Would have been 4 stars, but they skimped on an editor, and it showed in some really obvious ways. When you are writing a book about babies, you reall...moreWould have been 4 stars, but they skimped on an editor, and it showed in some really obvious ways. When you are writing a book about babies, you really need to spell the word "onesie" correctly every time. And sometimes it was confusing to follow their lists or bullet points because the formatting was inconsistent and confusing.
But as for the actual content.
I found this to be really useful as a quick reference for basic questions. Things like, how long can I store breast milk, what kind of temperature should I be worried about, how to clip babies' nails, etc. I definitely read every section, and the way the book is written is very approachable and easy to understand even if you are super sleep-deprived. So great information.
These types of guides are always written as a "You have to do all this exactly or your child will probably be a psychopath!!!" kind of thing. So I always read them and take what I like, and leave what I don't like, and use them as a guide and not a Bible. Read that way, their "typical days" section was quite useful. I was having a hard time figuring out my baby's napping patterns, and even though I don't follow the clockwork schedule they lay out, because it doesn't work exactly for my baby, it was helpful to get general guidelines from it. (Oh, it's normal for a baby to want to nap again after being awake for only an hour and a half, good to know!)
They err too much to the "cry it out" strategy for my tastes, and sorta fell all over themselves to justify it. (less)
His reflections about working in the front end of the hotel match mine exactly. I have gone on and on forever about some...moreI loved this book so so much.
His reflections about working in the front end of the hotel match mine exactly. I have gone on and on forever about some of the same things Tomsky addresses here: if you're rude to your front desk agent, we're gonna give you a shitty room, tip us and you'll be front of the line for anything you want, whatever you do DON'T be an ass to a bellman. (I have seen times where a guest is a jerk or cheap, and then hands a stack of postcards to a bellman to send out. They'll get sent, alright... and there will be pictures of penises drawn on them.)
Long story short: DON'T BE SHITTY TO PEOPLE WHO PROVIDE SERVICE TO YOU. We have ways of wreaking revenge, I promise.
But my favorite thing was his attitude about customers, management, coworkers, etc. I knew I was going to like this book when he talked about getting promoted from his first hotel job, valet, to the front desk. One of the other valets warns him, "Don't forget where you came from, Tommy."
"I never have. Valet 4 Life, motherfuckers."
(It would really be totally impossible to write a book about working in a hotel without using an obscene amount of profanity, so expect lots of that going in.)
Absolutely, the best times working at a hotel were when the crew really had an us (workers) vs. them (customers) mentality. When the bellman would help hustle guests into paying for upgrades (commission for me, thank you very much) and agents would help hustle the guests into accepting help with their bags (tip for bell, thank you very much).
I am not going to say that Tomsky is the most brilliant, flawless writer ever, but this was just. So great. So validating. So satisfying. An easy five stars. (less)
A very fast, very enjoyable read. I loved just about everything about the way Anne Lamott wrote this. The political humor, the honesty, the sentimenta...moreA very fast, very enjoyable read. I loved just about everything about the way Anne Lamott wrote this. The political humor, the honesty, the sentimentality, the prose. Just wonderful. A very good read while I'm busy trying to stay alive while gestating my own little boy.
One of my favorite passages:
"People kept trying to prepare me for how soft and mushy my stomach would be after I gave birth, but I secretly thought, Not this buckerina. I think most people undergoing chemo secretly believe they won't lose their hair.
Oh, but my stomach, she is like a waterbed covered with flannel now. When I lie on my side in bed, my stomach lies politely beside me, like a puppy."
I was laughing hysterically, out loud, for much of this book, and constantly reading little bits of it to my husband. There are tons of good little tidbits, too many to quote. (less)
So I don't usually read self-help books. At all. I kinda hate them. And I don't usually read hippy dippy Buddhist stuff either, because I get too scof...moreSo I don't usually read self-help books. At all. I kinda hate them. And I don't usually read hippy dippy Buddhist stuff either, because I get too scoffy.
When I started this one, I almost didn't go past the first chapter, because it was not really resonating with me at all. And parts of the book (like the closing chapter on discovering our true essence and realizing we are nothing but awareness..... super hippy dippy) totally fell flat.
But there were a few key sections, and really the overarching concept, that were just so useful and important and applicable. I liked a lot how she used real life anecdotes about people applying these concepts to their own challenges.
I particularly appreciated the chapter on how to accept fear and the accompanying meditation guide for how to work through fear to a place of acceptance and power. It is a skill set I need to develop in a bad way before I go through childbirth in a few months. :)
I'm also on a somewhat hippy-dippy "journey" in general to reshape/revitalize my spirituality which I thought had been permanently killed and buried, and which I'm really enjoying being able to connect with in new ways. And reading about different spiritual experiences people have with these meditation techniques, and feeling the familiarity of it all from when I used to pray on my knees to Jesus, really reawakened a desire to use that part of myself.
I was gonna give it 4 stars, but there were some random, subtle hints of misogyny (totally random calling of one woman a bitch, and a few little diatribes about how uncaring mothers can emotionally fuck up their children for life). Disappointing to see those in here in a couple of spots, but not enough to eliminate the usefulness of a 300-page book. (less)