This is a title I wanted to read because I've heard the author speak in the media over the years and always found him insightful. He did not disappoinThis is a title I wanted to read because I've heard the author speak in the media over the years and always found him insightful. He did not disappoint. The book switches between the story and the author's thoughts on the particular topic, which is unusual, but it is also what makes it fiction as opposed to just essays. Which was smart because I wouldn't have read a book of essays.
I am going to take advantage of the fact that this was not an advance reader copy by leaving some quotes I particularly liked:
We would ideally remain able to laugh, in the gentlest way, when we are made the special target of a sulker's fury. We would recognize the touching paradox. The sulker may be six foot one and holding down adult employment, but the real message is poignantly retrogressive: "Deep inside, I remain an infant, and right now I need you to be my parent. I need you correctly to guess what is truly ailing me, as people did when I was a baby, when my ideas of love were first formed."
Choosing a person to marry is hence just a matter of deciding exactly what kind of suffering we want to endure rather than of assuming we have found a way to skirt the rules of emotional existence.
Regarding blame and disappointments in life:
The accusations we make of our lovers make no particular sense. We would utter such unfair things to no one else on earth. But our wild charges are a peculiar proof of intimacy and trust, a symptom of love itself- and in their own way a perverted manifestation of commitment. Whereas we can say something sensible and polite to any stranger, it is only in the presence of the lover we wholeheartedly believe in that we can dare to be extravagantly and boundlessly unreasonable.
Speaking of teaching lessons to children:
The dream is to save the child time; to pass on in one go insights that required arduous and lengthy experience to accumulate. But the progress of the human race is at every turn stymied by an ingrained resistance to being rushed to conclusions. We are held back by an inherent interest in reexploring entire chapters in the back catalogue of our species' idiocies- and to wasting a good part of life finding out for ourselves what has already been extensively and painfully charted by others.
I received a free copy of this in exchange for my honest review, and honestly, I am disappointed. The author and I apparently have completely differenI received a free copy of this in exchange for my honest review, and honestly, I am disappointed. The author and I apparently have completely different definitions of "perfect". Every style looked messy to me, with flyaways and other hairs sticking out even in the photos. They look much more like average hair days than perfect.
The book is good quality and has great photos and illustrations, but I wish there were a few more. Each hairstyle only has a finished photo from 1 angle, so you don't get to see the whole thing. The section on care seems like it is written for newbies, but if so, it should go into greater detail and give examples....more
Even though it left me with tears in my eyes, I also felt hopeful. Which is weird for a book with SO MUCH LOSS! From the title, I was thinking the booEven though it left me with tears in my eyes, I also felt hopeful. Which is weird for a book with SO MUCH LOSS! From the title, I was thinking the book would be more about a dog, but while it featured an awesome dog, it was more about friendship and survival....more
I was lucky enough to win an Early Reviewers copy of this book. I couldn't wait for it to come out!
The prologue is amazing. It is only 7 pages, but woI was lucky enough to win an Early Reviewers copy of this book. I couldn't wait for it to come out!
The prologue is amazing. It is only 7 pages, but worth picking up the whole book.
The rest of the book isn't bad, either. The story is told from the alternating perspectives of 2 sisters. They are both in their late 30s and still trying to deal with the death of their brother 15 years prior. With another author, this could have been lame, but Emily Giffin breathes life into the characters and their secrets are unexpected and interesting. The voices of the sisters are similar (a tad too similar because you have to keep looking back at which one is narrating), but their personalities are very different, and it is fascinating to see their relationship from each perspective. Even though they don't always get along and have very different opinions, you still wind up rooting for both of them. ...more