"I feel a horror for exaggerated love or friendship. It's just too well demonstrated to me that when the moment comes that one asks something, or has need of something, the responce is not worth a biscuit."
— Brian Thompson (A MONKEY AMONG CROCODILES)

""...he had a way of taking your hand which made it clear he'd have to be the one to let go."

From Alice Hoffman's "Local Girls", pg.102."
— Alice Hoffman (Local Girls)

"Anna: Why do relationships have to be so hard? Peyton: Because the only thing harder is being alone.
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— Hilarie Burton as Peyton Sawyer (One Tree Hill)

"if i said i love you, would you hold it against me."
— Hilarie Burton as Peyton Sawyer (One Tree Hill)

"(When asked: But you have a very open relationship with your fans.) Yes. We have an open relationship. Obviously they can see other authors if they want, and I can see other readers."
— Neil Gaiman

"Before I go off on what you should and should not do...I'll start with what I did. I grew up knowing that God exists. A lot of people think that this is enough. IT'S NOT. Acknowledging him is not having a relationship with him."
— Rachel Joy Scott

"Anything under God's control is never out of control."
— Charles Swindoll

"I took all the blame. I admitted mistakes I hadn't made, intentions I'd never had. Whenever she turned cold and hard, I begged her to be good to me again, to forgive me and love me. Sometimes I had the feeling that she hurt herself when she turned cold and rigid. As if what she was yearning for was the warmth of my apologies, protestations, and entreaties. Sometimes I thought she just bullied me. But either way, I had no choice."
— Bernhard Schlink (The Reader)

"Men feel cherished when they are needed.
Women feel cherished when they are loved.

Indonesian version (Bahasa):

Kaum pria jadi termotivasi dan bersemangat kala mereka merasa dibutuhkan.

Kaum wanita jadi termotivasi dan bersemangat kala mereka merasa dicintai.
"
— John Gray

"She never got a chance to fall out of love, to do it properly, slowly and thoroughly, and the result was he was like a phantom limb. Gone but still there. And like a true phantom limb, the preponderance of feelings associated with him were painful.

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— Sarah Dunn (Secrets to Happiness: A Novel)

"In a dog's life, some plaster would fall, some cushions would open, some rugs would shred. Like any relationship, this one had its costs. They were costs we came to accept and balance against the joy and amusement and protection and companionship he gave us."
— John Grogan (Marley & Me: Love and Life with the World's Worst Dog)

"We both grew so used to each other, so comfortable with the naturalness and ease of our friendship, that we became sloppy about keeping our relationship a secret. It was not that we were physically demonstrative or obviously in love, more that it had become impossible for us to hide our close involvement. We had gradually acquired the unmistakable air of old-love: finishing each other's sentences and speaking to each other with an offhand, presuming intimacy that was eventually noticed."
— Kate Kerrigan (Miracle of Grace, The)

"No, Miss Wright didn't want to meet her kid. To her, that relationship was just as important, just as ideal and impossible as it would be to the child. She'd expect that young man to be perfect, smart, and talented, everything to compensate for all the mistakes that she'd made. The whole wasted, unhappy mess of her life."
— Chuck Palahniuk

"Wanita senang hatinya bila mempunyai teman yang dapat berbagi kesulitannya.

Lelaki senang hatinya bila dapat memecahkan kesulitannya sendirian di guanya."
— John Gray (Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

"Love is a six letter word: Action."
— Niclas Engström

"She was as one who, in madness, was resolute to throw herself from a precipice, but to whom some remnant of sanity remained which forced her to seek those who would save her from herself."
— Anthony Trollope (Can You Forgive Her?)

""Salah satu hal ajaib mengenai kehidupan.

Saat muridnya siap, sang guru muncul.
Saat pertanyaan diajukan, jawabannya datang.
Saat kita benar-benar siap menerima, apa yang kita butuhkan akan tersedia.

Ketika penduduk Venus siap menerima, orang-orang Mars siap memberi." (dikutip dari buku: Pria dari Mars, Wanita dari Venus)
"
— John Gray

"In our opposed forms of loneliness and self-recognition and recognition of the other, we touched each other often as we spoke; and on shore in explorations of the past, we strolled with our arms linked..."
— Harold Brodkey (Profane Friendship)

"Struggles are not obstacles, but instruments of God's hands. Every struggle is an opportunity to experience God's grace yourself and give it to the other person.

