My son's (age 5)reactions to events and situations are painfully familiar. When he was a toddler he was terrified of new pieces of clothing. He coversMy son's (age 5)reactions to events and situations are painfully familiar. When he was a toddler he was terrified of new pieces of clothing. He covers his ears in distress at louder noises and gets scared at the scariest parts of movies. He'd rather be home and his concern for the welfare of animals and classmates is more pronounced than in other children. I know what I'm dealing with because he is me. I had a general idea of how to parent him but I thought to find a book. I've found that most parenting books are somewhat useless, but this did help me answer some unanswered questions.
This book answers a lot of questions concerning discipline and the daily life of parenting an HSC. If you are not a highly sensitive adult you will not be left out. There is a section for you. This book covers ages newborn to high school.
If you are a highly sensitive adult then this will be a validation that you are not alone and you have an advantage. You know the excruciating experiences you went through and you are made aware of how lucky your child is to have you as their guide.
In other reviews, there was some concern about this book promoted entitlement and catering to children's every whim such as letting them choose what to eat. I would like to counter that by saying that the author also believes in having children start getting out of their comfort zones as early as preschool. I firmly agree with her in that it is better to let my child feel a little bit of trauma early so that he can work through the feelings now instead of as an teen or as a adult. As much as it pains to hear about my child's discomfort at school I know he must become familiar with the process in which to deal with it internally. I've done this. I've got this. I've got his hand and his back the entire way.
I also like how this book emphasises that using guilt as punishment is wrong. I think it's criminal. We have too many mommies running around with mommy guilt as it is. A HSC will wilt with guilt. Hell, any child would. Please stop.
The book also lets you know that if you are a highly sensitive parent you must find peace with this. You will be the one to instruct your child that has these traits that they will see the world in way that others simply cannot. It is a blessing and curse to feel this deeply, but to be creative and see the beauty that others bypass makes for an exquisite existence. ...more
I loved this book and for several reasons. The story has a minimalist setting with minimalist cast of characters. The story and the emotions experiencI loved this book and for several reasons. The story has a minimalist setting with minimalist cast of characters. The story and the emotions experienced by these characters in the cold terrain of Alaska had me up and down the emotion spectrum.
A childless couple heads to Alaska to make their home. Mabel and Jack are isolated mostly at Mabel's request. Mabel is suffering from deep depression to the point of contemplating suicide. This starts the story. At first I was not liking Mabel. I never felt it my place to judge suicide as a selfish. I did, however, think it was selfish of Mabel to bring along her husband and expect him to till the soil and bring in an income alone all while she isolates herself indoors with sorrow was pretty selfish. She barely knew how saddle a horse. I completely understand her depression and the need to be with her husband away from everyone, but going to a godforsaken hell-cold place ill-prepared and bringing someone with her is terribly selfish. And at the beginning everything about them and their decision was very wrong. And at the end everything was so very right.
I loved that the minimalist cast of characters experienced the wide range of human emotions that come with the simple, but oh so complex, facts of life. Birth. Death. Food. Friends. Family. It was all very intense and at times very fantastic. It is a good storyteller who can weave a story into an existing fairytale and leave us wondering what human emotions and logic could possibly explain the events put before us. It is also a reminder that we very much want people to change because we think they will be happy like WE are. But everyone has histories and personal developed sets of rules we abide by and it is by those experiences that we decide what makes us happy as individuals. Faina's choice in the end was selfish, but it was her nature. And like all human experience what we do has a domino affect. Who decides what is right?...more
A very funny book and true to parenting life. I laughed many times. I laughed mostly when crappy papa gets a mutated form of illness than crappy mama.A very funny book and true to parenting life. I laughed many times. I laughed mostly when crappy papa gets a mutated form of illness than crappy mama. ...more
James Thurber delivers a unique adventure story that stays true the fairy tale formula. There is a uniqueness to the story. There is poetry among theJames Thurber delivers a unique adventure story that stays true the fairy tale formula. There is a uniqueness to the story. There is poetry among the nonsense and nonsense among the poetry. A terrible villain at that.
