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"Do you think a parent can ever be completely objective when it comes to his or her children?"
Sponsored By: Defending Jacob
Defending Jacob by William Landay

It depends on the circumstances.
 
  6896 votes, 50.4%

No, never
 
  6045 votes, 44.1%

Yes, definitely.
 
  753 votes, 5.5%


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message 1: by David (last edited May 14, 2012 04:16PM) (new)

David Smith If rarely was an answer then perhaps . However, being objective under normal circumstances demands no personal involvement which of course is impossible when parenting-IMO


message 2: by Sita (new)

Sita I wish there had been the option of, "not most people". I think some, a very rare few, can. But mostly, no.

It amazes (and disgusts) me how I often I see parents thinking their kids are so wonderful when they are bullies and mean. Or shout to the rooftops the musical talent of a child who screeches like a cat in heat. The latter at least isn't so very bad, but the former enables a future abuser.


message 3: by BookGirlVlP (last edited May 15, 2012 08:03AM) (new)

BookGirlVlP As a parent, I know my kids aren't perfect. If my kids get in trouble for something (at school or anywhere else (which doesn't happen too often)) I am usually the first one to think they probably did at least something that got them in trouble, whether they did exactly what is being reported, who knows. Generally I wasn't there (if they were at school or with friends). They really have to prove to me they didn't do it. My husband on the other hand tends to believe them no matter what (which annoys me). Even if my children did something wrong, they are still my children and I will do whatever I can for them or to protect them when I can. I do believe if they did something wrong, no matter how hard it is for me to watch or experience, they still have to face the consequences of what they have done. So, to answer the question, no, I could never be completely objective. I can side with another kid/person if my child wronged them, but every decision I would make would be made because they are my child.


message 4: by Lori K (new)

Lori K Hunh? My kid is perfect, I don't need to be objective... :)


message 5: by Michelle (new)

Michelle Silvestri-Oetinger Thinking that I don't think I could be 100% objective when It comes to my child. But, saying that- as a Parent- I am not of the type that thinks my child is the mold of perfection either. That's were love and guidance, patience and continuity make all the difference.


message 6: by David (new)

David Smith land mines are also a huge help


message 7: by Lori K (new)

Lori K bribery works too.


message 8: by Michelle (new)

Michelle Silvestri-Oetinger haha- I've definately used that- bribery- not land mines. LOL. Also, the "stare" and the gentle squish of their hand that ever so gently reminds them that Mommy is not too happy. haha...


message 9: by David (new)

David Smith PLUS-there is grandparent revenge!!!!


message 10: by V (last edited May 15, 2012 04:54PM) (new)

V My son and daughter are not perfect, I'm working on it, and when I think on their flaws I fix those with bribery..for example paying my son $3000 dollars to finished college(not kidding)a mother would do anything for their children and if Bribery works.. so be it ;)


message 11: by Michelle (new)

Michelle Silvestri-Oetinger That's ok Veronica...we did it in a sneaky way- promised him if he got a certain GPA we would take him and his girlfriend on a cruise for their graduation gjft. Nothing like bribery and a girlfriend to keep him working hard inthe last semester!!!


message 12: by V (new)

V lol..I'm so glad I'm not the only one that use this kind of tactics :)


message 13: by Sita (new)

Sita I am SO pro bribery!!


message 14: by Carole (new)

Carole What does it even mean to be "completely objective"? We are all subjective in how we approach things. It all goes through a filter of some sort.


message 15: by Carole (new)

Carole Also....some parents are more likely to see the "flaws" and negatives of humanity in their children. And the children often surprise as to how well well they actually behave and some of their great instincts!


message 16: by Sofia (new)

Sofia Lori K wrote: "Hunh? My kid is perfect, I don't need to be objective... :)"

LOL Lori!!!, so true - parents can be so delusional - including my own! Love always gets in the way.


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