The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.
This book has helped me through two of the toughest weeks of my life,The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.
This book has helped me through two of the toughest weeks of my life, and everyone interested in self-improvement should read it. On Becoming a Person will appeal to anyone inclined toward psychology or therapy, as Rogers does a fantastic job discussing his client-centered approach and how his model of therapy transcends the limitations of past psychotherapeutic frameworks. Even though the book was first published in 1961, Rogers includes a variety of still-relevant techniques, such as allowing the client to guide the session and ensuring unconditional positive regard through the therapist's own congruence. He incorporates a gamut of psychological principles from areas such as developmental and social psychology, and he relates them all back to his thesis on clinical, humanistic therapy.
Not only does Rogers reach out to different branches of psychology, but he also connects client-centered therapy to education, leadership in the work place, and family life. Even though the book might feel a little repetitive in certain parts, it addresses several pertinent questions, like how therapists can reconcile their work with the conducting of research. In around 400 pages, Rogers dives deep into every facet of psychotherapy and how it relates to humans in general.
Overall, highly recommended to anyone with even a remote interest in self-growth, psychology, therapy, or being a better person. As Rogers would say, reading On Becoming a Person will not transform you into a perfect version of yourself - rather, it will set you on the path of creating a more accepting and honest self....more
Point Pleasant revolves around two best friends, Ben Wisehart and Nicolas Nolan, who grew up in the southern and secluded town of Point Pleas3.5 stars
Point Pleasant revolves around two best friends, Ben Wisehart and Nicolas Nolan, who grew up in the southern and secluded town of Point Pleasant. At age 20 Ben leaves to embark on his career as a fiction writer, and 13 years later he returns to investigate the local myth of the horrifying mothman that terrifies the town. Upon his arrival he renews the friendships he left behind, especially with Nicolas, the man he had once fallen in love with when he was just a boy.
Originally a fan fiction, Point Pleasant reads like a mix of Supernatural, M/M romance, and paranormal fantasy. I appreciated Wood's incorporation of all the different plot elements: a horror story, a renewed love interest, a suspicious and hostile town, and angry fallen angels. The images by Svetlana Fictionalfriend helped me visualize more of the setting and the foes Ben and Nicolas faced, bringing more life to an already creepy tale.
None of the individual elements within the book impressed me, though. The main plot with the mothman dragged at times. Ben and Nicolas's relationship, while sweet, felt repetitive and a little stilted in its development. While Wood hits some of Ben's relationships right, like his feud with his father, I wanted an even more wholesome blend of every aspect of Point Pleasant.
Overall I would recommend this book to those searching for a M/M romance with a supernatural feel. Not my favorite book, though it is a unique one....more
Maya Angelou's historic and memorable autobiography I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings deserves its acclaim. She details her experience from the age of tMaya Angelou's historic and memorable autobiography I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings deserves its acclaim. She details her experience from the age of three to the peak of her adolescence at 16, with several themes woven in, such as the overcoming of trauma, escaping the confines of racism, the importance of family, and more. To me, this book functioned as both a mirror of my own childhood and a window to another individual's completely different coming of age.
I discovered that to achieve perfect personal silence all I had to do was to attach myself leechlike to sound. I began to listen to everything. I probably hoped that after I had heard all the sounds, really heard them and packed them down, deep in my ears, the world would be quiet around me. I walked into rooms where people were laughing... and I simply stood still. After a minute or two, silence would rush into the room from its hiding place because I had eaten up all of the sounds.
Angelou includes information about her family that adds another dynamic to her life, and she writes about her childhood in a way that transports the reader. Still, some sections of this book left me underwhelmed: it felt like there were parts that received too much attention and others that did not attain nearly enough. Instead of learning about the practices of the people in her church, I wanted more time allotted to developments that occurred later in the story, the events that left her feeling out of place and unsure of herself.
To be left alone on the tightrope of youthful unknowing is to experience the excruciating beauty of full freedom and the threat of eternal indecision. Few, if any, survive their teens. Most surrender to the vague but murderous pressure of adult conformity. It becomes easier to die and avoid conflicts than to maintain a constant battle with the superior forces of maturity.
Despite my criticisms, I would recommend I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings to anyone searching for a well-written coming of age story. Angelou's voice and position within society gives her a powerful and unique perspective to share. ...more
Great advice split into well-written chapters. Cal Newport made a wise choice with his concision - How to Win at College will appeal to busy college sGreat advice split into well-written chapters. Cal Newport made a wise choice with his concision - How to Win at College will appeal to busy college students who feel that they barely have any time to read. I appreciate how his tips ranged from social life to schoolwork to mental health; even if some topics could have been fleshed out more, students will acquire a ton of great tricks from reading this book.
Though I already considered and carry out some of his advice, I'm jotting down a list of ones I will pay more attention to as I continue through my college years: - Find An Escape - Meet Often with Your Adviser - Laugh Every Day - Ignore Your Classmates' Grades - Care About Your Grades, Ignore Your G.P.A. - Write as if Going for a Pulitzer - Maximize Your Summers
I recommend this to all high school seniors preparing for college, as well as to college students, no matter their undergraduate year. I'm looking forward to reading more from Cal Newport....more
Not that great from a storytelling/literary standpoint, but I would definitely recommend The Last Question to science-fiction fans. That ending may trNot that great from a storytelling/literary standpoint, but I would definitely recommend The Last Question to science-fiction fans. That ending may trigger an intellectual mindgasm. ...more
I picked up Daring Greatly after watching Brene Brown's amazing TED Talk on the power of vulnerability. I find it fascinating that someone can conductI picked up Daring Greatly after watching Brene Brown's amazing TED Talk on the power of vulnerability. I find it fascinating that someone can conduct research centered on human topics such as shame, vulnerability, connection, and happiness. When I first entered college I possessed the notion that research was something done with test tubes and beakers in the back of a laboratory, but Brown's work shows that in-depth research can apply to anyone, inside or outside of academia.
