I'm not a fan of the title... it's really a book for *anyone* interested in personal growth. It is easy to read, and contains many of the tools I recoI'm not a fan of the title... it's really a book for *anyone* interested in personal growth. It is easy to read, and contains many of the tools I recognize to have been effective in my own life and business.
It puts a great collection of self improvement tools into a step-by-step, actionable plan.
As a result, I will be making improvements to how I do my own coaching and mentoring.
I'd recommend this book to all coaches -- whether they help clients transform in their business, personal development, sports, leadership, executive, parenting, health, or happiness.
Here are my favorite ideas and practices from the book... from my perspective... which might not be exactly from the book but it's inspired by its ideas:
Channel theory: 3 things only… Why: easy to keep piling on things thus diluting everything in the list, losing focus. —Habit: choose only up to 3 things for life/business focus Top 3 life priority areas Why: distraction often seem important. This daily focus on the top 3 creates a life you actually want. Eg Spiritual Growth, Healthy Living, True Livelihood (if I get those 3 right, my relationship will go right too, but not other way around.) —Determine your top 3 life areas. Other areas to consider: Relationship, Family, Money, Physical Environment, Hobbies
Self-communication What you consistently say to yourself Why: Manage that and you manage your subconscious self image. When you do that it works like a thermostat of success: your self-image will automatically regulate your behaviors and even your outcomes until your life falls within the range of your self-image! If set thermostat at 70f and temp falls to 69f it sends signal to heater to relentlessly heat until gets back to 70f. Similarly you'll find mysterious energy, motivation and "luck" when your performance falls below your self image. E.g. Many lottery winners file for bankruptcy within 5 years of winning bc no matter how much money they have if their self image says they're bad at managing money their life thermostat will confirm it. ---Become aware of your self-communication
Ideal Life Vision —Answer this: How you would love to behave daily? What you'd like your life to look & feel like? Give specific details, including numbers, whatever would make you happy… Examples: What type of space are you working in? What type of results are you getting? What type of schedule? What kind of people are you working with? How are you being when with them? (How are you performing?) If being organized is important what do you see that is proof of it (e.g. a clean inbox, a clear desk)? If recognition is important what awards or accolades or social media metrics? How much are you earning per month or year? How many clients are you serving? Where are you living? What inspiring sensory details? Who are you living with? What are they doing? What are they saying to you? What happy healthy activities are you doing together? How is your health and what is evidence of it? —Make sure your Top 3 Life Goals each has a number to measure where you are now and where you want to be. Simply can be “on a scale of 1 to 10, how am I doing in this area…” This allows you to track progress over time. —Include inspiring yet achievable time frame for 1 important goal per your 3 priorities. Eg "I am on track to be earning $150,000/year from my business by June 2016." Or "I am becoming the best spouse I can be— going from a 6 to a 9 by my spouse's next birthday." —Trim your vision so you can read it in 2 minutes. Have it be focused on your top 3. —Plan this Habit: Use it daily, either first thing in the morning, or right before bed. Plus, anytime you need motivation to take action! —Plan this Habit: revisit your Life Vision every 3 months to update it.
Key Process Goals (KPG) Why: Society defines success as Product (end/event) goals, but only having product (end) goals without KPG is too much pressure and fantasy. Redefining success as achieving your regular process goals will actually make it more likely for you to achieve your product goals. KPG tells your subconscious that your product goals are actually achievable. As you meet your KPGs you experience success along the way and build your confidence and capabilities. Allows you to focus your behaviors on your top priorities in life. Truth: you cannot possibly do everything every day that you convince yourself needs to be done. You need to do fewer but more impactful things. KPG assures that you stay focused. —Create 1-3 KPGs for each of your top 3 priorities. Ensure that it's designed such that if you do your KPGs you are likely to achieve your product goals. Usually daily or each working day, but could be other rhythm as long as consistent and could realistically reach process goal. —To ensure you have the important stuff, create a list of everything you do in a typical week for each of your Top 3 Life Priorities. For example if you have a Business priority some of your tasks may include: answering emails, organizing documents, meeting with clients, reading about your industry, etc. Then rank the tasks by *most* to least important. —Separate each of your list of tasks into 3 categories: (1) What is already habituated. (2) What you MOST want to habituate now, in other words, the #1 KPG for this life area that you’d like to focus on for the next three months. (3) Habits that are also important to create, but will focus on it after you’ve habituated your #1 KPG. ---Revisit your list every 3 months, and if any have become truly a habit without need for willpower, add a new one in its place. You would rather solidify 3-6 good habits per year than fail at forming 10-20. —Be sure to write these down. Research has shown that people are far more likely to achieve their goals if they wrote them down. You might even want to rewrite these priorities once a week, or even daily. —If possible, tell someone your KPGs… if you have a coach, ask them to help keep you lovingly accountable to these.
