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Boundaries with Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say No
The teen years--relationships, peer pressure, school, dating, character. To help teenagers grow into healthy adults, parents and youth workers need to teach them how to take responsibility for their behavior, their values, and their lives. The coauthor of the Gold Medallion Award-winning book Boundaries and the father of two teenage boys brings his biblically based princip ...more
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Published February 1st 2006 by Zondervan Publishing Company
(first published January 20th 2006)
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I really love the Boundaries books. If you find yourself struggling in relationships, they are full of practical advice. This one on teens is no different. They give some really practical steps in making sure you are setting a good foundation for your teen's adult life. I highly recommend this book for parents of teens, especially if you are struggling with behavior shifts that are catching you off guard. It will make you feel less alone and help you gain insight into what is going on physically ...more
I decided to read this book because I wanted to understand my teenage experience better and prepare for when I have teenagers of my own to raise. It's never to early to start preparing right? Anyways, I have read Dr. Townsend's other book entitled "Boundaries" which I love! And other variations/spin offs. I believe that Dr. Townsend and Dr. Cloud (co-author of Boundaries) have a love of truth and understanding. However this book didn't have as big of an impact for me. This may have been due to a ...more
Very accurate descriptions of what we are experiencing with our 17 year old, who seems to have flipped a switch overnight and feels that we are too controlling. Sigh. Practical advice and scripts of how to set boundaries with ornery teens. Well worth a read.
Our Parenting Bible completed this book and found it very helpful. Our only major concern was that as we dug in to it, we began to see a lot of the information as repetitive. Towards the end of the book, we decided to choose a few of the special circumstances instead of doing them all. The group had difficulty doing this because we were all dealing with very different issues with our children. This book, more than any other has forced us to really think about how we go about our parenting.
As a teacher in the public schools, I see more and more how parents are fearful of being parents to their young, emerging teens. This book is most helpful.. you can select the topic of the chapter that is urgent at a specific time and receive wise counsel on handling those challenging situations with your teens. Whether it's driving, money, homework or a variety of other topics, they are discussed with kindness and practical suggestions on how and why to set boundaries. A word to parents of teen ...more
Practical tool for building your family relationship and setting boundaries for teens. I was looking for something different. I was hoping this was how to teach teens to set boundaries. I went ahead and finished the book, even though it speaks mainly to parents of teens. I am not a parent of teens. That is probably why it took me so long to finish it. Helpful resource to understanding teens and our role in their lives.
This was a very helpful parenting book! If I'd read this 4 years ago, I would have set it aside and said it was just common sense that any parent knows. But now that my twins are nearly 17 and want complete freedom, this book was perfect for our situation. It helps answer the question, "Where should I loosen the reigns and in what areas should I stand firm?"
Loved it -"Your teen needs your help to become a person whose word means something for then he will be happier & his relationships will be healthier as well" "Provide your child/teen with as many experiences involving love, grace, safety, stucture & correction as you can. The involved parent can truly make a positive difference."
Sep 15, 2012 Susan rated it 3 of 5 stars · review of another edition
Great advice for public school parents of teens with a supportive, dedicated church, good schools with dedicated teachers, caring counselors, and - at least- a middle class income. For all those who don't have that framework...well, there are a still a few decent tips worth digging out.
Very helpful in helping parents draw clear boundaries, not only for a kid's behavior but for a parent's responsibility. Responsibility to the child, yes, but also in recognizing how to draw lines of what one should NOT do for their teenager.
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“Because of all the developmental changes teens are going through, they often don’t have good control over their behavior, a clear sense of responsibility for their actions, or much self-discipline and structure. Instead, they often show disrespect of authority (as in Trevor’s case), impulsiveness, irresponsibility, misbehavior, and erratic behavior. They are, as the Bible describes it, “like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.”
“You are probably aware of your own tendencies to go along with your teen’s behavior, to not respond or confront because it’s too much trouble or because you don’t want the conflict. Then, out of the blue, something snaps inside you, and you come out swinging, yelling, threatening — doing whatever it takes for you to express your frustration. I look at this as the “ignore and zap” parenting style: putting up with inappropriate behaviors for too long, then blowing up. When you consider how much teens test their parents, it’s easy to understand the temptation to ignore and zap. However, even though most parents ignore and zap at times — myself included — this isn’t good parenting. It teaches the teen that love and limits don’t go together.”More quotes…