For some reason, goodreads only gives me the option of this book as an audiobook. I have the book, though, and recommend owning a copy so that you canFor some reason, goodreads only gives me the option of this book as an audiobook. I have the book, though, and recommend owning a copy so that you can make notes in the margins and mark areas that are most important. As with all parent-educational curriculum, I never accept all ideas presented in the book, but simply pick out some of the ideas that will be helpful to me and my baby's circumstances. And after that, I let my mother's intuition lead the way. The book is a priceless guide! No matter how much of it you decide to incorporate into your mothering techniques, it will help you find consistency. Another reason I recommend owning your own copy of this book is that if you find your methods are still failing to produce healthy sleep habits (which every mother discovers is the base of all happiness for her baby as well as for herself), then a re-read of the book will help you find in what areas you need to improve on. For instance, your baby (who, let's say, is five months old) is resisting taking any naps and it takes at least an hour to get him to go to sleep at night, and then he wakes repeatedly throughout the night, besides. As the days and nights continue in this fashion, your baby becomes more and more fussy and at times, inconsolable. So you read the book (which you should have read before he was born) and decide that you need to put him down for consistent naps and a set bedtime, even if this means your baby will cry. So you have to set a time limit for how long you'll let him cry (the idea being that he has to learn self-soothing skills, which is the first step required for healthy sleeping habits that will benefit him his whole life). You hate the idea of letting him cry [(SEGWAY: as all mothers do because our basic instinct tells us that when our baby cries, it's because he has a need we must fill... WHICH IS CORRECT! But where we often make the mistake is in how we answer the need for healthy sleep. Some of us may say, "well, he sleeps better when I hold him, so I'll just always hold him so he can get healthy sleep". The only problem with this method is that there comes a time in his life (in most cultures, sooner than later) that he is expected to sleep on his own. But because he has been held for so long during sleep (been denied the opportunity to develop self-soothing-himself-to-sleep skills) it's exponentially harder for him now to develop, and many adults still struggle with sleep issues because they didn't learn healthy sleep habits at the right and crucial time. END OF SEGWAY] So, you set a cry-allow time of ten minutes. But after a few days of trying your new-found methods, your baby is still resisting naps and bedtimes. You're getting frustrated and exhausted because you go in every ten minutes to calm him down and then you try all over again. This is a good time to re-read the book. Hopefully you'll find that by setting a ten minute cry limit, every time you went into your crying baby, you weren't soothing him, but stimulating him further, making it even harder for him to settle down. After you increase the cry time-limit, your baby is finally able to go to sleep on his own. This may seem cruel to you after letting him cry himself to sleep that first time, but you'll quickly learn that you gave him a HUGE gift when you see how happily he settles into bed, being able to sooth himself easily now that he's not so overtired and overstimulated. And his personality flourishes and you thank your lucky stars that you read Babywise.
I've got a 2 1/2 year-old and a 9-month old and they have excellent sleep habits. And when they're awake, they're very bright, alert, and extremely happy. Thanks, Candice, for telling me about this book!...more
Alex and I are doing these little lessons every day for the Summer. So far, she likes that we do lessons together, but she's not as into it as I am...Alex and I are doing these little lessons every day for the Summer. So far, she likes that we do lessons together, but she's not as into it as I am.... I have on good authority that once you get to lesson 30, the child kicks into gear and initiates the lessons more than the mom. I can't tell you how much I love this book so far. The methods used to teach your child how to read are genius, simple, and it WORKS!...more