I had a really hard time with this book. I take things at face value and I can't often sift through others' unfiltered thoughts, especially when they...moreI had a really hard time with this book. I take things at face value and I can't often sift through others' unfiltered thoughts, especially when they go all over the place. The book felt very unorganized, which as it turns out is how grief manifests itself, but it was hard for me to follow and understand.
I read this as a recommendation from another grief book I'm reading by Dr. Alan Wolfelt. He recommended it to show how one person struggled through their grief. In that instance, it was insightful, but I didn't feel like I could relate to CS Lewis because I lost my mother not my lover. The feelings he had weren't the same I experienced, well maybe on a grander scale, but it was hard to put them together.
There was one thing I did like that CS Lewis said. It's at the beginning of the last chapter:
"Grief is like a long valley, a winding valley where any bend may reveal a totally new landscape ... not every bend does. Sometimes ... you are presented with exactly the same sort of country you thought you had left behind miles ago.... There are partial recurrences, but the sequence doesn't repeat."
I have felt very much like this since my mom passed away, and it's nice to see that others have felt that way too, that I'm not unique in that way, that everyone who grieves goes through these same experiences just a little differently, that's all.(less)
I read this book as part of a bereavement group to help me with the loss of my mom.
I recognized many of the techniques Dr. Wolfelt used from my years...moreI read this book as part of a bereavement group to help me with the loss of my mom.
I recognized many of the techniques Dr. Wolfelt used from my years of counseling. It was validating to read about some of the coping mechanisms I had already learned for dealing with depression. And, the techniques he describes specifically for grief have helped me in this 8-week process.
Like any other self-help book, the recommendations and ideas laid out in the pages won't do the reader any good unless the reader is willing to listen, keep an open mind, and most importantly do the things suggested.
One of the most valuable things I've learned while reading this book is that no one should dictate my grief except me. No one should tell me to get over it, to move on, to be happy, etc. I should find people who are willing to listen without judgment when I have griefbursts. I also learned that there is no specific amount of time that grief should last. And, that no one really gets over grief; they simply learn to recognize it, work through it, and live with it.
I think in some cases, I was further along in my grief journey than the book was written for. And, my depression adds a complication to my grief. At times, it was hard to pinpoint where I was or how I felt, but that's normal anyway. Even with that said, reading this book was very rewarding and very validating. I'll definitely use it to continue my healing from my mom's passing, and I'll use it in the future when other loved ones die.(less)
I decided to read The False Princess because of my book club. I actually hadn't heard of it before and I thought it was The False Prince by Jennifer A...moreI decided to read The False Princess because of my book club. I actually hadn't heard of it before and I thought it was The False Prince by Jennifer A. Nielsen, a book I've been wanting to read for a while.
Even though The False Princess wasn't the book I was thinking it was, I'm glad I had a chance to read it. It was a very fun story. It kept me guessing until the end because of the twists and turns the author took us on. I did guess who the antagonist was pretty early on, but I didn't realize the whys or hows which was enough to keep me interested and on the edge of my seat.
I loved the concept of the story--a girl believing she was the princess for her entire life and then finding out she wasn't. It made for an interesting story and adventure. I thought it was fun to watch Sinda adapt and leave her life behind, yet still cling to a few things from her past. It was exciting to see her grow into her own person.
My favorite thing about this story, other than it being a fantasy with magic, is that there is no love triangle! Hallelujah! I'm so sick of love triangles that it was refreshing to see other conflict in a story for once. I ended up loving the protagonist and her love interest that much more too.
The only thing I wish is that this were a series. I want more! But, at the same time, it's nice that everything ended nicely. There are some questions left unanswered and some things left unexplored, so a sequel could be possible, but if not, the ending was very satisfying.(less)
As I said in my review of Alice’s Adventure’s in Wonderland, I decided to read these two books because I want to read Frank Beddor’s The Looking Glass...moreAs I said in my review of Alice’s Adventure’s in Wonderland, I decided to read these two books because I want to read Frank Beddor’s The Looking Glass Wars trilogy and I thought I should start with a proper foundation. Just like with Alice’s Adventure’s in Wonderland, I thought Through the Looking-Glass was a discombobulated book of nonsense.
