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The Fantasy Bond: Effects of Psychological Defenses on Interpersonal Relations

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This book offers a hypothesis centering around the concept of the "Fantasy Bond," an illusion of connection formed with the mother and later with significant others in the individual's environment.
Paperback, 408 pages
Published December 19th 1987 by Glendon Publishing (first published June 9th 1985)
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Apr 08, 2014 Jordan rated it really liked it
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I like this book. A lot of the things that he says in the book are very valuable, however, the book is also a little biased and over-generalizes in certain areas, especially male/female experiences. As someone who has had less of a bond primarily with mother than father this book kind of singled me out and pushed my issue aside. It can also be a little repetitive. Although the book is not perfect, I would definitely recommend it for people suffering for a fear of intimacy or with ...more
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Mar 09, 2016 April Capil rated it really liked it
This book was *mostly* excellent - super-dense, I had to read several sections two or three times to let them sink in. Fascinating insights into what motivates us in relationships and how our parental dynamics have lasting effects. Only reason I did not give it 5 stars was there are large sections about an "intentional community" that the author was a part of that was not really as informative/insightful as the rest of the book was - it was more of a case study of a group of families towards the ...more
Apr 04, 2014 Robyn rated it really liked it
A heavy text on the powerful structures of the mind that keep using psychological defenses long after they're helpful, and even despite the fact that they're becoming hugely destructive to an individual's growth. Seems there is a new miraculous fact on every page -- and this is a lengthy book! I hope I can incorporate some of the wisdoms of this study into my life. A very important book.
Apr 15, 2013 Jessica rated it it was ok
Very 70's feel to me. A lot of concepts are outdated and no longer considered authoritative. Interesting but didn't resonate.
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This is pure gem ! I keep reading and re-reading it. The author has done an excellent job of bringing many unconscious bonds that haunts us into our consciousness. Highly recommended !
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