The quality of Brown's insights in Daring Greatly deserves praise. She could have fallen back on trite tips that all self-help books preach. Instead, she examines vulnerability, shame, and wholeheartedness with a fine lens, using intriguing analogies and everyday anecdotes to illustrate her points. She discusses how men and women experience shame differently, how people who change their behaviors handle anxiety better than those who just cope with it, and how shame itself leads to distractions such as sex, alcohol, and addictions to Smartphones.
Brown incorporates practical applications of her research, ranging from how to help veterans form connections with others in the community to how modeling shame-based behaviors can result in negative parenting. She even includes scenarios such as when to disclose personal information in order to form connections as opposed to when it's better to keep your life private. Daring Greatly looks at patterns in human behavior that some people might overlook, and it provides ideas on how to change.
I would have appreciated a bit more of the "how" in regard to "daring greatly." Brown drives home the point that we should all strive to dare greatly, and she reveals a myriad of obstacles that obstruct us from doing so, but I wanted a few more concrete suggestions to guide us to success. It also would have been nice if Brown included more information about how she conducted her research throughout the book; even though she discusses methodology in the research appendix, knowing how she came to her conclusions when they're initially presented might aid in comprehension.
Overall, a great read, and highly recommended to those who enjoyed her TED Talk and desire to gain even more insight into the concepts of vulnerability and shame. Brown has an extensive track record through her research, her books, and her presentations, so I will be sure to check out more of her work....more
I first fanboy squealed on page 11, when Judith Lewis Herman created a connection between mental illness and feminism, two of my favorite topics. In tI first fanboy squealed on page 11, when Judith Lewis Herman created a connection between mental illness and feminism, two of my favorite topics. In the first third of Trauma and Recovery, Herman discusses the history of trauma and how trauma relates to many other concepts, such as politics and warfare. In contemporary society people insulate and isolate the topic of mental illness with alarming speed, so delving into its pervasiveness in all areas of life brought its magnitude back into focus. Depression, for example, is not just an illness that affects people because they might feel sad out of the blue: depression and its symptoms have a rich history and an unfortunate stake in several domains.
Herman also writes in-depth about trauma itself, which made me love Trauma and Recovery, even as it tore me apart. With fluid and poignant prose, she sets forth a tripartite recovery model: establishing a safe environment for the victim, unearthing the trauma and working through its emotional wounds, and moving forward to maintain a new post-trauma life that expands upon the experiences of the victim. As someone who has dealt with trauma and wants to one day work as a therapist, this book resonated with me more than any textbook or piece of nonfiction I've ever read. Herman explains concepts with confidence and clarity, and her guiding tone shows that she empathizes with victims and wishes to support them throughout the recovery process.
So many little things added to my affection for Herman's most well-known work. As an English and Psychology double major, I felt joy every time she used books written by authors like Woolf and O'Brien to provide examples for psychological ideas. She drives home the idea that mental health and politics remain connected because mental health intrinsically relates to oppressed people and the blows they suffer. Herman ends the book by commenting on the influential role of therapists: not only do they help victims regain control of their lives, but they also act as witnesses to victims' stories. They testify to the truth, and they fight for the clients they work it, no matter what the cost.
Overall, an inspiring and enlightening read. Trauma and Recovery was published quite awhile ago, which shows through its use of gender pronouns (men are also abused, and women serve in the armed forces as well) but the book still raises a wealth of information and understanding. It has revitalized my passion for psychology and the field of mental illness, and I'm certain I will revisit it in the future.
I loved psychoanalyzing Roxana and her relationships with Amy, her children, and her clients. Thanks to my brilliant Brit Lit professor, I also enjoyeI loved psychoanalyzing Roxana and her relationships with Amy, her children, and her clients. Thanks to my brilliant Brit Lit professor, I also enjoyed discussing this book's structure (or lack thereof), the theme of redemption, and Defoe and his sadistic mind games. While I do not walk away from reading this changed or particularly impressed, I appreciate it on an intellectual level and as a work with a crazy narrator....more
An entertaining mock-epic concerning women, wealth, and society. Pope's florid writing style concerning such a trivial subject - a woman having her haAn entertaining mock-epic concerning women, wealth, and society. Pope's florid writing style concerning such a trivial subject - a woman having her hair cut off - emphasizes the themes within The Rape of the Lock, such as women's superficial facades in that time period. I gleaned more from discussion in class than I did while reading it on my own, so I would recommend reading about the poem's cultural context or talking about it with a friend, peer, teacher, or professor....more
A coming of age story centered on nineteen-year-old Sammy, a cashier at A&P - he witnesses three scantily-clad girls walking around in the store aA coming of age story centered on nineteen-year-old Sammy, a cashier at A&P - he witnesses three scantily-clad girls walking around in the store and that changes his life. For the brevity of the story there remains a decent amount to discuss, and even though it did not resound with me on a deeper level, I appreciated Updike's vivid writing style....more
A straightforward story about an average married couple who wish to emulate their neighbors. Carver does not add flourish or fancy or much finesse toA straightforward story about an average married couple who wish to emulate their neighbors. Carver does not add flourish or fancy or much finesse to his writing, but he does examine idealism, materialism, and other themes within this short story. Not the most exciting material but an okay read....more