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When free-spirited Batsheva moves into the close-knit Orthodox community of Memphis, Tennessee, the already precarious relationship between the Ladies Auxiliary and their teenage daughters is shaken to the core. In this extraordinary novel, Tova Mirvis takes us into the fascinating and insular world of the Memphis Orthodox Jews, one ripe with tradition and contradiction. W...more
Paperback, Ballantine Reader's Circle, 336 pages
Published September 5th 2000 by Ballantine Books (first published 1999)
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Jana
Jun 03, 2008 Jana rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommended to Jana by: Bonnie
Shelves: re-read
The Ladies Auxiliary is essentially the Jewish version of Relief Society, complete with all the gossip, the cleaning fetishes and the casseroles. It's at once hilarious and heartbreaking. Narrated (brilliantly) in the first person PLURAL, it underscores the insider/outsider mentality. The main character is an artist from New York who moves into an Orthodox Jewish community in Memphis. It echoes in many ways my experience moving to Utah, this artist from California, and frequently feeling like an...more
Carie
Aug 28, 2008 Carie rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommended to Carie by: Jamey
I really enjoyed this book. About a convert to Orthodox Judaism who moves with her daughter to a small Orthodox community in Memphis after her husband dies. She tries to fit in.

As an LDS reader, I found it fascinating. Lots of interesting questions: How often are we like the Mrs. Levys in this novel? Are we so stuck in our customs that we forget about our religion? How can we raise our children when the world lives so differently than we do?
Vanessa
May 31, 2008 Vanessa rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Vanessa by: Rachel
Shelves: book-club-books
This novel is set in an Orthodox Jewish neighborhood in Memphis, Tennessee. The story begins when a single mother moves into the neighborhood in hopes of starting a new life after the passing of her husband. She is a convert to Judaism, but as a fellow Orthodox Jew, she is confident that she will be welcomed to the community. Things begin to unravel from there.

This book is written in first person plural voice, which is unusual, but you get used to it very quickly. It is as if "The Ladies Auxilia...more
Kelly
I had a hard time getting into this book and never really did. The Ladies Auxiliary were just a bunch of gossiping busybodies. They drove me crazy with how judgmental they were. There group reminded me of an LDS ward were everyone knows your business. I did like how it raised the question of do we practice our religious beliefs out of tradition or because we truly want to draw closer to God.

I wish I could be at book club to discuss the book with you gals.
Kristine
Apr 15, 2009 Kristine rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: all lds women
Recommended to Kristine by: Brandy Sims
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Sue
This is an intellectual story and not chick-lit so I really liked the themes and thought-provoking messages. It was told from the POV of the collective, a plural "we", so that the idea of the newcomer coming to town and not being part of the community was always at the forefront of the reader's mind. It was an interesting way to write the novel and made it seem as though all the women felt the same way about everything, but really underneath, they all had different viewpoints. I found the lack o...more
Shauna
Oct 22, 2010 Shauna rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommended to Shauna by: Carol Goodsell
Shelves: favorites
This was such a good book. Even though this deals wiht a Jewish community. It really can apply to any community that is not very tolerant of others. I am Morman, but did not grow up in a Morman household. Living in Utah is not very easy for those who are not of the Morman faith. I did not find my faith until college, so like Batsheva, I chose this and was not raised with this. There were many characters in this book who remind me of the people I now live around. I know what it is like to move in...more
Marsha
I loved this book! I would have given it 5 stars, but some of the writing was just a little awkward. The ladies, members of a tight-knit orthodox Jewish community in Memphis, were so much fun to get to know. I am a Mormon and grew up in a community where there were not many other Mormons, but now live in a majority Mormon community. I could relate to these Auxiliary ladies who have strong religious traditions and feelings, and who want to pass those on to their children. Their foibles, fears, in...more
Ann
I loved this book. I think it was because I could relate to so much of the story. Small communities are like that, hiding problems and protecting the status quo at all cost. What I love best about Oakland is that we celebrate diversity and seem to thrive on uncovering dirt to discuss.

