“This book is poignant and heartbreaking but also inspirational. It made me hug my family a little bi
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Win a pre-publication galley of Losing My Sister:
“This book is poignant and heartbreaking but also inspirational. It made me hug my family a little bit closer.”
—Jenny Lawson, author of Let’s Pretend This Never Happened: A Mostly True Memoir
“Judy Goldman’s Losing My Sister is a big, wise, heart-squeezing book. It puts between hard covers what I’d thought inarticulable—an act not unlike giving flesh to a shadow. This book will help a lot of people—people who are hurting for excellent prose, and people who are just hurting.”
—Darin Strauss, author of Half a Life, winner of the National Book Critics Circle Award
“A moving, gracefully told story of memory, sisters, and the way that love can bridge tragedy.”
—Caroline Leavitt, New York Times best-selling author of Picture of You
“Family stories grow to be bigger than the experiences themselves,” writes Judy Goldman in her memoir, Losing My Sister. “They become home to us, tell us who we are, who we want to be. Over the years, they take on more and more embellishments and adornments until they eclipse the actual memory. They become our past—just as a snapshot will, at first, enhance a memory, then replace it.”
As she remembers it now, Goldman’s was an idyllic childhood, charmed even, filled with parental love and sisterly confidences. Growing up in Rock Hill, South Carolina, Judy and her older sister, Brenda, did everything together. Though it was clear from an early age that their personalities were very different (Judy was the “sweet” one, Brenda, the "strong" one), they continued to be fairly inseparable into adulthood.
But the love between sisters is complex. Though Judy and Brenda remained close, Goldman recalls struggling to break free of her prescribed role as the agreeable little sister and to assert herself even as she built her own life and started a family.
The sisters’ relationship became further strained by the illnesses and deaths of their parents, and later, by the discovery that each had tumors in their breasts—Judy’s benign, Brenda’s malignant. The two sisters came back together shortly before the possibility of permanent loss became very real.
In her uniquely lyrical and poignant style, Goldman deftly navigates past events and present emotions, drawing readers in as she explores the joys and sorrows of family, friendship, and sisterhood.
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