5 Conversations You Must Have with Your Son
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5 Conversations You Must Have with Your Son

3.81 of 5 stars 3.81  ·  rating details  ·  151 ratings  ·  33 reviews
From the cradle to college, tell your sons the truth about life before they believe the culture's lies.

For parents with boys newborn to eighteen, 5 Conversations You Must Have with Your Son will be as much a part of the boyhood journey as those Legos you're still finding under the sofa cushions and the garage full of sports equipment. Award-winning youth culture commentato...more
Paperback, 272 pages
Published June 1st 2011 by B&H Books (first published May 2nd 2011)
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What a great book! Especially if you're a Christian mom raising boys for the first time. There are subjects in here...that I know I would have touched on, but I love her approach. I like that she backed up her ideas with scripture...and it was cute (and in places scary) with her added stories of her boys. I bought this as an e-book and highlighted many parts...especially in the "sex and pornography" area. I appreciate the way she thinks, and that she's mom enough to put it down for others to add...more
I highly recommend this book to Christian moms with sons, preferably sons in their "tweens" or younger. The author presents important information, including statistics, on topics relevant to parenting tween/teen boys, and she does so in an engaging and often humorous way. She starts with the easiest (which isn't always easy): explaining that our sons are wired to live dangerously. Yes, I need to be reminded to let my son take chances and explore his limits. (Sigh!) But it gets harder from there....more
Hypia Sanches
E-book provided by NetGalley.

2 stars because: 1. "Misogynistic" doesn't even begin to describe how awfully prejudiced lots of poor generalizations here are. 2. Too many arguments based on religion. I don't think one needs religion to know right from wrong. 3. There is a quote similar to "I was describing the kind of girl I'd like my sons to stay away from and I realized I was describing myself when I was their age". Can you say "hypocrisy"?

This book has lots of things I had a problem with - but...more
Becky Sayler
In this book, the author focuses more on the reasons why you should cover these particular topics with your sons, and less on how to actually do it. The conversations are: 1. Don't define manhood by the culture's wimpy standards; it's okay to be a man! 2. What you don't learn to conquer may become your master. 3. Not everyone's doing it! (And other naked truths about sex you won't hear in the locker room.) 4. Boyhood is only for a season. P.S. It's time to grow up! 5. Godly men are in short supp...more
This book discusses topics that parents often don't know how to discuss with their sons and offers guidance on when and how to approach those topics in order to raise godly, responsible men. I really liked the book though I think the first half was much better than the second half. The author started to lose my interest a bit somewhere in chapter 9. Overall I would recommend this book to Christian mothers of boys.

I really like how she throws society's current gender roles (or lack thereof) out t...more
Lisa Miller Chandler
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5 Conversations You Must Have with Your Son
by Vicki Courtney (Goodreads Author)
3.82 of 5 stars 3.82 · rating details · 143 ratings · 31 reviews
From the cradle to college, tell your sons the truth about life before they believe the culture's lies.

For parents with boys newborn to eighteen, 5 Conversations You Must Have with Your Son will be as much a part of the boyhood journey as those Legos you're still finding under the sofa cushions and the garage full of sports equipment. Aw...more
Pam Camel
"From the cradle to college, tell your sons the truth about life before they believe the culture's lies.

For parents with boys newborn to eighteen, 5 Conversations You Must Have with Your Son will be as much a part of the boyhood journey as those Legos you're still finding under the sofa cushions and the garage full of sports equipment. Award-winning youth culture commentator Vicki Courtney helps moms and dads pinpoint and prepare the discussions that should be ongoing in a boy's formative years...more
Jo-Anne Puggioni
In her book 5 conversations you must have with your son, Vicki Courtney invites us to talk to our sons about the important issues.

The five conversations are listed below:

Conversation 1: Don't define manhood by the culture's wimpy standards. It's OK to be a man!

Conversation 2: What you don't learn to conquer may become your master

Conversation 3: Not everyone's doing it! (And other naked truths about sex you won't hear in the locker room.)

Conversation 4: Boyhood is only for a season. P.S. It's...more
Jun 18, 2013 Andy rated it 1 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Nobody
Shelves: garbage-can
This book was so unbelievably awful it was unbearable. I didn't even get through the table of contents before deciding it was garbage. Yet another politically motivated, homophobic, antipornography, anti-everything that the author perceives as abnormal rant based on nothing but STEREOTYPES that she presents as being based on truths. Credibility should seriously be called into question here.

If you look into Vicki Courtney's background you'll quickly see that she must have an agenda with ties to s...more
I must admit that when I was sent a copy of this book that I was not sure about reading it. I don’t have any children but I do have nephews. I like that Mrs. Courtney shares during the introduction that she is not an expert on children but just a mom. This started off the book in the right step for me. I don’t want to read about someone preaching to me about the do’s and don’t on how to raise a child.