"The castle clocks were murdered," said the Duke. "I killed time here myself one snowy morning. You still can see the old brown stains, where seconds bled to death. Here on my sleeve." He laughed. ...more
Before I see the movie, I wanted to the read the book adaptation. I love mash-up up stories of fairy tales. I wasn't too terribly impressed with the sBefore I see the movie, I wanted to the read the book adaptation. I love mash-up up stories of fairy tales. I wasn't too terribly impressed with the story, but I love the message that even though we make decisions individually and we act alone, we are not alone as others will be impacted by those decisions, wise or poor. Life moves forward either way. ...more
Minli is a girl from a poor village who sees her parents struggle and suffer through hard work and hunger. Minli is an optimist to the very end and inMinli is a girl from a poor village who sees her parents struggle and suffer through hard work and hunger. Minli is an optimist to the very end and in between the reader joins her and her dragon on an adventure to bring fortune and peace to her parents and her village. This fantasy novel reminded me of an extended version of a Chinese fairytale. It is a lovely story about adversity, family, friendship and kindness. My favorite part of this story was the concept of the red thread. The red thread is what binds people together. When Minli finally reaches the old man on the moon he is surrounded by an elaborate red lace the represents all of humanity. Love that stuff....more
The Underground Man is loathsome and pathetic. This character repulsed me and then I realized Dostoyevsky got what he wanted, making him the masterfulThe Underground Man is loathsome and pathetic. This character repulsed me and then I realized Dostoyevsky got what he wanted, making him the masterful writer that he is....more
This book is a time travel fantasy between two British girls in two different time periods, the 1960s and 1918 at the end of the WWI. The two girls neThis book is a time travel fantasy between two British girls in two different time periods, the 1960s and 1918 at the end of the WWI. The two girls never meet and get stuck in their estranged eras for a long while before returning to their home times. A very peculiar and lovely novel. The Cure based their song with the same title on this novel....more
Oh, how I wish there was more and more Fionna and Cake. I know she's the Ice King's fan fiction, but she's a wonderful role model. Yeah. I think so. WOh, how I wish there was more and more Fionna and Cake. I know she's the Ice King's fan fiction, but she's a wonderful role model. Yeah. I think so. While reading this I craved flan and when I do get it I will not dare stare into the enchanted glaze. Love me some Fionna and Cake. ...more
Nellie Bly's stunt style of journalism is nothing new to us. But in 1885 and NO internet her reporting was ground-breaking for her time. For me, the sNellie Bly's stunt style of journalism is nothing new to us. But in 1885 and NO internet her reporting was ground-breaking for her time. For me, the shocking thing about reading this was how even after a hundred years women, minorities, and immigrants continue to struggle for equal pay and equal rights. There have been major strides in women's rights, but women are still paid less than men and reading about it over a century ago makes it even more sad.
When Nellie brought up the idea of herself travelling solo around the world to her editor said: "It is impossible for you to do it. In the first place you are a woman and would need a protector, and even if it were possible for you to travel alone you would need to carry so much baggage that it would detain you in making rapid changes. Besides you speak nothing but English, so there is no use talking about it; no one but a man can do this." Nellie's response: "Very well. Start the man, and I'll start the same day for some other newspaper and beat him."
I was impressed with Bly's interview with Susan B. Anthony. I love what Anthony has to say about bicycling: "Let me tell you what I think about bicycling. I think it has done more to emancipate women than anything else in the world. I stand and rejoice every time I see a woman ride by on a wheel. It gives woman a feeling of freedom and self-reliance. It makes her feel as if she were independent. The moment she takes her seat she knows she can't get into harm unless she gets off her bicycle, and away she goes, the picture of free, untrammelled womanhood."
When asked what the new women will be she replied" "She will be free. Then she'll be whatever her best judgement wants to be. We can no more imagine what the true woman will be than we can what the true man will be."
Nellie Bly remains fascinating and inspiring for young girls and women of all ages. Love her!...more
Loved this book! A story about a mother with a loaded past trying to find her son who is loaded with naivete. A steampunk setting in a dystopian timeLoved this book! A story about a mother with a loaded past trying to find her son who is loaded with naivete. A steampunk setting in a dystopian time with a loathed, but much needed villain, not to mention the zombies, aka rotters, among a group of people struggling to survive. This book was dripping with dramatic irony that had both the characters and the readers on an emotional roller coaster. The story and plot were familiar, but Priest brought a fresh set of elements to a typical dystopian story. I'm rather bored with zombie stories anymore, so I was cautious about this book. Priest brought a fresh, reasonable explanation for the rotters instead of the typical supernatural reason. I loved the brown font color, too. Nice touch to a steampunk novel. ...more
Lizzy Borden meets Lovcraftian beasties in this clever book of horror. Priest did a wonderful job taking the true life unfortunate events of Lizzie BoLizzy Borden meets Lovcraftian beasties in this clever book of horror. Priest did a wonderful job taking the true life unfortunate events of Lizzie Borden and filling in the blanks with Cthulhu mythos. It makes perfect sense! A hot love affair, water-logged monsters that meet their fate at Lizzie's axe, and a call from the sea that haunts the inflicted.
About Lizzie's lover, Nance: "She's on the floor in the kitchen, and she...she isn't responding," I said, trying to force myself to treat this like a scientist, as if this might be new data. It was my lover, and she wasn't herself right now. For all I knew, she might never be herself again--she could twist and worm and transform into one of the monsters with the glass-needle teeth, and then I'd have to kill her, and put her body into the cooker, and pretend that the juices and stench that remained were never the soft flesh and warm hair of the woman I'd loved." p. 215
During a fight scene weapons are chosen: "I had my axe. He had my father's old gun, and that was good. Let it serve some purpose after all, and after all these years. One last hurrah from the thing, and one more hurrah for the old soldier who fired it into the night." p.414