I was hooked by the first chapter! I thoroughly loved the two main characters, Shea and Linda. Even though they were from different backgrounds and liI was hooked by the first chapter! I thoroughly loved the two main characters, Shea and Linda. Even though they were from different backgrounds and lived totally opposite lifestyles, and had different motivations it seemed that carried on throughout the entire book, they were able to come to an agreement in the end and focus on what inevitably matters most in life: family.
Although I am not too keen on the idea of curses, the authors really did a good job of leaving the reader wondering what really went on. They also did a great job of introducing the history of the two places: Hindostan, Indiana and Skellig Michael, Ireland without bogging down the reader without too many details. Telling parts of the story through the voice of another character, the folklorist from the University, also helped to keep the historical aspect of lively and entertaining.
This book was a fun and easy read and I highly recommend it to anyone interested in the intersection of history, family, and a bit of the unknown, or at least what some may say "legends are made of." ...more
I really liked the story and the main character of Chase Banter. She reminded me of an author friend. I was kind of annoyed by the lack of editing thoI really liked the story and the main character of Chase Banter. She reminded me of an author friend. I was kind of annoyed by the lack of editing though and I thought it skipped a lot of parts that might have been fun and interesting to read. ...more
Out of all of the lesbian fiction I have read these days, I really enjoyed this one. The plot was great, the characters were warm and inviting. ThereOut of all of the lesbian fiction I have read these days, I really enjoyed this one. The plot was great, the characters were warm and inviting. There wasn't an over abundant amount of hot and steamy sex like most other lesbian fiction books seem to have these days. Great read, highly recommended. ...more
I was kind of disappointed in this book. I felt like it was more of an advertisement for the Imago Relationship Therapy techniques that the authors teI was kind of disappointed in this book. I felt like it was more of an advertisement for the Imago Relationship Therapy techniques that the authors teach than it was on how to open yourself up to receiving love.
The bulk of the book was about three married couples who had to transform their “separate” beings into “connected” beings in order to build a more solid relationship full of trust, understanding, and open communication.
Many of the concepts were not new to me: Couples working on increasing communication by mirroring, validating, and empathizing; I learned about these techniques a long time ago and have used them in almost all of my relationships. The latter, empathizing, was instrumental in my last relationship, especially because communication was sparse.
What I did learn about receiving love is that it is difficult for some people to receive love or gifts because it reminds them of the things that they gave up as children or young adults because they were chastised or had a bad experience with it at the time. Receiving love or gifts recreates that hurtful experience all over again and it can remind them of what they don’t have. Also, many people feel like they don’t deserve the love or the gift.
Another thing I learned is that the things we criticize our partners the most about are those things that we dislike in ourselves or things that are missing in our lives or that we set aside (probably from a traumatic experience as explained above). For example, I felt that my last partner was overly critical of me and the things I did, but now I’ve realized that I am the same way with others: I am very picky, I have high expectations of a partner and I like things done a certain way.
The one story that was shared in the book that I found most valuable was from a guy who’s relationship did not last. After his relationship ended, he took the 3 things he liked most about his partner, which he felt had been missing from his life, and he brought them back into his life. He started dancing again, opened his art studio back up again, and took an impromptu trip to another country. In essence, he gave himself these “gifts” and he accepted them as such.
The last part of the book talks about the exercises that you can do to better receive love and gifts. They tie in both the separate and connected selfs.
I started this book while I was still in a relationship…sort of. I kept reading it even though I was no longer in a relationship. Although I have no relationship to apply it to at this time, I can use it to reevaluate my past relationship and use it as a tool for maintaining a successful next relationship – whether that is with another partner or with myself.
This book definitely illustrated much more of Lisbeth's character but I didn't really see how all the hyped up mini plots fit in together. There seemeThis book definitely illustrated much more of Lisbeth's character but I didn't really see how all the hyped up mini plots fit in together. There seemed like a lot of loose ends to me or plots that just didn't go anywhere. ...more
Wow. This book gave very good insight into how Americans viewed the concept of "History" and the Past. I was not surprised to learn as a genealogist tWow. This book gave very good insight into how Americans viewed the concept of "History" and the Past. I was not surprised to learn as a genealogist that most Americans valued the beliefs and oral history of family members over books, TV, and "experts," especially around National events. They believed family members who had "been there" and "seen firsthand" what happened during these events were the most credible sources. This is a recurring theme in the genealogy world.
A very surprising theme, however, was that most Americans believed that the History they learned in school was rubbish and a waste of time. HOWEVER, today they believe it is IMPERATIVE that their child go through the same process in school today and they propose no changes to the curriculum. ...more