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The Ladies Auxiliary

3.66  ·  Rating Details  ·  4,145 Ratings  ·  818 Reviews
When free-spirited Batsheva moves into the close-knit Orthodox community of Memphis, Tennessee, the already precarious relationship between the Ladies Auxiliary and their teenage daughters is shaken to the core. In this extraordinary novel, Tova Mirvis takes us into the fascinating and insular world of the Memphis Orthodox Jews, one ripe with tradition and contradiction. W ...more
Paperback, Ballantine Reader's Circle, 336 pages
Published September 5th 2000 by Ballantine Books (first published January 1st 1999)
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Jun 03, 2008 Jana rated it really liked it
Recommended to Jana by: Bonnie
Shelves: re-read
The Ladies Auxiliary is essentially the Jewish version of Relief Society, complete with all the gossip, the cleaning fetishes and the casseroles. It's at once hilarious and heartbreaking. Narrated (brilliantly) in the first person PLURAL, it underscores the insider/outsider mentality. The main character is an artist from New York who moves into an Orthodox Jewish community in Memphis. It echoes in many ways my experience moving to Utah, this artist from California, and frequently feeling like an ...more
Aug 28, 2008 Carie rated it really liked it
Recommended to Carie by: Jamey
I really enjoyed this book. About a convert to Orthodox Judaism who moves with her daughter to a small Orthodox community in Memphis after her husband dies. She tries to fit in.

As an LDS reader, I found it fascinating. Lots of interesting questions: How often are we like the Mrs. Levys in this novel? Are we so stuck in our customs that we forget about our religion? How can we raise our children when the world lives so differently than we do?
May 31, 2008 Vanessa rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Vanessa by: Rachel
Shelves: book-club-books
This novel is set in an Orthodox Jewish neighborhood in Memphis, Tennessee. The story begins when a single mother moves into the neighborhood in hopes of starting a new life after the passing of her husband. She is a convert to Judaism, but as a fellow Orthodox Jew, she is confident that she will be welcomed to the community. Things begin to unravel from there.

This book is written in first person plural voice, which is unusual, but you get used to it very quickly. It is as if "The Ladies Auxilia
Mar 13, 2016 Kristine rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: all lds women
Recommended to Kristine by: Brandy Sims
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Apr 21, 2009 Kelly rated it it was ok
I had a hard time getting into this book and never really did. The Ladies Auxiliary were just a bunch of gossiping busybodies. They drove me crazy with how judgmental they were. There group reminded me of an LDS ward were everyone knows your business. I did like how it raised the question of do we practice our religious beliefs out of tradition or because we truly want to draw closer to God.

I wish I could be at book club to discuss the book with you gals.
Dec 14, 2008 Ann rated it it was amazing
I loved this book. I think it was because I could relate to so much of the story. Small communities are like that, hiding problems and protecting the status quo at all cost. What I love best about Oakland is that we celebrate diversity and seem to thrive on uncovering dirt to discuss.