Vicki Courtney breaks this book up into five different conversations…”Don’t define manhood by t...more
Brandy Painter
If I had read this before reading Five Conversations You Must Have with Your Daughter it probably would have received the 4 stars, while that received the 3. It is a good book with solid information talking about things that must be talked about. It is, if you have both sons and daughters, highly repetitive of the first book. Don't get me wrong, there is a lot here that is not in the first book and makes it worth reading. However, large chunks of the first book are repeated. Verbatim. Copy/Paste...more
Joshua Spotts
Vicki Courtney's 5 Conversations You Must Have with Your Son is unconventional: first, because it is written by a mother instead of a father; and second, because it is targeted at mothers. The book looks at how to talk to sons during their years under parental wings. It starts with arguments against the images of emasculated men as seen in automotive ads on TV and Super-Bowl commercials, and progresses to talk about manners, education, dating, personal health, religious disciplines, and even fin...more
I'm not sure how I keep doing it but I seem to be picking up Christian parenting and marriage books without meaning to. The message in them isn't 100% "me" because I'm not practicing a religion but I do agree with a lot of the sentiments in this book about raising boys to be respectful of women and raising them to be, well, men...not "Peter Pan" (a man-child that still needs someone to take care of him well into his 20s and beyond.) Like all self-help or how-to books, I don't think this book is...more
This book is intended for mom's to read about their sons but as a dad I found it of benefit. The main thrust of the book is to train up our sons to be godly, independent men who are able to leave the nest at an early age and provide for themselves. The books spends a lot of time debunking the pop culture myths of what a man is and how they should act. As parents we have to be bold in approaching our sons and be their primary teachers on sex, money, spiritual things, etc. this will be the best de...more
I need to get talkin'...
Emily M
I will read this book again every couple of years while raising my boys. The way Courtney presents information regarding how to talk to our boys about things like sex, porn, and much more is very reader and user-friendly. I appreciate the Christian perspective she brings to table, too, in regards to educating our kids about important life-changing topics - not overly conservative and in some ways more progressive than I often hear in Christian circles.
Jun 22, 2012 Mary rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: mothers and fathers of boys
Like its counterpart for daughters, this is a sobering book that I would recommend to all moms and dads of boys. Some of the subject matter is really heavy, so thank goodness for Vicki Courtney's sense of humor and down-to-earth writing style. Rearing children is a huge responsibility and I'm thankful for authors like Mrs. Courtney who compile research and share their experiences and successes.
The author of this book was very opinionated. I did not agree with many things she had to say. She was a little too conservative, a little too "Texan", and a little too anti-feminist. There were a few good aspects of the book, but not one of my favorites on raising boys. Hey, if I survive the whole experience, maybe I'll write my own book. Parenting definitely is a learn as you go process!
Tracie Griggs
I think this book offers some helpful and practical tips but I was slightly bothered by the way she made some generalizations about boys that did not always apply to my own children. It may not be the perfect fit for the parent of a boy who is more artistic or less athletic, but if read as a whole, it is probably good information to consider.
Christin Osborn
I thought this book was okay. It gave me some things to think about, but there was a lot I didn't agree with, mainly because it seems to "pie in the sky" about some of the issues. I have the one for daughters and I am going to read that one next, but I have a feeling I will agree with it even less.
Aug 11, 2011 Emily marked it as to-read
I'm not sure that I will agree with the points this author makes, based on the chapter titles. But I think it is worth a look. I like to gather a wide variety of information and opinions from others and then judge for myself and take from what I think is good.
Donna Key
My sons are younger and I found most of this book is more appropriate for older (pre-teen or teen) boys. But overall I thought it had a lot of good advice. I need to read it every year or so for a refresher as my boys get older.
Jun 28, 2012 Stella marked it as to-read
Recommends it for: Help Girls to grow into gracious loving intelligent women
My Husband and I are mentoring two young men who have not had strong father figures in their lives. We are in the process of starting one Bible Study with them... If all goes well I would like to do this with them next.
I'm going to keep this, have Forrest read parts, and refer to it as they get older. Lots of good things to think about as a my boys become men, especially things that as a girl, I don't think about.
Easy to read book that was interesting and helpful to find words for conversations with my 10 year old son about sex, pornography, attitudes toward others, and love for God first.
This book isn't revolutionary in concept, but it was good to have some basic pointers and perspectives that it is easy to miss as a mom trying to get into the world of boys.
Christine Anthony
what a great book for anyone with a son that you want to growup to be a great man. very interesting ideas and very eye-opening to what I should be doing. :-)
Lisa Newberry
WOW! What an eye-opener. Started a conversation I never thought I'd have...with amazing results. If you are a mom to a teenage boy, don't miss this book!
Would have given it 3.5 stars. Thoroughly enjoyed this Bible Study for moms of boys and plan to implement some of these conversations.
Anderson County Library
Encouraging and practical. In many ways a 'how to' book for mothers regarding communication with sons on important issues.
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Vicki Courtney is a speaker and the author of numerous books and Bible studies. For more information, check out her author page at www.VickiCourtney.com.
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