Any book that promotes women getting and staying in touch with their emotions gets five stars from me. While I'm sure antidepressants and other psychiAny book that promotes women getting and staying in touch with their emotions gets five stars from me. While I'm sure antidepressants and other psychiatry drugs are nothing short of miraculous for many people--particularly those with major depression, etc.--most women, I think, would benefit from simply admitting their feelings are there because there's a valid reason. Learned a few things I didn't know, too....more
Some of the stories in this book lag a little, but the first and last ones make the whole book worth it. There's no refuting that Chabon is a great wrSome of the stories in this book lag a little, but the first and last ones make the whole book worth it. There's no refuting that Chabon is a great writer. ...more
**spoiler alert** Fascinating look at the world of Anonymous. I learned many lessons from this. 1) Anonymous is not really a group--at least not one w**spoiler alert** Fascinating look at the world of Anonymous. I learned many lessons from this. 1) Anonymous is not really a group--at least not one with a hierarchy. 2) Most people in Anonymous have average or slightly above-average computer skills (these are called "script-kiddies".) 3) Those that have great computer skills are revered, but they're not leaders. 4) Several of the attacks that the group has carried out weren't political, but done for the "lulz" (embarrassing someone else publicly for fun). 5) Most big companies employ only the most basic of security measures on the Web. 6) You never know when you're attracting the attention of someone who hates you. 7) Each level of security you employ increases your chances of outstripping a hacker's attention span. You may never reach 100%, but many people who spend the vast majority of their time online have short attention spans and get bored easily. So the goal of your online security isn't just to outsmart the smartest guy in Anonymous--it's to outlive his attention span. (The saying "There are no girls on the Internet" in this case is true. The VAST majority of hackers are male.)
You never know who is watching, and you probably wouldn't know whether someone has broken into your accounts until they MAKE it known. Someone could watch you for months, amassing a file, and eventually publish it for the sole purpose of embarrassing you. 8) Several in Anonymous who thought they were truly anonymous got a harsh lesson when the roles were reversed and it turned out the FBI and European authorities were watching. Three key players were arrested. One was arrested months before the others and was quickly turned into an informant. 9) Many of the memes, saying and culture of the Internet originated with Anonymous and hacker culture. 10) Anonymous is not your friend. Almost any political intent is something you read into it. If it gets a chance to embarrass a person or an entity, it will. And that someone could be you. It's sort of a faceless version of the Joker from Nolan's version of Batman. "Some men just want to watch the world burn." ...more
If you love Palmer, you'll love this book. If you've never heard of her, I'm pretty sure you'll love this book. If you hate her, I hope this book chanIf you love Palmer, you'll love this book. If you've never heard of her, I'm pretty sure you'll love this book. If you hate her, I hope this book changes your mind. It did mine. I'm sorry to say I was a bit influenced by all the haters. I didn't quite get her, and now I think I do. She's open and she's different than most women and she's an artist. She's worked hard to be that, and she's done it by being open to her fans. It's something I would totally struggle to do.
If anything, this book made me think about the state of my life and how I've gotten to a point where I have trouble trusting people. I mean, there are people in my life I trust completely, but outside of my very small circle of friends and family, I don't trust anyone. So I appreciate that this book got me thinking about that aspect of my life. At the very least, I'm trying to stop yelling out "I don't have anything!" as a knee-jerk reaction when people approach me on the street. I mean, probably half of these people only want directions. So let's start with that, shall we?
Really love this. I strayed across this at the library and had heard of Alexie, but hadn't read any of his work. Now I'm totally obsessed with his wriReally love this. I strayed across this at the library and had heard of Alexie, but hadn't read any of his work. Now I'm totally obsessed with his writing. It's risky stuff that he pulls off with aplomb....more
Not sure I can rate this book. On the one hand, it speaks truth to power. On the other, the author seemed pretty rushed. What isn't white space in thiNot sure I can rate this book. On the one hand, it speaks truth to power. On the other, the author seemed pretty rushed. What isn't white space in this book is pretty basic advice. What it lacks is a systemic approach to realigning your thinking--although Taylor makes it clear that in order to stop underearning, this transformation must take place. But how? There's no plan.