Conflict with others is one of God's mysterious, counterintuitive ways of rescuing us from ourselves. "
— Time Lane and Paul Tripp

"The fatal flaw of human wisdom is that it promises that you can change your relationships without needing to change yourself.

Every painful thing we experience in relationships is meant to remind us of our need for God. And every good thing we experience is meant to be a metaphor of what we can only find in Him.... We settle for the satisfaction of human relationships when they were meant to point us to the perfect relational satisfaction found only with God."
— Tim Lane Paul Tripp

"Because the Christian God is not a lonely God, but rather a communion of three persons, faith leads human beings into the divine communio. One cannot, however, have a self-enclosed communion with the Triune God- a "foursome," as it were-- for the Christian God is not a private deity. Communion with this God is at once also communion with those others who have entrusted themselves in faith to the same God. Hence one and the same act of faith places a person into a new relationship both with God and with all others who stand in communion with God."
— Miroslav Volf (After Our Likeness: The Church As the Image of the Trinity)

"Assuming mother's absence is only for a short time, don't be too concerned if you find yourself being more relaxed than she is over what the children eat. It is far better to maintain harmony and let mother cope with the problem later. You can use the excuse "You are only having this because Mummy's in hospital!"."
— Nursing Mothers' Association of Australia (NMAA Cooks)

"Every good relationship we have is a gift of God's grace. Left to ourselves, nothing good would happen.

Our problem has everything to do with sin and our potential has everything to do with Christ.

Sin always draws towards self-interest. It is possible that even in our most altruistic moments are driven by what we get out of them"
— Time Lane and Paul Tripp

"Our purpose (in relationship) is to get what we want but God's purpose is to give us what we really need. We think things are going well only if we are getting along with others. But God says that it is also when we are not getting along with others that he is accomplishing his purpose.

God has designed our relationship to function as both a diagnosis and a cure.

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— Time Lane and Paul Tripp

"Each of us has tried to be the Holy Spirit in another person's life, trying to work spiritual changes that only God can accomplish.

Good relationships are built on a solid foundation. Without this foundation, no amount of hard work will make your relationships what God intended them to be.

Two foundations of relationship is identity and worship. When I live out a biblical sense of who I am (identity) and rest in who God is (worship), I will be able to build healthy relationships"
— Time Lane and Paul Tripp

"Comfortable is the main course for any relationship.
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— Meitha T. Soekotjo

"You have no control over what the other guy does. You only have control over what you do."
— A. J. Kitt

"A minute is a matter for those who live at the same ground, upside down."
— Sunlita Citra Tanggyono

"reconciling grace, saving grace of Jesus

"[In regards to struggles and potential in relationship],..we are sinner with capacity to to do great damage to ourselves and our relationships. We need God's grace to save us from ourselves. But we are also God's children, which means that we have great hope and potential-- not hope that rests on our gifts, experience, or track record, but hope that rests in Christ. Because he is in us and we are in him, it is right to say that our potential IS Christ. We are well aware that we are smack-dab in the middle of God's process of sanctification. And because this is true, we will struggle again. Selfishness, pride, an unforgiving spirit, irritation, and impatience will certainly return. But we are neither afraid nor hopeless. We have experienced what God can do in the middle of the mess. This side of heaven, relationships and ministry are always shaped in the forge of struggle. None of us get to relate to perfect people or avoid the effects of the fall on the work we attempt to do. Yet amid the mess, we find the highest joys of relationship and ministry."
— Tim Lane Paul Tripp

"We all look for strategies or techniques that will free us from the pain of relationships and the hard work good relationships demand. We hope that better planning, more effective communication, clear role definitions, conflict resolution strategies, gender studies, and personality typing--to name just a few -- will make the difference. There may be value in these things, but if they were all we needed, Jesus' life, death, and resurrection would be unnecessary or, at best, redundant.

Skills and techniques appeal to us because they promise that relational problems can be fixed by tweaking our behavior without altering the bent of our hearts. But the Bible says something very different. It says that Christ is the only real hope for relationships because only he can dig deep enough to address the core motivations and desires of our hearts.

Most dangerous aspect of your relationships is not your weakness, but your delusions of strength. Self-reliance is almost always a component of a bad relationship. "
— Time Land and Paul Tripp

"If you look for God in your relationships, you will always find thins to be thankful for.

When God reigns in our hearts, peace reigns in our relationships. This work will only be complete in heaven but there is much we can enjoy now. "
— Tim Lane and Paul Tripp

""There is nothing so exhilarating as being shot at with no effect." "
— Winston Spencer Churchill