I audiobooked this and got 41 minutes into it before I quit. It wasn't because I wasn't laughing, and it wasn't because it wasn't well-delivered...butI audiobooked this and got 41 minutes into it before I quit. It wasn't because I wasn't laughing, and it wasn't because it wasn't well-delivered...but I thought it was going to be a bio. However, 30 of those 41 minutes were sociopolitical rants and/or anecdotes about the gay community. How is it possible that a heterosexual has 3/4 of the first 41 minutes of an autobiography-like book devoted to that? She did have a lot of interaction with the gay community, but it seemed that instead of just hearing the stories, the reader gets shouted at with successive snippets of her social manifesto. In the six David Sedaris books I've read (all of which I'd put under the same genre as Bossypants), he somehow manages to avoid beating the reader over the head with his political stance, despite his humor and anecdotes being autobiographical and frequently including his longtime partner.
It's such a bummer about this book, because I really wanted to enjoy it. After all, Tina Fey's Sarah Palin skits were always highly enjoyable. As always, I can do without all the profanity, please. She doles it out rather generously in this book....more
There is a lot of good stuff in here, but also some things I don't quite agree with. For example, when expressing our needs, there are a few steps heThere is a lot of good stuff in here, but also some things I don't quite agree with. For example, when expressing our needs, there are a few steps he goes through. He shares an anecdote about his daughter suppressing her needs and feelings, then after his encouragement, expressing them in a disrespectful way. He's called into the principal's office to discuss, and he's thrilled to discover that his daughter is now being open about her needs and feelings. He then moves on to stage two - how to do this respectfully. Um...why can't those be combined into one lesson? Express your feelings while being respectful? He also mentions rewards and a book called punished by rewards.
He makes some really interesting points about how we use language: Ex - "feel" when we are actually talking about our opinion, not our feelings. He explains how instead of communicating needs, we make judgment calls about other people's behavior. It seems so small, but it actually ended up being pretty profound. Another small, but profound thing was being very clear about what you want/need (from yourself or others) - not what you don't want/need. Also he goes over using specific language to describe specific actions you want. They are much clearer and more helpful than abstract words.
It wasn't until about half-way through the book that I realized why it's called Non-violent Communication instead of just Effective Communication. Once I could get past how slow he talked (even on double-speed), I really took in the information. This is a book I will go back and listen to again at a later time to remind myself of the techniques. ...more
Not his best, but this is a serial, so that has its own set of challenges. You can tell he had a lot of fun writing it, and I found Bertie's characterNot his best, but this is a serial, so that has its own set of challenges. You can tell he had a lot of fun writing it, and I found Bertie's character particularly interesting and amusing. The rest I didn't mind, but it was nothing mind-blowing. It's just a mindless, quick read. However, that's what it's intended to be. ...more