I read "The Game" after seeing a review of it in a Singaporean bookstore. I was amused and a bit intrigued at the idea of a whole subculture centeredI read "The Game" after seeing a review of it in a Singaporean bookstore. I was amused and a bit intrigued at the idea of a whole subculture centered around seducing members of the opposite sex -- at the idea of guys who honestly had no other goals in life.
Strauss was a self-described chick repellant -- that is, until a book editor asked him to investigate the community of pickup artists. Strauss's life was transformed. He spent two years bedding women and studying with some of the North America's most suave gents -- including the best of them all, the god of the pickup "community," a man named Mystery.
Mystery is an aspiring Toronto magician who charges $2,250 for a weekend pickup workshop. He is not much to look at: a cross between a vampire and a computer geek. But by using high-powered marketing techniques he's turned seduction into an effortless craft -- even inventing his own vocabulary. His technique sounds like a car salesman's tip sheet: his main rule is FMAC -- find, meet, attract, close.
To men out there who may be interested in this book & the "secrets" it contains, here are its basic principles:
1. You can only "game" a woman with whom you are prepared to fail (if you find yourself wanting her too badly, you'll never have her) 2. Exude extreme confidence 3. Demonstrate some kind of value, skill or talent near your target, but not directly to her. Initially, pretend you don't even notice her. 4. Win over her friends 5. Be hard to get 6. Be fun 7. Handle challenges from competing men intellectually and psychologically. Never fight. 8. Respond to any signs that she's not interested as if it were "no big deal" 9. Once you have your target's attention, playfully insult ("neg") her. For example, "I like your hair, is that your natural color?" The more beautiful the woman, the more effective the neg is in garnering interest as they rarely hear comments of that nature. 10. Once attraction has been established, punish any unwanted behavior by withdrawing and disinterest, but do not pout or have an attitude. 11. Alternate between attraction and disinterest signals in a push-pull fashion until rapport is established
After two years, Strauss ends up becoming almost as successful as Mystery, but he comes to an important realization. His techniques were actually off-putting to the woman he ended up falling in love with. And they never prepared him for actually having a relationship. After a while, he ran out of one-liners and had to have a real conversation. Still, "The Game" is a great read that may help some AFCs come out of their shells.
My problem with this book is that it might be overly seductive to single guys, and draw people in to a rather twisted subculture -- which I think is not the author's intent. I also think that the techniques described encourage objectification of women to an extreme, and aren't particularly healthy for men, either. It's easy to see how becoming an expert in seduction would sound, well, seductive. But these "expert" philosophies all have one thing in common: they treat women as the enemy.
Title The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists Author Neil Strauss Reviewed By Purplycookie...more