainly because the blurb on the back would have put me off. That said I can see how the story and book lend themselves to excellent underpinnings of a movie. I had not known of either the book or movie prior to reading but watching the movie trailer makes think it is looks rather good . Especially as watching it in French with sub titles is a sure fire way for me to feel more and take notice of the subtle nuances.
I was also unaware of the French compliance to the deporting of Jews. Perhaps due to reading so many French resistance stories I had developed a slightly skewed view of such things. This for me is really where the strength of the book lay. The inter-generational ignorance and reactions upon knowing what had happened prior. It was nice to see that whole take on lest we forget, because clearly we have. This was well demonstrated in the story telling from Julia's perspective but also watching current bias and prejudice coming out today in response to Trumps Presidency.
The book its self felt like it was not one thing or the other. The Julia story was light romance kind of stuff and the Sarah part felt a little too contrived and tidy. The two together gave it, " a this is a serious topic but I don't want offend" kind of vibe, so here's a nice modern day twist to keep it all together. Meh less of the pap would have been good. I did enjoy the interplay of the family dynamics, particularly the undercurrent of being an American in France.
Yesterday was an awful rainy day and I managed to devour it in one sitting. My over all impression was rather like my tortoise shell cat it wasn't really sure what it was, a fictional novel or a hard hitting piece designed to be thought provoking. Despite its confusion I took both from it and enjoyed my day reading....more
After developing a crush on all that is Patrick Gale, this was a little disappointing. It felt like it meandered nowhere. I have previously feMeh.....
After developing a crush on all that is Patrick Gale, this was a little disappointing. It felt like it meandered nowhere. I have previously felt fierce love and loyalty to his characters, these less so. They were not vibrant living forces more sad aimless, colourless shadows.
Lovers stop becoming lovers for reasons and the recreation of a previous tryst seemed doomed from the start and just felt tired and drawn out.
That said if this is the worst he puts out - it is better than many.
Amanda explained very gently that I have essentially been in a money coma for most of my adult life. However it's never too late to wakOMG - so good.
Amanda explained very gently that I have essentially been in a money coma for most of my adult life. However it's never too late to wake up unpack your own money story, develop understanding and awareness of money.
This may well be my get out jail free card. I have attempted a number of money books but certain words and phrases have had me looking for the nearest bit of sand to dive my ostrich head in. Not this one she explains things in a way that for the first time ever I feel I have some tangible frameworks to become the saver I need to be.
My issue was that there is no way on this green earth this situation could have arisen. Professional boundaries are veryMixed feelings about this one.
My issue was that there is no way on this green earth this situation could have arisen. Professional boundaries are very important and exist for exactly this kind of scenario. Professional codes of conduct provide safety for all involved. This story line crossed so many boundaries Myra would in fact no longer have her license to practice well before Chip arrived on the scene.
It does however highlight the research findings that as many as 65% of health professionals do the job they do to gain self worth. Creating dysfunctional therapeutic relationships, however as one ages and develops insight into the sabotaging narrative bought to the job this statistic changes.
Hence once I decided to actively remove the real world I could enjoy this for what it was - a story. But definitely not Bergs best work. It scrapes into three star territory just and mainly due to the suspense created towards the end and several stunning one liners that took my breath away for their beauty and simplicity....more
This is an important book and one beautifully written with so much intersecting at all the right places. One I would encourage others to read. I feelThis is an important book and one beautifully written with so much intersecting at all the right places. One I would encourage others to read. I feel bad rating this as three star, many before have given it far loftier ratings and it fully deserves these. I suspect my life long relationship with surgeons and holding the space for their patients in their wake gives me my slightly jaded and cynical edge, hence my rating. Paul was at the crucial juncture of just about reaching his potential and finishing one phase and moving into the next. I have witnessed some truly gifted and benevolent surgeons begin here and end up as something entirely different. Paul like the soldiers in the ode of remembrance will forever be young, gifted and optimistic.
They shall grow not old, as we that are left grow old: Age shall not weary them, nor the years condemn. At the going down of the sun and in the morning, We will remember them
What I enjoyed the most was the beautiful touching forward by a peer who knew him peripherally and his wife's incredibly honest and touching epilogue. These filled the author out for me and gave such an accomplished man a vulnerable side. His honesty around the grueling life of a resident Doctor should be a warning to the keepers of such traditions as the level of stress and hierarchical structure may well have contributed to his situation. It most definitely impacted the ability to connect with colleagues both in his time of need and his friend the general surgical resident.