Examples of KPGs for a coaching business: Make progress in book-writing for 15 minutes daily. Reach out to 2 potential webinar hosts Monday through Friday. Upload a 4-minute video to social media everyday. Get to inbox zero M-F. Spend 60 minutes working on productive biz-building project M-W. Completing 5m mental workout daily. Taking 3m to do your daily success log. Read book or blog to improve your area of expertise for 15m M-F.
Examples of KPGs for personal life areas: Read 5-15m of spiritual book daily and write down 1 idea or story learned. Complete 5m mental workout daily. Do 3 holistic pauses each day eg once every other hour during working day. Eat 5 servings of fresh vegetables daily. Brisk walk for at least 15m each day. Do at least 10 push-ups and 20 sit-ups daily. Dance for at least 5m daily with music. Daily ask spouse about highlights of the day and thoughts, and take at least 10m to listen intently and acknowledge.
If you don't prioritize your KPGs, no one else will. —Protect them like you do your appointments with clients. Do your KPGs is if they were client appointments. You are your most important client! —Schedule your KPGs earlier in day if possible: more willpower and if all you got done were your KPGs for the day, it's a good and productive day. You'd rather do nothing else except your KPGs. —Everything else feels lighter after you've done your KPGs. —ETS: “emphasize the start.” e.g. Contact 5 prospective referral partners? Focus your energy on contacting the first one. Work for 90m on a project? Focus on the first 5 minutes. Your dreams will be realized if you emphasize the start for your key process goals. ETS KPG.
Daily Success Log (DSL) Ritualize the daily completion of a success log. Score 1-10 how well I did each KPG What I did well in my KPGs (important for reinforcing good behavior and builds confidence) What 1 improvement I can make to each KPG How improvements will be made Try this daily for 1 week and if it helps you, keep doing it! Without daily evaluation and improvement of your KPGs they will be forgotten over time because of all the distractions of life.
Quarterly Evaluations Schedule 30m each 3 months into your calendar for this. Will be powerful journal of personal development over time. On a percentage scale how close are you to reaching your Product Goals? What do you need to change if anything to allow you to better reach your Product goals? How are your KPGs going? Scale of 1-10 for each. If 9 or 10, plan a reward for yourself. If lower, plan changes into your schedule to allow KPGs more success. Follow through on that treat in the next 7 days!
Daily 3 Minute Mental Workout Centering breath, easy deep eg 5 in, hold 2, out 7. Ideal Life Vision: First person Feel the emotions Visualize for 30s an important project and how you will start it today. ETS. Centering breath
Ideal Schedule 3 things you'd love to do weekly for fun Sketch out your ideal schedule: KPGs: prioritize Daily success log Daily mental workout preparing client appts deepening your knowledge about your field Fun time with family, friends Daily enough wind down time, sleep, naps, exercise Here is how I spend my work hours: http://j.mp/SLoJbP If digital calendar use the repeating function. If paper calendar, hand write them daily for the next 12 months. Yes it's that important. It takes continual tweaking.
RSF (Relentless Solution Focus) Expectancy theory: what you focus on, what you expect, expands. Talking about problems leads to more problems. Evolution & society are not on our side Within 60 seconds replace ALL problem thinking with solutions thinking What do you want? What is one doable step to get there? This takes training. It is NOT natural at first but through repetition, it BECOMES natural. I can attest to that. Easy to fall back so we need to keep reminding each other.
Looking to be convinced the afterlife really exists? Read the first half of book-- (first 4 chapters) -- it gets better and better. I emerged feelingLooking to be convinced the afterlife really exists? Read the first half of book-- (first 4 chapters) -- it gets better and better. I emerged feeling very grateful for the work he did.
Although it felt less respectful of Christian beliefs than hoped, I mostly agree with his views.
If you're looking for inspiration, read the 2nd half of the book (starting chapter 5)
Actually, for inspiration, I recommend first reading Stafford Betty's "The Afterlife Unveiled" -- then coming back to Michael Tymn's book. They are complementary.
Both books are two of the most impactful books I've ever read....more
This is one of the most important books I've ever read. It's by a comparative religion professor who has spent 25+ years studying scripture and literaThis is one of the most important books I've ever read. It's by a comparative religion professor who has spent 25+ years studying scripture and literature about the afterlife -- including the most credible mediumistic research -- who has put together for us a multi-faceted and inspiring understanding of the afterlife, and how it informs and empowers our life now....more