And I loved the references to Jewish tradition. Although I was raised in a Reform congregation, my grandparents were very much a part of that Orthodoxy. And we all stuck together, supporting each other, even when it...more
Robyn
Mar 30, 2010 Robyn rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommended to Robyn by: my cute Mom
I so wanted to like this book more than I did. I was expecting light-hearted sisterhood stuff, but, instead, I got so upset every time I sat down to read it. It made me so mad and even furious at times! A great example of religion taken to the realm of zealot and the ugly nature of women involved in everyone elses business but their own. A good lesson in beam and mote ideology. This isn't just a Jewish problem tho, I see it in my own religion. Especially living here in Utah. Anyway, I just wante...more
Patty
Jun 17, 2008 Patty rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Rebecca, Anita, Kim
This book surprised me how it sucked me in. The characters were so complex and well-developed. I especially liked how the author dealt with prejudices within a close-knit religious community. She treats the topic with sensitivity, but a certain amount of irony and sarcasm. Reading this book helped me take a look at my own hypocrisies and prejudices, especially those that masquerade as religion. Mirvis really brings home the idea that being religious for appearance's sake can be soul-deadening an...more
Adrianne
This book left me thinking. Am I open to change? Am I open, welcoming, and friendly to someone who thinks differently than I do? Do I see the beam in my own eye (see Matthew 7:3)? How do I worship? Do I just go through the motions? Or do I connect with God? How can I be the mother my children need? How can I love them not matter what they choose even when it might break my heart?
Allysen
It was a fascinating read. I love how it was a world I have never been in before and probably won't ever be in, but it hit so close to home. Its hard to fit in and find a place in a close knit community, especially one thats so old and hard fast in their traditions. Even though I'm not jewish I could still relate to the feelings in this book. It is well written and worth the read.
Sarah
This book is an excellent book club book, especially among a religious crowd. It makes one ponder what is tradition vs. based on gospel principles. It makes you squirm in your seat as you identify yourself in one of the less desirable characters. It gives you hope as you see change can happen for everyone. I read it in a book club years ago...perhaps it's time to suggest it again.
Danielle
Jun 13, 2007 Danielle rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: everyone
While reading a fun story about a close-knit community of women, I learned something about Orthodox Judaism. Neat.
Mary
I would've given this book a four... I really enjoyed it all the way through until the end, which just left everything unresolved and hanging! :( If only the end had had more closure! But, I guess that makes it more like real life. I'm just not a real life kinda girl when it comes to my fiction, I like endings that resolve the issues that are going on. Small town, Memphis, with a close knit Orthodox Jewish community where everybody knows everyone else's business. A new girl moves to town and sha...more
Emily
Or maybe 4 stars...hard to decide. The story is set in a close-knit orthodox Jewish community in Nashville (yes, really! Orthodox Jews saying y'all). Things get shaken up when a new woman, a convert, moves in. What was a bit awkward was the way it was written in the first person plural. That helped emphasize the fact that Batsheva, the convert, was an outsider, and I imagine that's why the author chose to do it. It was "we" and "she". But sometimes I really just wanted to know who was speaking....more
Kristin
This was the pick for September for my church book club. It sounded interesting and I was excited to read it. This book is an enigma to me in many ways. Just when I think I have formed an opinion about it...wham...my opinion changes.

When I first started this book I had a really hard time getting into it. There are about 20 main characters and none of them are the narrator exactly. The story is told in first-person plural which took a bit to get into plus the pace of the book is very slow. For th...more
Chrisitna
So far I am enjoying this book. It could easily be translated into Mormon culture. A good example of how xenophobia causes disunity and conflict in a tight knit communities.

Finished: WOW! What a powerful book. Essential reading for women in the LDS culture. Touches on the theme of examining our own lives instead of examining/criticizing the lives of other. Also about how we treat people who don't fit into the mold we have created for the typical LDS woman. Most importantly, it reminds me of the...more
Erin
I have to admit that I liked this book a lot more than I expected to on first glance. I am completely guilty of judging books by their covers...and I really wasn't attracted to this cover at all. It's a little funny considering that it's the story of a community who is quick to judge a new member who is not like them.