What did resonate deeply was his process in coming to the realization that perfection did not exist. It seems just too sad that it took the understanding that he was dying to come to it. Had I read this a couple of years ago I too would probably have been wowed. However over the last four or so years I have been doing a lot of work and study around many of the similar themes Paul was discussing and for this reason it didn't have the gravitas for me. I do appreciate that for those coming to this from a non medical background it is hugely compelling and will be of enormous value. Perhaps as a required text for those considering a career in surgery....more
I started this book with a mix of trepidation and determination. My trepidation coming from its size, subject and it being a Man Booker winner. So whyI started this book with a mix of trepidation and determination. My trepidation coming from its size, subject and it being a Man Booker winner. So why read it? Well as a person born and breed in New Zealand we have some peculiarities, one of these is to be proud of our successes yet also chop those who are successful down.......... we are a little insecure and often have a chip on our shoulder due to being a small nation at the bottom of the world. So before I could comment or know what the fuss was about I felt I had better read the thing. Interestingly The Luminaries comments on this phenomenon and unpacks it a little, which makes me wonder about how much painstaking background work must have gone into creating such a book. I found these aspects of the book charming. In essence it is the retelling of a series of events from 13 different view points culminating in an outcome that was obscured at the beginning. Showing how each of us with our vanities and peculiarities taint our perceptions of any event, past and present.
I have never really been a fan of early settler type literature and I am often bewildered why certain books are considered to be so special. Therefore I finished The Luminaries nicely surprised. In fact I gained knowledge about some of our early history and was able to picture much of what she wrote easily. It felt well researched, a seamless novel of real interest to me. So bravo that's a win win. There were aspects of early NZ that I had simply not considered and much kudos to Ms Catton for pointing them out.
I enjoyed her style and cadence, particularly the way she described the characteristics of each individual. I got a wee bit lost at the end, as it seemed to speed up very rapidly without being crystal clear as to what actually happened to all involved from the slow and steady build up. I think I am sure about how things end but not entirely. I have looked at other reviews to see if I can get confirmation but alas no. However as I read other reviews by those with greater literary understanding than me I realize precisely why prize winning books can be off putting. It is the posing and strutting by those who deem their opinions to be superior, I find the same with certain types of music and as I age I believe this to generally known as snobbery and agree with Ingrid Bergman “Getting old is like climbing a mountain; you get a little out of breath, but the view is much better!” I don't feel the need to know the answers anymore I simply celebrate the journey moment by moment. For me this book was worth the accolades it has received and I am delighted to have both read and finished it. I will persevere and find out if my suspicions re the end are correct and it is for this reason alone that it is a three star read. If I was more certain of the end it would undoubtedly have been a four star....more
I still have a picture of Carrie Fisher giving the middle finger as my face book page profile, from when I heard the news of her death. I like much ofI still have a picture of Carrie Fisher giving the middle finger as my face book page profile, from when I heard the news of her death. I like much of the western world in 1977 was bowled over by Star Wars and yes this left a lasting impact on me. I am a Star Wars geek. In all likelihood I will change my profile picture once I have written this review as it will undoubtedly be my homage to her.
What I wonder is would I have read this book had Carrie not just died? If there there wasn't the opportunity to borrow it from a fellow Star Wars lover who was holidaying with us, would I have gone out of my way to get it and read it? I honestly do not know the answer to that, and probably never will because her death has changed things. I vaguely recall reading Post cards from the edge a long, long time ago and have read nothing else of hers since to compare this one to.
Her death changes how she is viewed, and how this book is viewed. The perspective one has is not that of a living breathing person, but posthumously. She is no longer a fallible human plodding along trying to figure shit out. She is now seen in her entirety, her beginning, her end and the stuff in the middle. The stuff in the middle, is as I write this developing meaning and definition that perhaps was or wasn't intended.
That process began moments after her death was announced, both by myself and the world at large. We know that by her own prophetic words around fame the intensity "will peak and then fade". Regardless of her intent the middle becomes her legacy and her definition. Already her posthumous tag line appears to be that of one of the good guys and I am profoundly affected by good people dying. The praise and dues given by those who were connected in various ways by the essence of that person depress me. Don't get me wrong the praise of those worthy is a good thing. What I don't know and would like to know is did the person in question know just how they were appreciated? Did they feel the adulation and value others had for them? Or were those wonderful words not spoken until they died? In a way this book has changed that for me and possibly answered some of those questions. Carrie clearly spent a lot of time pondering and reflecting this very concept. I suspect like me these things created angst for her, it is perhaps the affliction of those who like to be liked (a personality trait strong in some and not evident in others).
