“To know others is knowledge; to know oneself is wisdom.” ~Lao Tsu
Steve Jobs, Bill Clinton, Barrack Obama, Whoopi Goldberg, Oprah Winfrey….What do th...more“To know others is knowledge; to know oneself is wisdom.” ~Lao Tsu
Steve Jobs, Bill Clinton, Barrack Obama, Whoopi Goldberg, Oprah Winfrey….What do these people have that you and I don’t? Charisma. They seem to have some special power or personality traits that attract people to them effortlessly. They attract all the attentions when they walk into a room, even without speaking. Somehow, we were taught that either we have this trait, or we don’t; so I was immediately drawn to this title once I spot it in a bookstore, and…
Yes, charisma can be learned.
Presence, warmth and power.
According to this wonderful book written by Olivia Cabane, charisma is a matter of presence, warmth and power. Presence is constantly paying attention to what’s going on when you’re interacting with people. If you are 100% involved, they feel valued and respected. One of these important skills is listening skill.
Warmth is expressed through kindness, actions and even body language. Do you think your body language has more power over the words you speak, or vice versa? You’re extremely wrong if you say “words.” Your physical comfort and mental state affect your words and body language, and people pick up messages from our body language and words that you don’t even realize yourself. Through out the author described multiple ways and exercises to get over or control your mental and physical discomfort, which will help increase personal charisma, the image that your body language and words projected.
Power is the most important and influential charisma. You do not have be an actual world leader like Colin Powell to impress people with your authority. The way you carry yourself, your body language and the way you dress and act can increase your impression and influence in others.
Not all charismatic people attract people the same way. There are all different kinds of charisma like the different kinds of personality. They can be achieved with different exercised and mind tricks and can be used on different situations. There's only one "first impression" in each event, and it's important to make it count. There are lots of exercises through out the book to help you learn the skills. Although I think they are a bit time consuming, they are actually useful.
Get the book. The wait is over. It's your turn to shine. .
The trouble with the rat race is that even if you win, you’re still a rat. —Lily Tomlin, actress and comedienne
This is how this book begins… This book,...moreThe trouble with the rat race is that even if you win, you’re still a rat. —Lily Tomlin, actress and comedienne
This is how this book begins… This book, very similar to The $100 Startup or the 4-Hour Work Week, but not quite as practical or useful. The author wanted to help you design a lifestyle business, something that works around your life style, instead of profit and growth. The kind of business, web-based, that works around you at your convenience, instead of inside a large corporation with a 9 to 5 schedule. He calls his model “Click Millionaire”, in which your business uses websites, e-commerce, digital publishing and social media to make money supporting your free life style.
The book is divided into 7 parts. The first 1/3 is basically all the reasons to get you out of your present “rat race”. The chapters were a bit redundant and full of fillers, but the theme was to tell you that you are now working to help other people, aka “your boss” to make money, which is a waste of your time and effort, so your life needs a big make-over. It’s a bit ironic that every chapter of the book ends with a link to the author’s “Click Millionaire” website, so indirectly, all readers of this book are making money for the author’s online business.
The rest of the book is a bit more useful. The author talked about creating websites, writing blogs, advertising, increasing traffic, as well as freelancing. According to his logic. People with special skills can achieve the lifestyle easier by serving a niche of the market, but normal people who know nothing do not need to despair, either. Everything you need is on his Click Millionaire website. You just have to have the right mentality and a good plan.
I’ll say this book is a bit more bluff than practical, but for desperate people who needs to make money utilizing the web. It might not hurt to give this a look, just be prepared that you’ll need the author's consultation service to proceed further…
(Thanks to AMACOM for providing a free copy through NetGalley for my review)(less)