I decided that the achievers coaching program described in this book is one of good self-improvement programs. Although it is far from perfect, it add...moreI decided that the achievers coaching program described in this book is one of good self-improvement programs. Although it is far from perfect, it added new concepts/connections to my understanding of self-improvement.
I liked the form in page 90. Many self-improvement programs lack some kind of flow chart of the overall program as in page 211. And i liked the concept of consistency circle in page 225.
The "problem solving questions" and the discussion on "ask and receive" are other parts of the book i integrated to my self-improvement system being developed by reading related books and using a private wiki backend.(less)
I liked the concept: reading best 20 books on a topic and summarizing them in a concise book.
But, i already know and applied to my life what has been...moreI liked the concept: reading best 20 books on a topic and summarizing them in a concise book.
But, i already know and applied to my life what has been discussed in the book. That is a very good sign for me! :)
Although it did not help me due to above reason, it might help newbies on the topic. I also liked the structure (taken from the introduction of the book):
1. Focus: shows the best ways to find out what's really important to you. 2. Plan: explains the best ways to manage your plans for results. 3. Organize: describes the best ways to manage your living and work spaces. 4. Take Action: discusses the best ways to manage your actions. 5. Learn: covers the best ways to continually improve. (less)
* Taking Risks - Don't fear to make decisions. One of the biggest fears that keeps us from moving ahead with our lives is our difficulty in making de...more * Taking Risks - Don't fear to make decisions. One of the biggest fears that keeps us from moving ahead with our lives is our difficulty in making decisions. The problem is that we have been taught "Be careful! You might make the wrong decision!".
===== Origin of Love =====
Learning to give. One of the most important lessons one has to learn in life is how to give, and therein lies an answer for fear.
As babies we represent the ultimate of neediness. We come into this world as total takers. We have to take, or we will die. Our survival is tied up with the world nurturing us. We give little back. We don't care what time we wake our parents when we hungry, or how loudly we scream and bother the neighbors when we want to be picked up.
Yes, parents often get a feeling of joy from the smile or the touch of their child and, in that sense, the child is a giver but i doubt it is conscious. No, their "gift" is on a rather primitive or reflexive level. In fact, a hungry belly in the morning will produce only loud shrieks of impatience.
As the years pass, we function as more and more independent beings able to care of ourselves - or so it appears. We dress ourselves, we feed ourselves, we earn a living. Yet there seems to be a part of us that never progress much beyond the crib. Metaphorically, no one will come to relieve our hunger for food, money, love, praise and so on.
Any relief in the way of "food" is only temporary; we know the hunger will come again.
===== Growth Buddy =====
* You and your buddy can help each other by meeting weekly and working on the value grid, your goals, your action plan, or whatever. * Committing yourself to do certain homework before each meeting often spurs you on to action. * The key is to take your commitment to your buddy seriously and act responsibly during the week by getting everything done that you committed yourself to do.
===== Acknowledgment of pain is very important; denial is deadly =====
Sandy is someone who avoided her pain. When her son died in an automobile accident twelve years ago, she never faced the full impact of the loss. Friends remarked on how well she had handled her son's death. Three years later, she developed epilepsy, which seemed to be unrelated to the loss she had experienced. For nine years, she suffered from seizures that prevented her from working. In addition, her relationships with her husband and other children were slowly deteriorating.
Sandy finally went to a support group to get help in dealing with the upset the epilepsy was creating within the family. During the first session, the group leader asked if she had ever suffered a great loss. She said yes, but explained that it had happened so long ago it was no longer a factor in her life. He knew better and with great skill managed to get her back into the experience of her son's death. It was then that she finally allowed her grief to emerge.
Each time the group met, Sandy continued to deal with her pain. Almost "miraculously", her epileptic symptoms disappeared within five weeks. She discontinued her medication, found a good job and began to repair the damage done within her home as a result of her illness. Pain can be incredibly destructive if kept submerged. Although Sandy's is a dramatic example, unacknowledged pain is subtly destroying many people's lives.(less)
The only negative point about this book for me is that it discusses career and small-business interchangeably. I believe some of the things that are d...moreThe only negative point about this book for me is that it discusses career and small-business interchangeably. I believe some of the things that are discussed do not fit to career discussion appropriately.