In The Princess Diarist she makes it very clear that she knew her impact on the many many people Star Wars influenced (they have told her) and she articulated well that she was both grateful and ungrateful in equal measure of that impact for her personally. She was able to demonstrate a sense of self better in her later years and some faith in herself as an okay person, which like all of us was lacking in her early years. This alone made reading The Princess Diarist worthwhile.
I will always admire her, not specifically for this book or for her portrayal of Princess Leia (albeit very good, and of course why she became somebody, not just the daughter of Debbie Reynolds or the wife of Paul Simon) but for her sass, her intelligence. Her unique ability to talk about the meaning of mental health with such acumen when it mattered. These things came from the essence of her, as she stopped trying to be something/someone else, her authenticity emerged. I appreciated her forthright way of saying things as they really were and her very special way of articulating feminism amid the furor of being both Princess Leia and Carrie Fisher.
The book its self is not really a great read. It's patchy at best. For me the detail about her affair with Harrison Ford pfft, the excerpts from her 19 year old self felt voyeuristic and unnecessary. What was of interest were her musings of her life and how she is inextricably connected to Leia, fame and the understanding of stardom. She frequently mentions what may come to pass in the event of her passing and I suspect she will be right.
The chapter where Carrie discusses doing lap dances for autographs was a little confronting as whilst I have never been to a Comic.com or Armageddon type event her depiction of us as fans - spot on. This was a very revealing wee excerpt about fandoms and how difficult it is for those connected to fandoms and all that implies. It caused me to sit back and reflect on this for a bit. There isn't a lot I can do to minimize their effect on the individuals or capitalism as a whole.......it will however forever have me thinking of the role somebody plays to the person the actually are separately.
My lasting impression the book gave me about Carrie Fisher is that she was somebody a life happened to which was vastly different from the one she envisioned. As time passed and wisdom collided with her fierce smarts she developed some peace. So over all I am delighted I read it despite it being an average read - it was an above average insight into mortality and how to get on being the best I can be presently.
R.I.P Carrie Fisher xxx
Post note F.B profile picture changed accordingly.
This is a solid 2.5 but rating it at a 2 seems a little harsh so 3 stars it is. For me the whole thing felt underdone as if it hadn't quite been finisThis is a solid 2.5 but rating it at a 2 seems a little harsh so 3 stars it is. For me the whole thing felt underdone as if it hadn't quite been finished. There were jumps and gaps that felt they should have been filled in with greater details, none of the leading characters developed any complexity. Much was hinted at around sexuality and motivation but just not explored in any detail. Which is why I can see it as an excellent movie. I haven't seen the movie but imagine there was just the right amount of detail for a great film. I also imagine Kate Winslet would have made an excellent Tilly.
The premise of the story is bullying, manipulation and revenge. However I found I struggled to remember who belonged where and took a while to place people. I finally got this as the book finished.
The one character who I felt we actually got to know was the towns policeman with penchant for cross dressing. He was insightful and delightful.
A quick read and to be fair perfect for New Years eve and day....more
Oosh - this book and over all experience was a roller coaster ride for me. I had moments of complete agreement and whoop whoop 'hell yeah you go girl"Oosh - this book and over all experience was a roller coaster ride for me. I had moments of complete agreement and whoop whoop 'hell yeah you go girl" and others where I needed to take some very deep breaths and resist throwing something or taking it out on the cat.
So before I go any further a disclaimer here is important, this is my world, my work, my study and my passion. Understanding the complexity, nuances and current scientific evidence around obesity is crucial to my professionalism and it is what I do.
Harriet Brown is a writer, magazine editor, and professor of magazine journalism, but NOT an expert in health science. Due to her literary skills it is a given that much of this flows well and tells a compelling story. There is a lot of evidence presented and ironically she is as guilty as those whom she is pointing the finger at of manipulating the data to suit her argument. As a scholar and academic she knows her way around the use of data and literature and she understands the pull of phenomenology. The use of vignettes and first person experience is very powerful and a great hook to get her readers on side. Any one of these vignettes could be one of the over 3000 people I have worked with - I get it I really do.
However lulling people into a false sense of Harriett knows best and all these individual stories equals big pharma is evil and that doctors are heartless shams stuff is frankly offensive. She is extrapolating her personal story and experience into a solution that for some will be an excellent fit but for others not so. One size does not fit all. Respecting others values and choices is a mark of integrity and self reflection. Whilst there has been much self reflection at the end of the day it is Harriet's way or the highway. There is much she does not know and as it turned out not willing too.