I didn’t have high hopes going into this one because I didn’t enjoy the first one very much. On that note, I wasn’t too disappointed by it, but I still didn’t enjoy it. Alice still went off on unnecessary tangents, nothing was coherent nor did anything make any sense, and this book was even more confusing than the first one which is a feat!
The only thing I liked about Through the Looking-Glass were the backwards letters on everything and the “Jabberwocky” poem. I think it’s neat that Carroll coined the terms galumph and chortle. And, the fact that everything takes place on a chessboard is also kind of neat, except that you can’t follow the game very well so it really doesn’t add anything to the story.
The one thing I did learn from reading both of these books is that most adaptations to these stories mix the two together. For example, in Disney’s Alice in Wonderland, the talking flowers, Tweedle Dee and Tweedle Dum, and the Walrus and the Carpenter tale are all in Through the Looking-Glass not Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland.
Even though I didn’t enjoy these very much, I’m glad I took the opportunity to read them. If for nothing else just to familiarize myself with them and get a foundation in the cannon of Alice and her adventures.(less)
This is the first time I’ve ever read this classic story. I’ve been somewhat familiar with Alice’s Adventure’s in Wonderland because of the numerous m...moreThis is the first time I’ve ever read this classic story. I’ve been somewhat familiar with Alice’s Adventure’s in Wonderland because of the numerous movie tie-ins. However, I was never versed in the original story. I decided to read it because I want to read Frank Beddor’s The Looking Glass Wars trilogy and I thought I should start with a proper foundation. I was expecting a fun, whimsical tale about Alice’s adventures in Wonderland. Instead, what I read was a discombobulated book of nonsense. Gasp!
I tried to like this book. I really did. But there were only very few parts that Carroll actually showed and not told. I now understand the importance of that writing rule! All the telling was boring. And, Alice was always off on some tangent that had nothing to do with the story, which didn’t add anything to it. In fact, it just made me hate it. Plus, Alice is seven years old? Really?! She acted more like a teenager or even an adult.
I liked the idea of the story–a young girl somehow finding herself trapped in a world she doesn’t understand, meeting curious creatures and people, and then finding out that it’s all a dream. Such a great idea! If only the execution were better. Nothing was coherent and there was no rhyme or reason for anything. I take things at face value. Allegories and symbolism are completely wasted on me most of the time. One of the reasons I hated my literature classes so much was the constant analyzing of books’ meanings. Sometimes, a book is just a book. But, I digress.
My favorite part of the story was Carroll’s description of the Queen of Hearts’ court. I loved that he didn’t just come out and say that everyone was part of a pack of cards until he gave you visualization of it all. And, I loved that the different suits meant different things. It was fun and it made those characters come alive for the short time they were there. I wish the rest of the book were like this.
I’m going to read Through the Looking-Glass next. I’m not looking forward to it to say the least, but I really want to make sure I understand Carroll’s world before I dive into Beddor’s. Hopefully, I’ll like Through the Looking-Glass better than I did Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland, but I don’t have high hopes.(less)
I loved the concept of the factions. I thought they were really interesting. The idea of focusing on one virtue seems worth...moreI really enjoyed Divergent.
I loved the concept of the factions. I thought they were really interesting. The idea of focusing on one virtue seems worthy, yet as characters point out, it can't work. The bad creeps in. And, why can't society be based on all of the above and not just in groups? Balance is the key in my opinion and that's, of course, why this society is dystopian.
As I read Divergent, I kept thinking about what faction I'd choose to be in. I know I wouldn't be in Candor, Erudite, or Abnegation. And, Dauntless seems awesome because I'm quite the thrill seeker. But, I don't think I'd survive all the fighting. Honestly, I think Amity would be my best fit. But, because the factions are so separate, I only had a small glimpse of Amity so I'm not positive.
I really liked the characters, especially Tris and Four. I think being in Tris's shoes would be hard. I think being in any of the initiates' shoes would be. You're brought up one way and expected to either stay in that way of life or choose another one that you have no knowledge of. The choice seems impossible because you can't go back from it. Tris showed the reader that feeling well and Four showed the reader what it was like to overcome those feelings yet stay true to yourself.
I really liked the buildup to the climax. I liked that we got to know the characters and the world before the antagonists truly revealed themselves. If that action had shown up sooner, I think the story would've been confusing and the emotional connection to the characters wouldn't have been there.(less)