There was a lot about this book that I really loved, and some parts I loved less, but overall I would recommend it for anyone in the courtship movemenThere was a lot about this book that I really loved, and some parts I loved less, but overall I would recommend it for anyone in the courtship movement, curious about the courtship movement, or just interested in relational and societal trends. This book was all about breaking people out of bondage and extra-Biblical rules that have been foisted onto segments of the Christian population. For that I stand, climb up on my chair, loudly applaud, as well as hoot, holler, and whistle!!!! That part of the book was wonderful and incredibly well stated from someone who had been in the courtship movement and bought it in full along with all the accompanying shame, guilt, and heartache, even preaching for it at some point. I loved the chapters about the history of dating and courtship and found them fascinating. I would also mention that the book is very well-written.
Now for the part that I loved less. In place of "modern courtship" or "modern dating," the author offers a different, somewhat rule-based, system he calls "traditional dating." There's nothing wrong with the guidelines he suggests, and he does mention that they're just practical suggestions and that you should be free to follow the guidance of the Holy Spirit. I just don't understand why he needed a new prescriptive system at all. I guess this part will make more sense to those who so vehemently rejected dating at some point. And/or to those who love and need rules. It will serve as a bridge for them back to a sane way of finding a spouse. I come from a different more freedom and grace loving side of Christianity. My daughter and I read one of the Josh Harris books which encouraged courtship when she was in 10th grade. Although there was some good stuff in the book, we could both immediately see that it was Biblically unbalanced. My parents, I, and now my college-aged children all practiced what I would call, for lack of a better term, "Christian dating." Basically, being a Christian and applying Christian principles while dating. We didn't need a list of rules, and it worked fine for all of us.
Other things that stood out to me: I feel I understand the courtship mindset better now. I've been concerned about how to handle things if any of my children ever want a relationship with a courtship-minded person. I see more clearly now the dangers and concerns. Also, I liked that the author didn't shy away from the fact that courtship fathers are domineering, that girls having their fathers as gatekeepers in marriage stunts their emotional maturity, and that too many courtship marriages have resulted in emotional and/or physical abuse. He mentions, rather tongue in cheek I think, that to his knowledge at least no courtship father's are charging money to marry their daughters, which illustrates how these girls are subtly being treated like property. In his question and answer section, he even offers advice for women in abusive marriages to get out and find support. I'm standing on the actual table now and clapping for that part. I do wish he'd gone even more into the core issues of such a patriarchal system and how it really fosters and facilitates abuse and even draws men with abusive tendencies, but I realize that wasn't the purpose of this book.
Wow, I rarely write reviews this long, but I think you can tell that this book really affected me. I will also mention that as a Christian author, I have recently been pretty harshly slapped by what the author calls the "Purity Police." This book was a balm to my battle-weary soul, and now I will better know how to pray for these people so trapped in and weighed down by bondage. Honestly, it grieves me. All Christians who understand freedom, grace, and true relationship with God need to be praying for these "Purity Police" type of people....more
This is really one of my favorite books that I've read in years!!! It's witty and urbane but still presents a strong spiritual message. Imagine (if yoThis is really one of my favorite books that I've read in years!!! It's witty and urbane but still presents a strong spiritual message. Imagine (if you possibly can stretch your mind that far) the Christian version of Sex in the City with a missional theme, and you'll begin to get a feel for this wonderful book. It's truly an original, but you'll love this thought-provoking romantic comedy and won't want the ride to stop.
(Yes, I was an editor on this project, but I was so excited about finding this book, I want to share it with everyone that I can.)...more
Roseanna White is my favorite author. Her stories always have such interesting history, philosophy, and spirituality woven together with the romance.Roseanna White is my favorite author. Her stories always have such interesting history, philosophy, and spirituality woven together with the romance. I love everything she writes, and I'm excited that she has taken her stories to Edwardian England for a fun new twist. If you enjoy The Lost Heiress, give her Biblical novels a chance too. Those are my very favorites....more
I want to be upfront and say that I was an editor on this project, but still, I just love this book so much. It really blessed me on a personal level.I want to be upfront and say that I was an editor on this project, but still, I just love this book so much. It really blessed me on a personal level. My book club has been looking forward to reading it ever since they heard me gushing about it....more
I thoroughly enjoyed this medieval story with its Bachelorette twist. Very fun and more suspenseful than I expected. I didn't love the amount of tortuI thoroughly enjoyed this medieval story with its Bachelorette twist. Very fun and more suspenseful than I expected. I didn't love the amount of torture and dark, gritty subject matter, but it served the plot well. And I'm a big fan of Jody's lovely writing style....more
This lovely little novella is the perfect touch to the Christmas season. A romantic and poignant story with a wonderful twist. I especially loved theThis lovely little novella is the perfect touch to the Christmas season. A romantic and poignant story with a wonderful twist. I especially loved the beautiful dance and music descriptions. Treat yourself to this story over the holidays....more