For me, Dr. Martin Seligman's LEARNED OPTIMISM is a much better book to tackle how to change the way you think. Having studied optimism vs. pessimism for years, he provides a much more systematic and effective approach to how to change learned helplessness and pessimism. ...more
I read most of this on my commute to and from work. I managed to get through most of it quietly, but there were times Gay had me laughing (the ScrabblI read most of this on my commute to and from work. I managed to get through most of it quietly, but there were times Gay had me laughing (the Scrabble essay) and crying (the essay about her rape). That one hurt. I was riding along, just like she was, when suddenly she was in the woods with her boyfriend and his friends were waiting. I was there, too, reading. My breath caught because I knew then she was going to go into her rape. I got through it. I felt I had to, because she did. But the woman next to me kept looking at me like I was nuts or perhaps a bomb that was ready to explode. What could I say? I could only brush away the tears and keep on reading.
And I think, essentially, that's what this book is. A tiny monument to women who have to do the same. We get condescended, pushed aside, dismissed. We brush aside the frustration and tears and move forward. We work, we obtain degrees. And on the surface, this should seem like enough. But it's not. What Gay does is gets at what the heart of what feminism is: humanism. We want to be treated like human beings, like we're worthy of that being the starting point with every new relationship, be it personal or professional. We want to be treated like we matter.
Bit light on the content (lots of white space), but gives some great pointers to those considering allowing employees to work from home, and to anyoneBit light on the content (lots of white space), but gives some great pointers to those considering allowing employees to work from home, and to anyone starting a home-based business. They also have a job site, called "We Work Remotely," where they post good WFH jobs--professional ones, not those awful ones you see on Craigslist and the like. Good resource. Hope to see it updated....more
Stark and illuminating. Not just for the Columbine shooting, but for school shootings in general. As a society, we want to believe there's such a thinStark and illuminating. Not just for the Columbine shooting, but for school shootings in general. As a society, we want to believe there's such a thing as a profile of the school shooter--the depressed outcast who want revenges upon the people who wronged him. That was the erroneous narrative the media latched onto as soon as it began reporting, and it's the myth that survives to this day. Many of the "links" between school shootings are media fabrications.
This book clears it all up: the county sheriff who pretty much screwed everything up from the get-go (including a massive and totally incompetent cover-up), the ideas about the shooters themselves. After copious amounts of research (10 years), Cullen deftly moves us through the motivations of each killer--each of whom had serious psychological issues that somehow coalesced to culminate in the shooting.
Columbine, despite the word now being synonymous with "school shooting," was a failed bombing. Harris wanted a higher body count than the Oklahoma City bombing, and he and Klebold left timed bombs all over the school, scheduling them to detonate as they moved through the school shooting people. Luckily, Harris was not nearly as technologically inclined as he thought he was, and the bombs did not detonate due to his lack of understanding of circuitry.
Cullen also delves into the after-affects of the victims. A mother, robbed twice of her daughter--once in death and once in the shattering of the myth that she professed her belief in God before being shot; a girl left paralyzed, whose mother committed suicide; a grieving father denied the lifelong work he expected to do with his son in his shop.
Neither set of the killers' parents have ever spoken to the media, and Cullen is respectful of this, pointing out that it was a rational way to respond publicly. This must have been a tough book to write, perhaps even tougher than it was to read. But necessary. I'm so glad to have read this....more
I read this because I like reading books upon which movies are based (MUNICH, in this case). I don't know how much of it is true--and it's impossibleI read this because I like reading books upon which movies are based (MUNICH, in this case). I don't know how much of it is true--and it's impossible for anyone to really know. There's no "official" account because the mission, if it took place, was secret. But still, it was a good read and it's a great book for spy buffs. I learned a lot about the politics of the '70s....more