What I really enjoyed about this book was that it was told from the perspective of the community. That alone gave this book an incredibly unique voice.

I found the ending to be a bit...more
Mary
Being a member of a church congregation and a religous womens organization (Relief Society) myself, I couldn't help but chuckle and cringe at some parts. While my experiences and religious practicies as a Mormon are not exactly the same as a Jew, we both certainly share the understanding that we seem peculiar to others not of our faith and within our own religoius sect are individuals who have different personalities and ideas about how exactly to best live our faith. A fun read!
Brenda
I felt this book was a well written and easy flowing book. The story line was engaging and plausible. I related on many levels to the story line as a stranger moves into a tight-knit Jewish community and doesn't quite fit in with the other ladies. I love how Batsheva remains true to her passionate, yet someone different expression of faith despite being scorned for her past. An insightful look at how we may perceive and treat others who are not "traditional".
Ben Kruskal
A fascinating portrait of the small close knit modern Orthodox community of Memphis which artfully asks some big questions
Jen
I wish you could give 1/2 stars because I would probably say 2 1/2 stars for this book. I really struggled with the "we" style of writing. I had a hard time finding any redeeming qualities in these "we" women from this community. They were so quick to judge and gossip about each other especially the new woman in town. I could never get over this and I think it tainted my enjoyment of the book.

The Orthodox Jewish insight was interesting.
Krishelle
I wanted to poke my eyes out! I really had a hard time with the book. I'm not sure I liked the flow; I can't seem to put my finger on it. It was just plain odd to read.
The cycle of the way women treat each other will never end.
It's so much easier to blame someone else then take a long hard look at yourself.
All the ladies in this book are sinners, they just seem to think that their sins aren't as bad as someone else's.
Natalie
I'd probably give it 3.5 stars. It definitely deserved more than 3, so I rounded up. This was an interesting book. It left me thinking. It was interesting to read about Orthodox Jewish beliefs and traditions. I thought a lot about what is the religious law and what is just cultural. I think my religion has a lot of things that people do out of culture, not religious doctrine. So if a convert or somebody does something a different way we think, what are they doing?! But really it's not against th...more
Sally
Mar 23, 2012 Sally rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommended to Sally by: Mandy
I really enjoyed this book for several reasons:
1. I enjoyed learning more about the Jewish Orthodox culture.
2. Having felt like an outsider, I could relate to Batsheva and better understand the fear of the ladies in the auxiliary with the changes the newcomer might make to their traditions.
3. This book made me think!
Susie
Boo. This book blows. I HATE, HATE, HATE books written by Jewish authors that don't think they're trying to shove their religion down your throat when, in fact, they are. If I could give this less than one star, I would. In a heartbeat. The end.
Kim
My sister and I were trying to remember the name of this book today....we read this years ago and could both remember the story, but not the title. It was an excellent read.
Marilyn
Mar 02, 2008 Marilyn rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: People who struggle with imposed expectations.
Recommended to Marilyn by: Louise DeMoux
Shelves: novels
Expectations of a closed society from the point of view of an "outsider." Great for evaluation of what we expect of others in our own "closed" society.
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“She remembered a story she had once heard: a woman had gossiped about her neighbors and later regretted what she said. She went to the rabbi and asked how she might take back her words. He instructed her to take a feather pillow to the top of the highest hill and tear it open, letting the feathers fly every which way. Then, the rabbi said, she should return to him and he would tell her what to do. She did as he said and when she returned, he told her to go outside and gather the feathers. But that's impossible, she cried. They're already scattered all over the village. He looked at her and smiled. The same is true of your words, he said.” 20 likes
“If someone like Batsheva wanted to be Orthodox, there was surely something to it. Not that she doubted it (or at least she didn't ever really and truly doubt it), but it was nice to have outside validation. Whenever Mrs. Levy heard about people who left Orthodoxy, she felt a pang of insecurity. Did they know something she didn't? Were they smarter than she was? Did they now look at Orthodox Jews as silly, backward, superstitious? But with Batsheva choosing it on her own, she could breathe a little easier.” 1 likes
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