She starts off really really well telling her own story, one that resonated deeply for me. Her writing around the value of self acceptance and the help she received in working towards this from her therapist was excellent. So too was her unpacking of fat being a feminist issue and her obvious reflection around her own body dysmorphia. The impact this had on her daughter and the paradox of being a moderately over weight mother resulting in an anorexic daughter. These struggles are very real and ones I see daily. Had she stuck to her knitting and discussed the real merits associated with self acceptance, intuitive eating and the damage associated with striving for perfectionism in an imperfect world. As well as how and why this subtle shift in thinking has helped her I would have continued to applaud her and very possibly have got my patients to read her.
After listening to the book and hearing her commitment to self acceptance which is what the first third of the book is devoted to. I actually messaged her on twitter and had some interesting dialogue, suggesting some clear synergy, between her work and mine. This however was before I had got to the meaty bit in the middle where her fat activism turned into an us versus them tirade. Now please don't get me wrong I am grateful for the work being done by those promoting fat activism it is an important aspect of where we find ourselves currently. There is a need for the pendulum to swing back, all fat is not bad. Black and white thinking is a dangerous thing, obesity is complex, we can not out run the fork nor can we hope it is all going to go away if we eat clean, organic, blah blah it is not.
However suggesting that there is not a link between health and obesity. That everyone but her and a few other much quoted non scientific academics have got it wrong........UMMMMM, I don't think so. This IS my academic and professional paddling pool and while there is real evidence that being healthy from eating intuitively, exercising regularly, getting enough sleep, being mindful, practicing self compassion and not distracting with too much alcohol, doughnut binging, shopping, gambling, methamphetamine etc has some evidence. It is only part of the picture. In my experience this approach works very well for some particularly if there is a willingness to be brave and vulnerable. This vulnerability is dependent on many variables, these are frequently a combination of individual gene expression, epigentics, personality type, level of external support, previous bullying and or abuse, parental styles, education, cultural, financial and overall health. For many, due to these variables the subtle shift in thinking required to achieve self acceptance is an untenable solution and the experience of bariatric surgery is the thing that allows that shift to occur.
So her disparaging rant about surgeons and them being in it for the money only, was a bold statement with very little fact, just her personal opinion. This was based on meeting one Bariatric Surgeon in passing. With no understanding or research into what they do, what the surgery does, how it works, only that it is mutilation with lots of complications. Note there were no vignettes from recipients of Bariatric Surgery recipients flourishing in the lives they had. Nor of the research that suggest those who have had big complications would do it all again. Her comment to me that my biases and use of words like obesogenic suggested that I was one of the hated and her condescension that I could not possibly understand because um you are a health professional really rankled. It would be equally ill considered for me to comment on her use of language not my paddling pool. She is also coming from the stance of someone who is well able to health wise stay where she is. Not somebody whom for what ever reason has a BMI (yes a very blunt measuring tool) of 50 is unable to control their type two diabetes, does not have the mental resilience to ignore the social bias and prejudice against them and is actively suicidal. She is not comparing apples with apples.
Still...........I persevered and got my self to the end of the book.
So after the hate and conspiracy chapters we came back to the stuff that I feel is very useful. She is right obesity is simply and adaption to our current environment and shame is not a useful tool in creating change. I have personally witnessed many of my peers using shame as a tactic in the misunderstood belief that they were helping. This does not make them pariahs to be avoided, this is simply means a requirement for further education. It also means that the far ends of the continuum need to stop sniping and claiming their ground and begin some real dialogue. We can not turn back the clock the horse has bolted and no matter how much we blame big companies, farming, sugar, Ancel Keys, food pyramids telling us the wrong thing, capitalism or we come up with super foods, fad diets the fact is we are in a rock and a hard place. Harriet is right diets don't work and my study shows precisely why this is and there really is only 2-5% of people who keep off their weight loss there are real physiological reasons fro this. Yes bariatric surgery works for 60% of those who undergo it but it is not the answer either.
We have a social, political crisis and I appreciate that Harriet Brown has attempted to put a solution out there and one that I see working. Dumping on many who are in fact trying to help and work things out was lazy and blinkered. Two excellent obesity specialists and advocates who understand the complexity of obesity very well Yoni Freedhoff and Ayra Sharma were lambasted, again I found this highly offensive both of these gentlemen are exactly that gentlemen working tirelessly towards better understanding. Did she interview these guys - clearly not otherwise she would not have been so disrespectful.