And I loved the references to Jewish tradition. Although I was raised in a Reform congregation, my grandparents were very much a part of that Orthodoxy. And we all stuck together, supporting each other, even when it
May 14, 2014 Marsha rated it really liked it
I loved this book! I would have given it 5 stars, but some of the writing was just a little awkward. The ladies, members of a tight-knit orthodox Jewish community in Memphis, were so much fun to get to know. I am a Mormon and grew up in a community where there were not many other Mormons, but now live in a majority Mormon community. I could relate to these Auxiliary ladies who have strong religious traditions and feelings, and who want to pass those on to their children. Their foibles, fears, in ...more
Aug 18, 2010 Adrianne rated it really liked it
This book left me thinking. Am I open to change? Am I open, welcoming, and friendly to someone who thinks differently than I do? Do I see the beam in my own eye (see Matthew 7:3)? How do I worship? Do I just go through the motions? Or do I connect with God? How can I be the mother my children need? How can I love them not matter what they choose even when it might break my heart?
This is an intellectual story and not chick-lit so I really liked the themes and thought-provoking messages. It was told from the POV of the collective, a plural "we", so that the idea of the newcomer coming to town and not being part of the community was always at the forefront of the reader's mind. It was an interesting way to write the novel and made it seem as though all the women felt the same way about everything, but really underneath, they all had different viewpoints. I found the lack o ...more
Oct 22, 2010 Shauna rated it really liked it
Recommended to Shauna by: Carol Goodsell
Shelves: favorites
This was such a good book. Even though this deals wiht a Jewish community. It really can apply to any community that is not very tolerant of others. I am Morman, but did not grow up in a Morman household. Living in Utah is not very easy for those who are not of the Morman faith. I did not find my faith until college, so like Batsheva, I chose this and was not raised with this. There were many characters in this book who remind me of the people I now live around. I know what it is like to move in ...more
Mar 30, 2010 Robyn rated it liked it
Recommended to Robyn by: my cute Mom
I so wanted to like this book more than I did. I was expecting light-hearted sisterhood stuff, but, instead, I got so upset every time I sat down to read it. It made me so mad and even furious at times! A great example of religion taken to the realm of zealot and the ugly nature of women involved in everyone elses business but their own. A good lesson in beam and mote ideology. This isn't just a Jewish problem tho, I see it in my own religion. Especially living here in Utah. Anyway, I just wante ...more
Jun 17, 2008 Patty rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Rebecca, Anita, Kim
This book surprised me how it sucked me in. The characters were so complex and well-developed. I especially liked how the author dealt with prejudices within a close-knit religious community. She treats the topic with sensitivity, but a certain amount of irony and sarcasm. Reading this book helped me take a look at my own hypocrisies and prejudices, especially those that masquerade as religion. Mirvis really brings home the idea that being religious for appearance's sake can be soul-deadening an ...more
Mar 29, 2012 Allysen rated it really liked it
It was a fascinating read. I love how it was a world I have never been in before and probably won't ever be in, but it hit so close to home. Its hard to fit in and find a place in a close knit community, especially one thats so old and hard fast in their traditions. Even though I'm not jewish I could still relate to the feelings in this book. It is well written and worth the read.
Aug 10, 2009 Sarah rated it really liked it
Shelves: novel, book-club
This book is an excellent book club book, especially among a religious crowd. It makes one ponder what is tradition vs. based on gospel principles. It makes you squirm in your seat as you identify yourself in one of the less desirable characters. It gives you hope as you see change can happen for everyone. I read it in a book club years ago...perhaps it's time to suggest it again.
Jun 13, 2007 Danielle rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: everyone
While reading a fun story about a close-knit community of women, I learned something about Orthodox Judaism. Neat.
Jun 03, 2014 Mary rated it liked it
I would've given this book a four... I really enjoyed it all the way through until the end, which just left everything unresolved and hanging! :( If only the end had had more closure! But, I guess that makes it more like real life. I'm just not a real life kinda girl when it comes to my fiction, I like endings that resolve the issues that are going on. Small town, Memphis, with a close knit Orthodox Jewish community where everybody knows everyone else's business. A new girl moves to town and sha ...more
Nov 23, 2008 Angela rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: anyone who is a convert to any religion or faith, anyone who wants a glimpse into the Jewish culture
Recommended to Angela by: Cindy Rees
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Sep 12, 2011 Emily rated it liked it
Or maybe 4 stars...hard to decide. The story is set in a close-knit orthodox Jewish community in Nashville (yes, really! Orthodox Jews saying y'all). Things get shaken up when a new woman, a convert, moves in. What was a bit awkward was the way it was written in the first person plural. That helped emphasize the fact that Batsheva, the convert, was an outsider, and I imagine that's why the author chose to do it. It was "we" and "she". But sometimes I really just wanted to know who was speaking. ...more
Sep 26, 2009 Kristin rated it really liked it
This was the pick for September for my church book club. It sounded interesting and I was excited to read it. This book is an enigma to me in many ways. Just when I think I have formed an opinion about opinion changes.

When I first started this book I had a really hard time getting into it. There are about 20 main characters and none of them are the narrator exactly. The story is told in first-person plural which took a bit to get into plus the pace of the book is very slow. For th
Jan 04, 2010 Chrisitna rated it it was amazing
So far I am enjoying this book. It could easily be translated into Mormon culture. A good example of how xenophobia causes disunity and conflict in a tight knit communities.

