This book was fun to read! Some parts made me laugh out loud. I stayed up late reading in bed a few nights in a row and my husband would wake up all c...moreThis book was fun to read! Some parts made me laugh out loud. I stayed up late reading in bed a few nights in a row and my husband would wake up all cranky and ask "what are you giggling about? Ugh!" And some parts made me wince because Havrilesky is so honest about some of the embarrassing moments in her life. That takes courage folks! I've seen some reviews panning her for not being an important enough person to have written a memoir. Well, well, well, excuse me judge and jury! We all meet people who are "real characters", they are hilarious and engaging and tell great stories. I personally don't think one must be a world leader or celebrity to have interesting viewpoints and stories. I found the tone of the book to be charming, funny and self-deprecating. I could relate to her stories of family dysfunction because whose family isn't messed up, right? Being approximately the same age as the author, her childhood stories from the 70's and 80's totally cracked me up.
My favorite words in the book are in the final few pages: "I am not and was never going to be the relaxed, organized, manicured career mom, any more than I was going to the shiny, effusive cheerleader or the diligent Gap employee or the virginal good girl or the wise young lady who dates only responsible, emotionally available guys. I am a disorganized, melancholy second-guesser who rhapsodizes a little too loudly over the pleasures of a cold beer at the end of a long day. I am enthusiastic, yes, and passionate, sure, but I'm also fundamentally ambivalent, angst-ridden, and conflicted. I am distracted, overwhelmed, and mostly unprepared for whatever lies ahead."
"You are never fully prepared. You never really arrive. The best you can do is keep painting the walls to suit your new circumstances."
Yes! That is real life. It is a relief to hear someone admit some truth and imperfection. Wait, its not just me? I feel like I'm supposed to be striving to be more, better, "perfect". A clean house, well behaved children, a rewarding career, a well-balanced life. But at some point, we all realize that we just have to be happy despite the chaos and uncertainly. None of us are perfect, we learn through mistakes and experiences. I'm trying to stop wishing for more, better and perfect and just be happy with what is. So, excuse me, I'm going to get off this computer and enjoy my beautiful chaotic life. If you want a fun read, pick this book up. (less)
Hilarious! I love her wry humor. My husband kept asking, "What is so funny?" as he caught me laughing and snickering. I can totally relate to Diana Jo...moreHilarious! I love her wry humor. My husband kept asking, "What is so funny?" as he caught me laughing and snickering. I can totally relate to Diana Joseph. I also grew up in very rural, blue collar area but was a bit of an oddball with my liberal and progressive politics. I also loved the rebellious streak running through her stories. She was basically saying, This is me, I don't give a f*@k you if you don't like it. I personally couldn't lay it all out there for the public like Diana Joseph does, all my flaws and foibles. Bravo Ms. Joseph! (less)