In the effort to put the Health at Every Size (HAES) viewpoint forward she has misunderstood much of the science behind obesity and has as I previously mentioned thrown the baby out with the bath water. This is not an us verus them debate, this is getting off our high horses and coming together collaboratively to begin to come to a place where we can start to have some sustainable solutions. HAES is going to have a part to play but is not the only answer, to think that is naive at best and for some down right dangerous at worst.
This is an honest attempt at creating change and as I said if she had stayed on topic and not gone on a unsubstantiated blame game rant at something that is complex and deeply nuanced she would have won a lot more respect from me. Obesity is not due to a lack of will power and contrary to what many believe it is not within our control to have the body size shape we want once we have gained a lot of weight. The understanding around this is in its infancy, because realistically the level of ever growing obesity is still in its infancy. We do know processed foods with lots of added sugar is not useful and we do know that inequality has a lot to do with the poor outcomes related to obesity. Learning self love and acceptance are major factors in decreasing weight gain as is remaining active. These factors help immeasurably in decreasing the not good health outcomes related to poor diet, limited activity, poor self esteem, poverty and social isolation. There is a lot of work to be done to come to a place that stops the rampant bias and prejudice experienced by those in abundant bodies. For the part Harriet has had in trying to do something about this, big ups to her. However to put down somebody who is attempting to change from within the devil spawn themselves and hold the middle ground with derision was not cool. My attempt at reaching out was to forge collaboration and possible win win scenarios the possibilities were endless but disappointingly not to be.
Perhaps when she looks out from her own personal story and understands there are lots of good guys in this and not just those with her particular lived experience we can connect.
This is NOT a body of truth - more a personal opinion piece....more
This book is the window into the mind of an amazing man - Neil Gaiman. I had wanted to read it for a while…… just had no reason to pursue the desire.This book is the window into the mind of an amazing man - Neil Gaiman. I had wanted to read it for a while…… just had no reason to pursue the desire. That was until I heard him on a Liz Gilbert pod cast helping her unblock blocked creative’s. His own accounts of how and why the book got written were enough to turn the desire into an intention and following through on that intention I can say was well worth it. What a fantastic tale.
While talking to Liz, Neil moved from mythic author to being oh so very human, the sort that is kind and gentle, the sort I wish my boys had met when they were around seven and nine. He sounded fun, deeply intelligent and just a little bit vulnerable as the Brit in America. His previous books I had read were very readable and enjoyable but this oh this was just so much more. This was an adult fairy story - I loved the book and I suspect I am a little bit in love with a tiny corner of my idea of who and what Neil Gaiman is.
I found the plot, writing and pace simply stunning. I could not stop thinking about Shadow. Shadow is a criminal finishing up his days in prison waiting to get back out into the real world and re start his life. After the first few chapters it was this constant intrigue about what he may be up to while I was away from him, his travels and thoughts and who he might be. Was he a god and just didn't know it or was he a random man in Wednesday's weird world. Wednesday was clearly something out of the ordinary but who and what was he? It wove its self into my day and gave things a tinge of mystery. It was deep and glib at the same time; it felt like fantasy and reality all wrapped up together.
In the end it is the story of Shadow his date with destiny or rather a destiny that was an others narcissistic need for power and existence. No matter how well we plan our destinies or bargain for required outcomes there is always a curve ball that we couldn't have factored in. If we did it wasn't that particular ball with that particular arc. Ironically it is the curve ball that ends up defining the outcome for better or for worse. Of the outcome and who and what Shadow and Wednesday are is not for me to say - but you the next reader of this wonderful tale get to figure that out. I am not one to spoil things.
Speaking as a non American who has traveled through America I believe it is a wonderful interpretation of what modern America is and will continue to become. This was written a number of years ago so could not have foreseen any of the recent events related to Trump etc but is weirdly prophetic in its own way.
So good - this was the icing on the cake for me. The missing piece I needed to go forth and really get out there and do what I need to.
Again just soSo good - this was the icing on the cake for me. The missing piece I needed to go forth and really get out there and do what I need to.
Again just so good. I love that I can give stress a name that can be discussed in context of health and physiology. One that is able to be understood by my medical peers but one that empirically demonstrates mental health and physical health are forever connected - they are not separate domains.
This gentleman is a complete genius, and I mean that in the real literal term he is a phenomenal scientist and I suspect human. He is up there with Jonathon Hiadt, Martin Selligman, Jung, Brene Brown, Eric Erikson and Abraham Maslow! He has actually just provided me with more people to read but hey that's my purpose - right?...more