Finished: WOW! What a powerful book. Essential reading for women in the LDS culture. Touches on the theme of examining our own lives instead of examining/criticizing the lives of other. Also about how we treat people who don't fit into the mold we have created for the typical LDS woman. Most importantly, it reminds me of the
Dec 22, 2013 Jeanette rated it really liked it
As much I enjoyed the personalities of this easy read, it also made me sad. Incredibly sad within a heavy view of nostalgia and yearning for the "we are all quite the same in perception" of my immigrant and 1st generation neighborhood of my childhood. The support and the conflicts, both, were considerable- but never reflected the types of dissociation, nor abandonment of individuals, nor violence so common in the same city today. All the identical issues and interactions applied for us as did wi ...more
Dec 08, 2014 DeB rated it it was amazing
The Ladies Auxiliary is, the on the surface, a story of an Orthodox Jewish community in Memphis, Tennessee. A newcomer, Batsheva, moves into the neighbourhood and she unintentionally causes the traditional group of women to question her actions, faith and purpose against their rigid rule bound society. Chaos and transformation ensues, none of which is easy on anyone. This is a deeply felt, thoughtful and universal story about the expectations of societal norms, the choices and attitudes over ind ...more
Jun 20, 2008 Erin rated it liked it
I have to admit that I liked this book a lot more than I expected to on first glance. I am completely guilty of judging books by their covers...and I really wasn't attracted to this cover at all. It's a little funny considering that it's the story of a community who is quick to judge a new member who is not like them.

What I really enjoyed about this book was that it was told from the perspective of the community. That alone gave this book an incredibly unique voice.

I found the ending to be a bit
Mar 07, 2016 Abbi rated it really liked it
This book had elements of "Cold Sassy Tree," "The Help," and "The Chosen." I was completely fascinated with the culture presented, found the humor enjoyable, and loved the characters. It brings up great points about how neighborhoods can include/exclude, judge/embrace, hold fast to their values/allow diversity of ideas, teach/restrict, gossip about/lend a hand to their members. It made me think inwardly about how open I am to different viewpoints, how accepting I am of those different than me, a ...more
Mar 24, 2015 Marty rated it really liked it
An Interesting book!! –Although I knew a little about Judaism, I’ve never really thought much about the daily life of an Orthodox community in today’s modern America. Mirvis’s story of how a community in Memphis, Tennessee, struggles to keep their traditions gives the reader a window into this situation. The younger members – particularly the teenagers – want more freedom. The Ladies Auxiliary members try to hold on to traditions. Although there are cracks in the society before free-spirited Bat ...more
May 27, 2016 Lisa rated it really liked it
This is a delightful and thought-provoking book about the benefits and detriments of communities that may value cultural traditions over principles--here in the setting of an Orthodox Jewish community in Memphis (which has been there since the Civil War--who knew?). But it could be applicable in many ways to LDS traditional (if not stereotypical) communities faced with the worldwide growth of the Church (or even with a new member who doesn't seem to "fit in")--we need to be careful to separate t ...more
Apr 24, 2012 Mary rated it really liked it
Being a member of a church congregation and a religous womens organization (Relief Society) myself, I couldn't help but chuckle and cringe at some parts. While my experiences and religious practicies as a Mormon are not exactly the same as a Jew, we both certainly share the understanding that we seem peculiar to others not of our faith and within our own religoius sect are individuals who have different personalities and ideas about how exactly to best live our faith. A fun read!
Aug 04, 2012 Brenda rated it really liked it
I felt this book was a well written and easy flowing book. The story line was engaging and plausible. I related on many levels to the story line as a stranger moves into a tight-knit Jewish community and doesn't quite fit in with the other ladies. I love how Batsheva remains true to her passionate, yet someone different expression of faith despite being scorned for her past. An insightful look at how we may perceive and treat others who are not "traditional".
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Mar 04, 2016 Suanne Laqueur rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: my-five-stars
The narrative is third-person plural: "Little changed in this city where we have always lived..." So you are hearing the story through the community viewpoint, which accentuates the insularity of the Jews in Memphis. At first I thought it a strange point of view and then I was hooked because it made me feel part of the story, part of that "we."

Beautiful story, beautiful characters... I really have no words to describe how much I loved this book.
Feb 17, 2015 Tanya rated it liked it
Shelves: fiction
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