In overall, i found the information in the book interesting. The writing style was also appropriate for me.
I had seen brain map of the body in a nueroIn overall, i found the information in the book interesting. The writing style was also appropriate for me.
I had seen brain map of the body in a nuerocomputing course i have taken. The discussions in the book helped me understand this concept and its real world implications better. I especially liked the author's comment on the relation of foot fetish and brain map :)
I loved the experiments, such as about "hindsight" and "perception", in the book. ...more
This is the first book i have read from my "ego vs leadership" series. I don't want to comment much before reading remaining books.
As far as i see, thThis is the first book i have read from my "ego vs leadership" series. I don't want to comment much before reading remaining books.
As far as i see, the hypothesis proposed is supported with many examples of leaders from best silicon-valley companies. I believe every leader/human being should be aware of the effects of ego on his/her and others life. I can also clearly see similar ego mistakes in my life (Who does not have an ego :)).
Despite having many examples, the approach is not systematic enough in my opinion. But the book is obviously worth to read and can be used as a reference book for later use....more
I have a competition coming by. My goals for the competition is to prepare and present a presentation. Additionally, i will help my friends in preparaI have a competition coming by. My goals for the competition is to prepare and present a presentation. Additionally, i will help my friends in preparation of the business plan in my free times.
I believe the best way to help in business planning is to read (at least skim over) business planning books and give them an overview of items we need to mention in the plan. Since they have a better background on business and the project, i assume they will complete remaining parts themselves. Having an overview of the business plan will also help me to prepare my presentation.
With the above goals in mind, i am skimming over business planning books and try to find the essence of the process. This is the second book i skimmed over. It helped me to prepare the core headings of the business plan and also add some important items under those headings.
Overall, this is a good book to read on business planning. However, it is far from perfect as a book....more
I read first 50 pages. The author write in story format. It makes the book hard and uninteresting to read for me. I would like to hear facts instead.I read first 50 pages. The author write in story format. It makes the book hard and uninteresting to read for me. I would like to hear facts instead. Some other kinds of people might find the book interesting but for me only the title was interesting.
I decided that the achievers coaching program described in this book is one of good self-improvement programs. Although it is far from perfect, it addI decided that the achievers coaching program described in this book is one of good self-improvement programs. Although it is far from perfect, it added new concepts/connections to my understanding of self-improvement.
I liked the form in page 90. Many self-improvement programs lack some kind of flow chart of the overall program as in page 211. And i liked the concept of consistency circle in page 225.
The "problem solving questions" and the discussion on "ask and receive" are other parts of the book i integrated to my self-improvement system being developed by reading related books and using a private wiki backend....more
It is an attempt to be good always. This attempt to be good typically involves trying to eliminate or hide cer[Quoted from the book:]
Nice Guy Syndrome
It is an attempt to be good always. This attempt to be good typically involves trying to eliminate or hide certain things about themselves (their mistakes, needs, emotions) and become what they believe others want them to be (generous, helpful, peaceful, etc.).
Nice guys vs Integrity
The process of breaking free from ineffective Nice Guy patterns doesn't involve becoming “not nice.” Rather, it means becoming “integrated.”
Being integrated means being able to accept all aspects of one's self. An integrated man is able to embrace everything that makes him uniquely male: his power, his assertiveness, his courage, and his passion as well as his imperfections, his mistakes, and his dark side.
An integrated male accepts that he is perfectly imperfect.
Developing integrity is an essential part of recovery from the Nice Guy Syndrome. My definition of integrity is “deciding what feels right and doing it.” The alternative is using the “committee approach.” This method of decision-making and acting is based on trying to guess what everyone else would think is right. Following this committee approach is the quickest path to confusion, fear, powerlessness, and dishonesty.
Nice guys vs Masculinity
Another common trait among Nice Guys is the belief that they are different from other men. This distorted thinking usually began in childhood when they tried to be different from their “bad” or unavailable father.
As long as Nice Guys are disconnected from men or believe they are different from other men, they cut themselves off from the many positive benefits of male companionship and the power of a masculine community.
I define masculinity as that part of a man that equips him to survive as an individual, clan, and species. Without this masculine energy we would have all become extinct eons ago. Masculinity empowers a man to create and produce. It also empowers him provide for and protect those who are important to him. These aspects of masculinity include strength, discipline, courage, passion, persistence, and integrity.
As Nice Guys try to avoid the dark side of their masculinity, they also repress many other aspects of this male energy force. As a result, they often lose their sexual assertiveness, competitiveness, creativity, ego, thirst for experience, boisterousness, exhibitionism, and power. Go watch little boys on the playground and you will see these qualities. I am convinced that these are good things worth keeping.
One of the most visible consequences of the repression of masculine energy in Nice Guys is their lack of leadership in their families. Out of fear of upsetting their partner or appearing too much like their controlling, authoritarian, or abusive fathers, Nice Guys frequently fail to be the leader their family needs. Consequently, the job of leading the family often falls on their wives. Most of the women I talk to don't want this job, but end up taking it by default.
Reclaiming one's masculinity involves:
* Connecting with other men. * Getting strong. * Finding healthy male role models. * Reexamining one's relationship with one's father.
I consistently tell Nice Guys, “The best thing you can do for your relationship with your girlfriend or wife is to have male friends.” As they get many of their emotional needs met with men, recovering Nice Guys become less dependent, needy, manipulative and resentful in their relationships with women.
Embracing one's masculinity mean's embracing one's body, power, and spaciousness. In order to do this, recovering Nice Guys have to stop putting junk into their bodies and train them to respond to the physical demands of being male. This involves eating healthy foods, eliminating drugs and alcohol, working out, drinking lots of water, playing, relaxing, and getting enough rest. Whether the Nice Guy stays fit by running, swimming, weight training, martial arts, playing basketball, volleyball, or tennis, this physical strength translates into self-confidence and power in every other aspect of his life....more
The only negative point about this book for me is that it discusses career and small-business interchangeably. I believe some of the things that are dThe only negative point about this book for me is that it discusses career and small-business interchangeably. I believe some of the things that are discussed do not fit to career discussion appropriately.
Despite the above negative point, i like it to be concise and having short chapters. It still gets five stars from me.
I really liked the list of values at the end of the book. Zero-based Thinking is also a necessary concept to be applied to our lives.
This is my first "being a manager" book. It is really interesting to see how the authors managed to extract the important dynamics of a manager's lifeThis is my first "being a manager" book. It is really interesting to see how the authors managed to extract the important dynamics of a manager's life. As far as i see, this is a nice introduction and overview on the topic....more
The book is not concise but contains some new useful info for me such as historical interactions betweens apple and microsoft. It was also useful forThe book is not concise but contains some new useful info for me such as historical interactions betweens apple and microsoft. It was also useful for me to see what a company strategy is and its effects on the overall company....more