Life takes us through obstacles... some, more obstacles than others but I've come to the understanding that I was given this life because I'm strong enLife takes us through obstacles... some, more obstacles than others but I've come to the understanding that I was given this life because I'm strong enough to live it... (hence the new layout)
Anyways, as a few of you know, I have been going through a REALLY difficult time these past few months. If you didn't notice, minus a few status comments, here's the low-down.
In March, my ex-husband, Joe, decided to start a custody battle. This time going for full custody, when we've shared joint since our divorce was finalized 5 years ago. He has a new wife that has been pushing and pushing for him to take me to court in order to pursue full custody of Travis and Lela. Joe shows up at my folks house on a Saturday, unexpectantly, and picks up the kids...granted this was still 'my week' of visitation. I was alarmed and SO upset that he did so, since the kids were just spending the night at the house. I ended up calling the police and in return, was told that I had to wait until the following Monday, to file something with the courts because we had JOINT custody. I went NUTS and ended up going 34 days without seeing my children. Those that know me, know that I have issues if I don't see them after the 7 days of their dad's visitation. So this would explain alot of the 'status things'. Well, LONG story short, after over $10k in lawyer fees (on our end) and tons of court dates, the judge ruled last month that I am a good mother and there is no grounds on which a change in custody will be granted. This was the answer to our prayers.
So May 10th came around. That was Travis' birthday AND Mother's Day. It was a GREAT day and with court ruling in our favor this past week, it made my Mother's Day that much MORE special. The kids each had made me things at school, which was the best, and it was truly THE BEST Mother's day I ever had.
Work had been picking up, for me..Brian is an Army Veteran as of March 19, 2009 and is now employed through the Dept of Homeland Security.
Anyways, things were going really well, until we received a call on or around May 17th. Brian got a call from his brother that their mom wasn't doing well. She, Linda, has had Melanoma cancer for about 18 years. She had had a relapse the past few years and recently had swelling in the right side of her brain. Well the swelling had then spread to the left side and with all the swelling, it was putting pressure onto the brain stem. Her body was starting to shut down and we were told the 18th that she wouldn't make it through the end of the year. We drive over to Couer d'Alene, ID on the 22nd and when we get there that morning, we find out that the doctor had said that she wouldn't make it past 2 weeks. The rest of the family showed up, 7 of the 8 kids were there. This meant everything to Linda AND to their Dad, Ron. Later that afternoon, Linda is in so much pain, that even extreme doses of Morphine AND Atavan aren't helping. The doctor comes to speak to all of us and states that if they increase the dosage to comfort her, she'll be in a coma...drug-induced, that is. They also state that she'll live about 2 hours. Ron and the kids decide that this would be for the best for her due to her level of pain. Well, Linda survived SIX days, rather than the 2 hours they had predicted. She was 55 yrs young and is a woman that I will forever admire for her strength and courage. She left us for Heaven's gates on May 28th. While driving over the second time to ID, I had stopped at Target and bought the book, "My Sister's Keeper". I had seen the preview for the movie and whenever there's a movie based on a book, I like to read the book prior to watching the movie. Anyways, I finished this book two days ago. It was one of the most amazing books I have ever read. Maybe after losing my mother-in-law to cancer and watch her die, I felt closer to the book. Our story isn't the same as the storyline BUT it was similar and it touched me.
LONG STORY SHORT... Life's too short to take it for granted. I've been saying this since I lost David in Sept. 2006 BUT with the past few months and all that has happened, I've proven it. I cannot linger on all the bad and sadness because if I do, I'll isolate everyone that means everything to me. Which I did do slightly through all this and I think I've apologized to those that I did.
Anyways, I know this is almost a novel LONG but I needed to well, vent, and wanted to share my story. Hope everyone is enjoying the beginning of summer. I have 10 Weddings coming up to work, along with my own. As well as putting together the new website for Operation: Forget Me Not and finalizing other paperwork with Rachelle for the ORG.
In closing... "The angels are always near to those who are grieving, to whisper to them that their loved ones are safe in the hand of God."
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