Quotes from the book say it better than any commentary from me:
“I have always been complaining that my work was constantly interrupted; then I realizeQuotes from the book say it better than any commentary from me:
“I have always been complaining that my work was constantly interrupted; then I realized that the interruptions were my work.”
“Grateful people learn to celebrate even amid life’s hard and harrowing memories because they know that pruning is no mere punishment, but preparation.”
“In so many encounters we try to look away from the pain. We try to help our friends quickly process grief. We hastily look for ways to bring cheer to a child or ailing aunt. All the while, however, we act less out of genuine ‘suffering with’ and more out of our need to stand back from the discomfort we fear we might feel. We secretly, restlessly want to move from the place where it hurts. Our evasions do not help others, of course, but rather cause them to put up defenses and drive away those who need someone to care.”
“I realized that healing begins with our taking our pain out of its diabolic isolation and seeing that whatever we suffer, we suffer it in communion with all of humanity, and yes, all of creation. In so doing, we become participants in the great battle against the powers of darkness. Our little lives participate in something larger.”
"I am less likely to deny my suffering when I learn how God uses it to mold me and draw me closer to him. I will be less likely to see my pains as interruptions to my plans and more able to see them as the means for God to make me ready to receive him. I let Christ live near my hurts and distractions.”
“Community, then, cannot grow out of loneliness, but comes when the person who begins to recognize his or her belovedness greets the belovedness of the other. The God alive in me greets the God resident in you. When people can cease having to be for us everything, we can accept the fact they may still have a gift for us. They are partial reflections of the great love of God, but reflections nevertheless. We see that gift precisely and only once we give up requiring that person to be everything, to be God. We see him or her as a limited expression of an unlimited love.”
“Time has to be converted, then, from chronos, mere chronological time, to kairos, a New Testament Greek word that has to do with opportunity, with moments that seem ripe for their intended purpose. Then, even while life continues to seem harried, while it continues to have hard moments, we say, “Something good is happening amid all this.” We get glimpses of how God might be working out his purposes in our days. Time becomes not just something to get through or manipulate or manage, but the arena of God’s work with us. Whatever happens— good things or bad, pleasant or problematic—we look and ask, “What might God be doing here?” We see the events of the day as continuing occasions to change the heart. Time points to Another and begins to speak to us of God."
“The great paradox is that it is in letting go, we receive. We find safety in unexpected places of risk. And those who try to avoid all risk, those who would try to guarantee that their hearts will not be broken, end up in a self-created hell.”...more
I actually give this 4 and half stars because I hardly ever give anything 5 stars. There are so few books out there that have common sense, empatheticI actually give this 4 and half stars because I hardly ever give anything 5 stars. There are so few books out there that have common sense, empathetic, and realistic advice on the topic of being a caregiver for a dementia/Alzheimer's hero. And not too preachy or filled with medical terminology that puts you to sleep. This book provides constructive and easy ideas on how to get through the grieving process while understanding it is different for everyone. The author makes you feel as though he is your freind and you are sitting at the kitchen table and just talking about life and its ups and downs. He also boosts your confidence by letting you know you are to be commended for taking up the challenge of caring for your loved one and that many valuable lessons will be learned on the journey. ...more
So much of what I saw in my mother's transition to heaven three months ago from Alzheimer's was similar to the journeys related in this book. It madeSo much of what I saw in my mother's transition to heaven three months ago from Alzheimer's was similar to the journeys related in this book. It made me feel secure in my hopes for my own death journey some day. ...more
Ok, I was really looking forward to this book because Matt Talbot has a great life story. But the way this book was written drove me insane. It was wrOk, I was really looking forward to this book because Matt Talbot has a great life story. But the way this book was written drove me insane. It was written in a hokey 1955 way, but it seemed like it was written much earlier. Anyway, it was repetitive and contained way too much useless detail. I ended up skimming most of the book pausing at Matt's own words and the words of witnesses who knew him. Matt Talbot's recovery from addiction is powerful. You can learn more about him from the official Matt Talbot website. He is in the process of being canonized.
This blurb is from the website. Matt Talbot (1856 - 1925) was born in the poverty of Dublin's inner city. He began drinking at twelve years of age and became a chronic alcoholic. It was the drug culture of the 19th century. Matt was an addict. After sixteen years he decided to 'kick the habit'. A priest helped him, giving him a rehabilitation programme, which providentially incorporated the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. That was fifty years before AA was founded. After a horrendous struggle, he found sobriety through prayer and self-sacrifice. His Higher Power was the Christian God. He remained sober for forty years until his death. His life story has been an inspiration for alcoholics and addicts throughout the world. He is a candidate for canonisation in the Catholic Church
from the book--here are some quotes of Matt's that I noted:
Dr. Moore warned Matt Talbot when he left the hospital in 1924 that he might die suddenly of heart disease at any time, when Mrs. Fylan heard this she urged Matt to carry in his pocket a piece of paper indicating his name and address, in case of an accident. But Matt replied "what do I need with my name and address? Won't God be with me when I die?"
God will not ask us how eleoquently we have spoken, but how well we have lived.
To know God and to understand His ways and to watch in His presence in all sanctity is the great end of life.
God is the wisdom of purified souls. Man can fly from evrything in nature but he cannot fly from himself.
Jesus Christ is at once the beginning, the way and the immortal end which we must strive to gain, but above all in Holy Communion he is the Life of our souls.
The Son of God by becoming man sanctified all the states and conditions of men. Jesus was not always preaching nor healing but he always prayed and suffered. [This one is my favorite quote. :)]
Let us heed what St. Bernard says: Who shall give water to my eyes now and fountains of tears to my head that I may prevent weeping in hell by weeping now?
St. John speaks of the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes and the pride of life. They are nothing else but the love of pleasures, the love of riches and the love of honour. st. John ii. 16
Virtue is one of the most excellent things in Heaven or on earth,and so few follow it.
It is not our bodily presence that makes us belong to the world, but an attachment, an affection for its miserable vanities. ...more