Okay, I'm done. Not actually done with reading the whole book, but I'm done trying to convince myself to continue reading. I've skipped over many of tOkay, I'm done. Not actually done with reading the whole book, but I'm done trying to convince myself to continue reading. I've skipped over many of the brief biographies, as I grew weary of tales of women whose only contribution was to rip others off, or at least that is how the author painted them. So much of the writing felt mean spirited even toward women who weren't criminals.
There is a lot of good information in the book, though, which is why I'm giving it 2 Stars, instead of 1. ...more
I rarely read autobiographies, but I am glad that I picked this one up. This young girl faced a situation that is unthinkable in the Western world. AsI rarely read autobiographies, but I am glad that I picked this one up. This young girl faced a situation that is unthinkable in the Western world. As allowed by tribal traditions, her father married her to a much older man. This man and his family abused her daily, until she was able to escape. She made her way to the courts and, luckily, found a few people who were willing to help her.
Her courage is rather amazing, considering the culture she has been raised in, and her age. Despite living in a culture that women have little to no power in, and being only 10 years old, she displayed determination, confidence (even if she wasn't aware of her self-confidence), and a mature perseverance rarely seen in someone so young.
Due to her courage and determination, other very young girls have been able to divorce their husbands and groups/associations have been set up to help young girls caught up in tribal traditions that are detrimental to these young girls. There is still a long ways to go to improve the lives of girls and women around the world. This story may be one step toward helping many see the effects of cultural and societal oppression of girls/women.
As an afterword, sadly, Nujuood's life has been very difficult since the book was published. It has been revealed in 2013, that her father has spent the royalties to marry 2 more wives and has arranged a marriage for her younger sister. She has been kicked out of her family's home, and has not been able to attend school, as planned. Many people in her area of Yemen, may have cheered her on, but many others view her claim for independence as shameful. ...more
I listened to this in one day. It's only 3 hours long...and even that was too long. I was mostly bored by this. The author spent so much time speakingI listened to this in one day. It's only 3 hours long...and even that was too long. I was mostly bored by this. The author spent so much time speaking about what makes a professional, and made sure his readers knew he was this ultimate picture of perfection...and that anyone who did not adhere to this perfect view, were not professionals. meh...more
I think this positive book written for "bountiful" women can be an asset to anyone's library. Many of the issues discussed in this book can be experieI think this positive book written for "bountiful" women can be an asset to anyone's library. Many of the issues discussed in this book can be experienced by people who are not necessarily bountiful, but who feel they are because our society is aimed to present thin women as the norm, "too short" (a category I tend to fall in), or, ironically, "too thin", (I can tell you stories from my teen and early adult years), and/or any other difference from what we keep being told is the ideal.
What makes this book stand out from so many of the books of this genre is that it is not written by people who have never experienced the inconveniences and the sometimes, harsh realities faced by women who are larger than the ideal. The author and the many people that had contributed to this book are all people who have fully experienced being bountiful women. They discuss the inconveniences, the negativity, the hurt, and how they learned to live full and enriching lives. ...more
I've picked up, read and skimmed through a few books on grief over the past few months. The title of this one caught my eye in the library, as my currI've picked up, read and skimmed through a few books on grief over the past few months. The title of this one caught my eye in the library, as my current grieving process is so mixed in with grief that I haven't really come to full terms with.
This book is so much more than many of the others I've poked through. Brutally honest and yet compassionate, the author explores the many reasons for grief, such as the death of a loved one, the effects of a major illness, the loss of one's way of life, etc.
The author and his wife observed: "For those unable to make peace with their pain, there was a gradual diminishment of their life force. It became obvious that it was not just the most recent griefs that underlay their intermittent depression and dysfunction but the imprint of losses long past -- yet still painfully present."
The author does not provide a magical cure to get over grieving. He, instead, suggests various techniques that can aid in one learning to be kinder, more forgiving, more compassionate, with oneself. He suggests meditative techniques that have given others a greater sense of peace. He suggests "A Day of Silence", A Day of Walking", "A Day of Forgiveness", "A Day of Singing", and many others, to help move through the process of grief.
The author addresses one of the issues I have faced throughout the years. So many of the people who have encircled my life, believe the concept "that we are the sole creator of our reality, and thus create our own suffering." In a sadly, twisted way, this reinforces the idea that we deserve any and all the bad things that can happen to us. That philosophy has always bothered me for so many reasons. The author states a different philosophy that can open us up to a different way of living. "We do no create our reality; we effect our reality. Indeed, we are not responsible for our pain; we are responsible to our pain." This makes so much more sense. Pain and suffering will always enter our lives. There is no way around that. It's how we either embrace with kindness or deny and fight it will effect how we ultimately live out our lives.
I am hoping to find a copy of this book to purchase, as I would love to return to this again and again. ...more