This is one of those books that I felt unprepared for. There is so much here. I became overwhelmed witI liked Cat's Eye, but it made me feel terrible.
This is one of those books that I felt unprepared for. There is so much here. I became overwhelmed with the themes and commentaries and issues. So I focused on the story.
I loved reading about Elaine's childhood. I loved the description of the time, the scene, the day to day life of another generation. The children were fascinating in their meanness, a meanness I remember. Was I that mean? The idea that I may have been is heartbreaking. Once the main character reached college I lost a lot of my interest in the story and started thinking more about the social commentary. The character's motivations were less understandable and in one of the last few chapters I lost respect for her entirely.
Like The Handmaid's Tale, I was impressed by the timelessness of this novel. I've been reading a lot of feminist blogs lately and I have been amazed at that parallels between this book written in 1988 and the issues women are discussing today. In the book the main character attends of feminist group meetings in the 1960. She says that she feels like she doesn't fit in because she hasn't suffered enough. She's never been beaten, raped or abused (of course she was abused in the story, although not in stereotypical way and mostly by girls) and so she feels like her contribution to the women's discussion is not valid or important. Honestly that is exactly the way I feel sometimes reading feminist blogs....more
I think I'm just not the target audience for this book. I picked it because I'm having a personal mini-crisis trying to decide if I should stop dyingI think I'm just not the target audience for this book. I picked it because I'm having a personal mini-crisis trying to decide if I should stop dying my hair. She writes in a conversational and easy going style that I enjoyed reading. But at an early-grayer, most of the book isn't relevant to me. She talks a lot about age-appropriateness and authenticity but doesn't really cover the situation where gray hair isn't age appropriate. She does mention this in the case of men, but not women (and in doing so she calls Steve Martin a sex symbol... ummm no). Also, Going Gray doesn't talk about any health or environmental consequences of hair dye, which in my mind are the most important considerations.
She does research and informal experiments about the attractiveness, perceived age, and employablilty and style of a gray haired woman. All of the research was done with women over the age of 31 and the majority were over 49. She says "And gray hair made only the youngest of the women... appear older than they actually were. To me the data indicates that when gray hair is age-appropriate (from our 40s onward) we don’t actually fool people about our age when we dye it."
She also discussed the time and money that women and men put into maintaining a non-gray head of hair. This is where things stop being believable. Kreamer claims that women who make $25K-$50K spend an average $60/month on hair color. All I can say is WHA? I spend $17 every 6-8 weeks. And I thought that was too much.
I tried. I wanted to read it, and I wanted to like it, and I wanted to learn from it. I just couldn't master the reading part.
The style can only be dI tried. I wanted to read it, and I wanted to like it, and I wanted to learn from it. I just couldn't master the reading part.
The style can only be described as "this is the reason so many people are afraid of non-fiction". While her actual points are not difficult to grasp, especially since they are so often re-hashed in other place that they don't feel new, the language makes me feel like I'm not smart enough to read this book. The word "academia" comes to mind, along with a number of feminist bloggers who I no longer read because the education privilege is unbearable. I'm not uneducated. Just not in the right topics apparently.
I am justifying quitting because this book is nearly 20 years old. The issues remain, but the examples and the culture are laughably out of date. For the parts I did read, the out of date-ness was more interesting than the content. Examples of how far our society has come are numerous, as are examples of how much worse the beauty culture is getting....more
So here is an embarrassing admission: I had believed that this was fiction. I thought it was about an imaginary sister of Shakespeare. Turns out, no.So here is an embarrassing admission: I had believed that this was fiction. I thought it was about an imaginary sister of Shakespeare. Turns out, no. It's a critique of literature and women's place in literature through 1920.
I'm making efforts to educate myself on feminism and the women's movement. Yes, I think there were some good points. But really could not figure out how deciphering the rambling sentences was worth while. Not being a specialist in 1920s literature I didn't know most of the writers she referenced. I could hardly stay awake, in fact, I didn't stay awake. It took me more than a week to get through 109 pages!...more
I wish I had the energy to review each essay, as there were some winners and some losers, and I have opinions on many. But I'm too lazy for that. I s I wish I had the energy to review each essay, as there were some winners and some losers, and I have opinions on many. But I'm too lazy for that. I skipped a few that were not my taste. ...more
Only the last chapter had any sort of point and was worth reading. The rest is interview after interview of women who all repeat the same basic talkinOnly the last chapter had any sort of point and was worth reading. The rest is interview after interview of women who all repeat the same basic talking points over and over. These women say some ludicrous and problematic things that Matchar doesn't call them on with and force until the end. Maybe she's trying to be nice, to not call anyone out by name.
There's also this confusion, both in the book and in responses to it, between crafty DIY and the "homesteading" DIY. Many of the hobby crafts are about making art (or decorations or whatnot), not about making useful things. Its a huge distinction that she glosses over, leaving the window open for reviews to get defensive. ...more
I liked Crazy Salad. Some people call it outdated. I call it history. I did skip one chapter because nothing bores me like Watergate.
Scribble ScribbleI liked Crazy Salad. Some people call it outdated. I call it history. I did skip one chapter because nothing bores me like Watergate.
Scribble Scribble on the other hand, that is outdated. If all the Watergate stuff wasn't boring enough, the rest is about infighting and minor scandals among reporters. Minor scandals and infighting don't age well....more