Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder
Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to? Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel you are 'walking on eggshells' to avoid the next confrontation?
If the answer is 'yes,' someone you care about may have borderline personality disorder (BPD). Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped nearly half a million people with friends and fami...more
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Borderline Personality Disorder is a complex, difficult to deal with and highly undiagnosed mental disease. While the idea of the unstable girlfriend or boyfriend is common enough to be a comedy (and horror) stereotype, this book explores a very real disorder that might be behind the actions. And unlike many books on the topic, it focuses on the supporters, caretakers, or those who have been scarred by the actions of a BPD person.
This book is very clear, easy to read and i...more
The Background of how I came to read this book
Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder by Paul Mason MS and Randi Kreger
When one of my friends admitted to me his wife had a Borderline Personality Disorder, I quizzically wondered what in the world did he mean that. His wife looked perfectly normal to me and they did look like a happy couple - at least on the outside. However, after he shared with me a few intimate details -...more
This book may be useful for dealing with people with difficult or abusive behaviour, but it unfortunately conflates that behaviour with BPD and gives a very inaccurate picture of the disorder. It also encourages people to self-diagnose friends and family with BPD. The author even admits that she wrote the book because of a relationship with someone that she thought had BPD despit...more
BPD is hard to diagnose because a lot of it's signs and symptoms can be that of someone not suffering from BPD but just an extremely vengeful egregious nature re: personality. People with BPD say or do things that will...more
I DESPISED this book. It presents BPD as a burden on the lives of those people "unfortunate" enough to care for someone who has it. It focuses on "surviving the ordeal" rather than helping them find ways to cope with the fallout while...more
"Frequently, the person with BPD traits accused the family member of being the one with the disorder. [p. 15]
"It's likely that other people in the person's life may also respond with denial and accusations, especially the borderline's family of origin. [p. 15-16]
"Undefined boundaries - People with BPD have dif...more
I will caveat, however, that I'm not stoked about some of their language choices.
(1) They often alternate using "he" and "she" for generic examples, rather than going for a singular they or "he or she" (and whenever they do say "he...more
The authors are optomistic about borderlines being able to crawl out of their mental prison, once they recognize they've got a problem--and therein lies the problem fo...more
If the answer is 'yes,' someone you care about may have borderline personality disorder (BPD).
This is an excellent resource for people in a relationship with someone with B.P.D. It will help them see things clearly, learn how to address the emotional chaos, understand why the person in their life is the way they a...more
I find this book very helpful. It acknowledges the difficulty of dealing with mental illness that can be disguised or hidden, and it doesn't judge, but also doesn't excuse. It talks about distortions and altered reality and over-reactions and lies, and all the things that start to seem "normal" when you deal with some...more
The message is clear: You can't fix the other person, so don't go around playing God.
The author is compassionate, towards both the ill person and their relatives. It doesn't point fingers, it offers concrete help. I don't usually li...more