Despite the above negative point, i like it to be concise and having short chapters. It still gets five stars from me.
I really liked the list of values at the end of the book. Zero-based Thinking is also a necessary concept to be applied to our lives.
I found the book almost totally useless. There are a few interesting exercises in the book. Other than those what author tells is a very low quality r...moreI found the book almost totally useless. There are a few interesting exercises in the book. Other than those what author tells is a very low quality repetition of what authoritative books tell on specific topics of self-improvement.
But exercises might really be helpful to some people. At the end, the author seems to help many people face to face using these techniques.(less)
A short book with many valuable tips on procrastination.
I liked most the concept called "flow". Here are some excerpts from the book related to "flow"...moreA short book with many valuable tips on procrastination.
I liked most the concept called "flow". Here are some excerpts from the book related to "flow".
- Action Orientation: Perhaps the most outwardly identifiable quality of a high-performing man or woman is “action orientation”. They work steadily, smoothly, and continuously and seem to go through enormous amounts of work in the same time period that the average person spends socializing, wasting time and working on low value activities.
- Flow: When you work on high-value tasks at a high and continuous level of activity, you can actually enter into an amazing mental state called “flow”. Almost everyone has experienced this at some time. Really successful people are those who get themselves into this state far more often than the average.
- Highest human state of performance: In the state of flow, which is the highest human state of performance and productivity, something almost miraculous happens to your mind and emotions. You feel elated and clear. Everything you do seems effortless and accurate, You feel happy and energized. You experience a tremendous sense of calm and personal effectiveness.
- More about the state: In the state of flow, identified and talked about over the centuries, you actually function on a higher plane of clarity, creativity and competence. You are more sensitive and aware. Your insight and intuition function with incredible precision. You see the interconnectedness of people and circumstances around you. You often come up with brilliant ideas and insights that enable you to move ahead even more rapidly.
- How to trigger flow state: One of the ways you can trigger this state of flow is by developing a “sense of urgency”. This is an inner drive and desire to get on with a job quickly and get it done fast. This inner drive is an impatience that motivates you to get going and to keep going. A sense of urgency feels every much like racing against yourself. With this ingrained sense of urgency, you develop a “bias for action”. You take action rather than talking continually about what you are going to do. You focus on specific steps you can take immediately. You concentrate on the things you can do right now to get the results you want and achieve the goals you desire.
- Momentum Principle: When you become an action-oriented person, you activate the “Momentum Principle” of success. This principle says that although it may take tremendous amounts of energy to overcome inertia and get going initially, it then takes far less energy to keep going. The good news is that the faster you move, the more energy you have. The faster you move, the more get done and the more effective you feel. The faster you move, the more competent and capable you become at your work.
This is the first book i have read from my "ego vs leadership" series. I don't want to comment much before reading remaining books.
As far as i see, th...moreThis is the first book i have read from my "ego vs leadership" series. I don't want to comment much before reading remaining books.
As far as i see, the hypothesis proposed is supported with many examples of leaders from best silicon-valley companies. I believe every leader/human being should be aware of the effects of ego on his/her and others life. I can also clearly see similar ego mistakes in my life (Who does not have an ego :)).
Despite having many examples, the approach is not systematic enough in my opinion. But the book is obviously worth to read and can be used as a reference book for later use.(less)
Although the book is not as practical as i was expecting, it is still a good introduction and overview on the topic. I will refer to it again and agai...moreAlthough the book is not as practical as i was expecting, it is still a good introduction and overview on the topic. I will refer to it again and again.(less)
I found the book hard to read because of its heavy use of jargon and its philosophical interpretations. I guess reading other books of the author befo...moreI found the book hard to read because of its heavy use of jargon and its philosophical interpretations. I guess reading other books of the author before this one is necessary.(less)
I think i like more action oriented books. This book is not one of them. Reading definitions and examples is not enough to learn a subject. There shou...moreI think i like more action oriented books. This book is not one of them. Reading definitions and examples is not enough to learn a subject. There should be home works where you can apply what you think you learned to real world situations too..
So far, i have read two books of this author (the other one is "The Psychology of Self-Esteem: A Revolutionary Approach to Self-Understanding that Launched a New Era in Modern Psychology"). He seems to be one of the pioneers of this field but i did not like writing style (presentation) of both of the books.(less)