The title of the book encompasses the main theme of this book perfectly. In almost every aspect of Etta’s life, there is always some box that she3.5
The title of the book encompasses the main theme of this book perfectly. In almost every aspect of Etta’s life, there is always some box that she is supposed to be fit in. She is bi, not gay or straight, a recovering bulimic, but was never skinny, and a ballet dancer who’s too free. Etta’s dream is to be anywhere Not-Nebraska, but specifically New York where she feels things will be different, and she will no longer feel boxed in. One of the things I liked most about Etta though, was that she refused to be boxed in. She does things her own way without hesitation.
Etta is bi, and her former friend group, self-named “The Dykes”, bully her mercilessly for sleeping with a guy. It’s an interesting dynamic for a group of lesbians who have been persecuted and bullied for their sexual orientation themselves to turn around and bully someone else for the same. Throughout the book, Etta explores in her mind what their friendship ever really was. I love how Moskovitz doesn’t make anything black and white. Her characters are real and multi-dimensional and everything is more complicated than it seems. The only complaint I have of the book is that the friendship between Etta and Bianca grew a little fast and intensely to be completely realistic.
The storyline revolves around Etta auditioning for a musical theater school, Brentwood, but the plot really wasn’t the main point of the book. Rather, it was about life, dance, pigeonholes, and most especially friendship.
The concept of love languages and how people have different ways of expressing love is very accessible and easy to understand, and I can definitely2.5
The concept of love languages and how people have different ways of expressing love is very accessible and easy to understand, and I can definitely see these concepts helping marriages and people. As I was listening to the audiobook, I found many of the problems the couples the author described familiar to me and could see ways of improving communication. Many of the suggestions on how to be a better partner and "speak" your significant other's love language were great and I'm sure have helped many couples. However, I have some serious reservations about this book.
I can't remember the last time I read a book that was so overtly sexist. Every husband used as a story in this book described a good wife as being one who took care of the children, had dinner ready when he got home, and kept the house clean. Near the end of the book, an example was used of a couple in which the husband was verbally abusive and had been for many years. The author and counselor of the woman told her she could love someone she hated, and suggested that she become a better wife to her husband. The two are now apparently in a happy marriage again. I just found it incredible that the advice given to a woman who was being verbally abused was that she wasn't a good enough wife.
I think the main message of the 5 love languages is great, but I could have done without all of the stories that the author shares (which all begin to sound the same after a few), and the antiquated way of thinking about marriage and women....more