Slow romance

I seem to be picking up a slew of romances where pheromones dominate, and the characters fall in lust, not love. Aren't there any romances where the characters actually get to know each other over some time before they get in bed? Looking for love and respect and affection and longing in this list, not just hot sex.

Please add your recommendations. I hope this genre isn't a dying breed. :(

PS: There are a number of entries now on this list that don't seem to meet the requirements. BDSM and erotica are not what I am looking for. More books where the characters do NOT have sex before they fall in love and confess so to each other, please?
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message 14: by Anthea (new)

Anthea want to add Anti-Stepbrother by Tijan to this list but scared to mess it up. Can someone do it for me please?


message 13: by Bcheese (new)

Bcheese The feels :( its like, its all about body and lust.


message 12: by Booklovinglady (last edited Apr 14, 2016 12:20PM) (new)

Booklovinglady Rashmi wrote: "Thanks! :) I go raid my bookstore! ..."

Don't know where you are located, but it might be worth trying to get used copies, as there tend to be plenty of them around, both paperback and hardback editions.


message 11: by HEAjunkie (new)

HEAjunkie Booklovinglady wrote: "Rashmi wrote: "Nope! Already looking forward to them. :D Which one do you reco I should start with? ..."

My personal favourite is still The Grand Sophy, closely followed by, in no ..."


Thanks! :) I go raid my bookstore!


message 10: by Booklovinglady (last edited Apr 10, 2016 03:11PM) (new)

Booklovinglady Rashmi wrote: "Nope! Already looking forward to them. :D Which one do you reco I should start with? ..."

My personal favourite is still The Grand Sophy, closely followed by, in no particular order really, Frederica, Arabella and Faro's Daughter. But it is all down to personal liking, I guess, as she wrote so many excellent ones, and there are several other ones I like a lot too :-)


message 9: by HEAjunkie (new)

HEAjunkie Booklovinglady wrote: "@Rashmi Basu
I hope this genre isn't a dying breed. :(

Apart from some of the wonderful classics, have you tried any of the Georgette Heyer books yet? They are such fun and definite..."


Nope! Already looking forward to them. :D Which one do you reco I should start with?


message 8: by Booklovinglady (last edited Mar 27, 2016 01:41AM) (new)

Booklovinglady @Rashmi Basu
I hope this genre isn't a dying breed. :(

Apart from some of the wonderful classics, have you tried any of the Georgette Heyer books yet? They are such fun and definitely of the 'slow romance' type :-)

@SF
Thanks for mentioning Romance That Gradually Build, as I hadn't seen that one yet :-)


message 7: by Jamie (new)

Jamie Campbell Marita, thanks again. Just finished Kluti. Chose it because of the sport setting. Just voted for it too.


message 6: by Jamie (new)

Jamie Campbell Thanks!


message 5: by Marita (new)

Marita Jamie, I can easily recommend all three of Mariana Zapata's books on here: Under Locke, Kulti and Lingus. Kulti was definitely my favourite.


message 4: by HEAjunkie (new)

HEAjunkie Jamie wrote: "Can I get a recommendation (aside from Jane Eyre - which I am currently reading in actual book form) from this list written in the first person from the Female lead's POV?"

Hi Jamie, I have been racking my brain but can't think of any. And since I haven't read many of the books on this list, it doesn't help. I'll keep your request in mind though. :) Thank you for dropping by!


message 3: by Jamie (new)

Jamie Campbell Can I get a recommendation (aside from Jane Eyre - which I am currently reading in actual book form) from this list written in the first person from the Female lead's POV?


message 2: by HEAjunkie (new)

HEAjunkie SF wrote: "Check out the list "Romance That Gradually Build". I've discovered some of my favorite books on there. I'll add a few of those to this list as well."

Thanks so much, SF! I wish I had spotted the other list before creating this one. :) And thanks for adding your recommendations.


message 1: by SF (new)

SF Check out the list "Romance That Gradually Build". I've discovered some of my favorite books on there. I'll add a few of those to this list as well.


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