Heard about it through Niver Book Club. Listened to it on CD. It kept my attention while listening, but I'm not sure it would have kept my attention iHeard about it through Niver Book Club. Listened to it on CD. It kept my attention while listening, but I'm not sure it would have kept my attention if I'd read the book myself....more
"But what I've always liked best is when he talks about having no memory. No memory of things he's done just a second before. Good or bad. Because mem"But what I've always liked best is when he talks about having no memory. No memory of things he's done just a second before. Good or bad. Because memory is time folding back on itself. To remember is to disengage from the present. In order to reach any kind of success in automobile racing, a drive must never remember."
"I, alone, could manifest a change in that which was around me. By changing my mood, my energy, I allowed Eve to regard me differently. And while I cannot say that I am a master of my own destiny, I can say that I have experienced a glimpse of mastery, and I know what I have to work toward." - Enzo...more
Recommended by Tammy Strobel, in her blog, Rowdy Kittens.
This book is translated from the author's native Japanese, so there are a number of conceptsRecommended by Tammy Strobel, in her blog, Rowdy Kittens.
This book is translated from the author's native Japanese, so there are a number of concepts that are not part of U.S. American culture, mainly the difference between Japanese young adult professionals who may still live at home versus young adult Americans who tend to live with roommates or on their own. It doesn't change how you can use the strategies that she mentions in her book, but it does make some of the examples less relatable. Also, I found the introduction in which the author repeatedly outlines and gives examples of how much she enjoyed tidying as a child to be unnecessary. The same goes for the final chapter about how tidying can transform your life. Perhaps it's because I already drank the koolaid, and I realize her statement to be true, but rather than repeating over and over what good things will come to me with tidying (greater fitness, well-being, perhaps even fortune) with no substantiated evidence of any of these things, I would rather have a call-to-action and "the end." I skimmed the final chapter.
That being said, Kondo's methodology, is one I would like to try. It is not for the faint of heart. Her method requires a full surrender of possessions. I've read numerous books and blogs and have tried various strategies like getting rid of one item a day, turning the hangers backwards in your closet and donating the clothes that are never worn, or organizing piecemeal, and the author's methodology is the opposite. She is a proponent of tidying all in one shot, rather than little by little. I do believe in her idea that tidying in one shot will change your mind-set. Case in point, my bedroom. It was a disaster, it always has been, since childhood. There have been months at a time when I could proudly walk through without tripping, but I had regressed. I was picking away at it, picking up five items a day and putting them away, but without being able to remember how beautiful it looked when completely clean, I was losing motivation. What I did next is not condoned in Kondo's book, but it brings me back to the idea that if you can change your mind-set, you will be more likely to have success. I picked everything from the floor and put it into various containers and boxes and stored it. Then I wiped all the floorboards and swept and mopped the floor. With a clean slate to start with, I've had much more success keeping it tidy on a daily basis.
Kondo's system goes category by category, beginning with clothing, which she sees as the easiest to part with, and progressing through books, papers, miscellany, and finally, mementos. In each category you are required to bring every item from that category out and make a giant pile. From there, you pick up item by item and ask whether this particular item brings you joy, truly brings you joy, you aren't keeping it because it was a gift or because you bought it and feel guilty that you haven't used it, but it brings you joy to wear, read, or use. You thank all other items for their service (a bit cheesy) and donate or discard them.
Most attachment to possessions can be narrowed into two categories, "...an attachment to the past or a fear for the future." "The best way to find out what we really need is to get rid of what we don't." This clean slate idea has a lot of good reason behind it, and I'm gradually getting ready to give her method a try. It appeals to my systematic side and the logic of working through categories. Like other books about minimizing possessions and simplifying, Kondo mentions the same types of benefits: time to focus on other things in life that are important, less inconvenience and stressful searching, and time to confront issues that you have been avoiding. I would love to get to a point in my life when I don't look into a box and curse myself for collecting whatever is stored there. All in good time......more