This is the perfect book for me to read right now. I think essentially, the author really gets the magical power of working with material surroundingsThis is the perfect book for me to read right now. I think essentially, the author really gets the magical power of working with material surroundings, not just in the result but also in the process. If you are interested in this subject and haven't already read it, you may also enjoy "Clear Your Clutter With Feng Shui"... which doesn't really use traditional Feng Shui, it is focused on the basic nature of the energetic influence of material surroundings.
Kondo has a fascinating perspective, because she has a powerful affinity for physical objects that in a way is very Japanese, and yet is taken to an idiosyncratic degree... that is very animistic and almost seems like a platonic version of 'object sexuality.' However unlike some people who are simply kooky and that is the end of it, she has taken this quirk far enough that it gives her a wonderfully insightful, perceptive way of relating to material things and also talking to other people about them, drawing out and emphasizing a perception that we probably all have to some degree. Sometimes I relate, sometimes I am impressed, and sometimes it seems weird but it makes the book more fun to read.
You have to take everything with a grain of salt and re-think some things.
For instance, she says "Don't buy organizing supplies." More accurately, don't depend on organizing supplies. Of course there are occasions now and then where organizing supplies are necessary, such as containers for the kitchen and bathroom, or to gather cleaning supplies.
She says, "Only keep things that spark joy." This is a great general rule, but exceptions have to go both ways. For instance when it comes to my clothes, my fancy clothes spark more joy than my most utilitarian clothes. But I have to have different standards for each, otherwise I have too much to choose from for the occasional events, and not enough (or anything!) to wear for housecleaning, gardening, and so on. Or conversely, let's say you have a passion--and this results in a passion for related material objects like books or unusual fabrics. But if you have too much of these good things, they begin to weigh you down--your collection as a whole no longer sparks joy. Yet whenever you take out an individual one, chances are it may still spark joy in you. So you have to have some concept of what size collection you want to aim for, and then raise your standard for the joy-sparking as necessary to get to that point.
One thing that is an excellent point, though, is the need to do this work all in one go. Although it can sound like she means just in one day, and in fact she says that she works with her clients for up to six months... This is something I've perceived too, but never really thought about. I've occasionally tried to put "declutter for 15 minutes" in a plan, but who can get enthusiasm up for that? although of course it is useful for piles of things "in transition" where their transition needs to be finished. Meanwhile, a serious bout of decluttering is very satisfying and even exciting, certainly clarifying and energizing....more
In some ways, when you've read one Fuhrman book you've read them all. This has a little bit more of a focus of gradually transitioning into eating inIn some ways, when you've read one Fuhrman book you've read them all. This has a little bit more of a focus of gradually transitioning into eating in this style, and how to eat in this style for the rest of your life. What I got out of it that was new could have been summarized in one page or less--primarily that we are trying to have 1/2+ lb raw veggies and 1/2+ lb raw veggies or fruits once per day respectively, generally before our regular meals. There's also detailed meal plans and recipes, but they're not to my taste--I get the impression that I wouldn't have liked the unhealthy version of these dishes either, there's a definite '50's made healthy' feeling to them, for me. Even then, it helps to see an example of how it can be done. As I was saying, even though there's not much new stuff, whenever I recommit to this general style of eating it helps as well to have a motivating refresher course in the basics as well....more
This book may not be perfect, it may not be the most sophisticated and well styled writing out there, but who cares? If you're so smart (and I wholeheThis book may not be perfect, it may not be the most sophisticated and well styled writing out there, but who cares? If you're so smart (and I wholeheartedly agree that you are), then you will be fully capable of taking these ideas and running with them, conceiving of them and applying them in a more sophisticated manner, if that's important to you.
I think Chapman had an insight that you won't commonly find anywhere else, and his writing is imbued with a deep desire to truly help people love each other. So much so that even though you don't need to buy the book, and can really apply these ideas just after reading 1 to 5 pages summarizing them and doing a little thinking, the full text has something nice to offer as well, even if it isn't required.
In most cases, putting these ideas to work is incredibly easy, and yet very effective. It might even not address the central problem in your relationship, but it will surely help with everything else, and that can only be for the better....more
I am glad that I read this book. It reads mildly like an infomercial at times, especially at the beginning. But don't let that put you off. (That sortI am glad that I read this book. It reads mildly like an infomercial at times, especially at the beginning. But don't let that put you off. (That sort of thing is generally a big turnoff for me, but I found it tolerable, with some skipping.) What's contained inside is still extremely useful, and can be adapted to a number of different purposes, with some imagination. If you're launching a product or business (or both), this book may give you many useful ideas, even if you don't follow what he lays out in every detail. Note that, especially if you aren't marketing exactly the type of product he's primarily writing for (selling information over the internet, such as in the form of video classes), you'll really want to keep your thinking cap on as you read, brainstorm and take notes. This isn't information you can absorb passively and then apply--you'll have to keep thinking on how this can be adapted for your particular situation....more
This is an excellent book. It's out of print, but it's worth buying a used copy. I read "Wishcraft" years ago, but really without a group it's not verThis is an excellent book. It's out of print, but it's worth buying a used copy. I read "Wishcraft" years ago, but really without a group it's not very useful, no matter how inspiring and smart it is when you first read it. "Teamworks" is about forming those groups, and it's very detailed. Personally I think it should be included with "Wishcraft" as a (long!) appendix.
There is a sad postscript, however. In "Teamworks" Barbara Sher declares that she's not interested in franchising, and exuberantly shares all kinds of information, not just for starting Success Teams but even for offering potentially paid seminars to get the teams started out. That was in the '80s. Well, if you check her website, you will find that this is no longer the case--now, at least in some form, she does engage in franchising, and the extremely (overly?) substantial package for leading seminars costs around $600. In some areas where a seminar leader is already located, they will not sell you the package. What I find really sad is that presumably people are still able to start their own free success teams, but this seems not to be encouraged, and starters are apparently obligated to state that they aren't licensed by Barbara Sher--but this isn't even clearly stated or encouraged. When you're in the middle of thinking of reaching out to strangers to work on a goal you're very stuck on and very vulnerable about, it's not great to read something so discouraging about actually doing what the author was convincing you to do... all because of money and liability.
If you're like me and whatever you read affects your moods more than it should, read the disappointing stuff on her website first, and then read the exciting and encouraging book-not the other way around!...more
I no longer remember it that well, but it was a sweet, light fantasy series--not perfect, but written fairly clean and fast (I do skip some sections),I no longer remember it that well, but it was a sweet, light fantasy series--not perfect, but written fairly clean and fast (I do skip some sections), and fairly original. The first book can be enjoyed on its own as well, and the romantic story is more vital there, because a bit pleasantly bland in the other books....more
A good book to check out, even for those who (probably) don't have ADD. Even if not everything is useful, there will likely be a few useful ideas. DonA good book to check out, even for those who (probably) don't have ADD. Even if not everything is useful, there will likely be a few useful ideas. Don't plan to buy, but may get from library again now and then....more