Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship
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Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship

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Will I Ever Find My Soul Mate?

Whether you are recently separated, divorced, or you have been in the singles scene for longer than you want, this insightful guide will help you navigate the dating maze and find that special person you've been waiting for.

By discussing the differences between men and women, Mars and Venus on a Date provides singles with:

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ebook, 400 pages
Published October 6th 2009 by HarperCollins e-books (first published 1997)
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Jason DeGroot
Another informative and helpful book from Dr. Gray, though this one was a lot more uneven. The first half was great, and once again taught me that I've pretty much been doing everything wrong dating-wise in terms of laying a strong foundation for a long-term relationship. His discussion of the five stages of dating was immensely helpful and also helped explain why some relationships haven't worked out for me.

About halfway through, though, it started to feel like Gray was getting paid by the word...more
K Dog
my guy friend gave this to me, I didn't like it. Couldn't finish it. I read this sentence in the book where it said women should not give guys directions if they are lost or tell the guy he is lost. Hello are we supposed to drive around all night getting more lost??? with these gas prices...uh no!
When I want to learn how to do something well, I read up on the topic. And yes, that even applies to dating. This is, hands down, the best dating book I've ever read. Gray does an excellent job at explaining the wonderful (but sometimes baffling) differences between the genders. It helps each to better understand how the other interprets those little things that can make or break dating in its fragile early stages, which is particularly helpful for a generation who just doesn't date anymore. Gra...more
What did I learn from this book? That I am still learning. As I read- I thought about the relationships I have had in my life and what I have learned about myself from them. It was also interesting reading about the stages of dating. In truth- I agree with the approach of moving slower and really getting to know each other.

What I find from many of these books- which leaves me at a loss- is where is the wisdom and advice for those of us whose relationships go amuck as a result of situational cha...more
Rain Grrl
This was a great book. I had read it before, and just finished reading it with a group of women. Some were afraid that they hadn't read the original Mars and Venus book and would be lost. That is not the case. Every concept that Gray discusses, he explains fully. He mentions the first book occasionally but information is not missing.
My biggest concern is that the book is very dated. It leans back to a much "simpler" time, and has zero advice about online dating websites and the new ways men and...more
The genders do have different ways of processing and communicating things. In this book, John Gray offers standard trends with each gender in terms of dating rituals. Some may be critical of the sweeping generalizations, "Not all men do ...." "Not all women feel ..." but his intent is to only share what the majority often feel, react to, and methods typically used to communicate wants, needs and emotions.

If you get the chance, read this book with a member of the opposite sex. Read a chapter the...more
JC Andrew
After my seven-year marriage dissolved, I felt I needed something to get me in tune to the dating scene of the new era. A friend of mine had suggested this book so I read it with speculation and hesitation. I am glad that I did because I enjoyed it.

John Gray, the well known author of the best selling book Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus, takes you through the steps and stages of dating so that you end up in a lasting relationship. He lists five stages that you have to go through succ...more
I am a great fan of John Gray ever since the first "Men are from Mars, etc..." book was published. I found his explanations and examples most helpful.

Now that I am in my new marriage and being a self-improvement junkie, I naturally turn to my trusted reference sources for enlightenment. So I read this book for better understanding of my own relationship and tips on finessing log jams.

I highly recommend constant tuning up in one's life. With my daughter recently married, I think about the ministe...more
I think every human of relationship age should read this book. Great breakdown of the typical differences between the genders and how those differences affect one's instincts in a romantic relationship. Suddenly things make sense. Light bulbs start burning bright. I've read a few decent relationship books, but this one breaks down such basic differences that it should be a prerequisite to the others. The book only briefly touches on being a strong, self-aware and confident individual before atte...more
Coming from an extremely dysfunctional family, I was very unsuccessful at dating and finding a soulmate. It wasn't until I read Mars and Venus on a date that I realized I had no idea how to date or have a successful relationship. Most self help books address the problems people have when they are already in a relationship, but this one starts from the first date. It was the single most helpful book I have found on the subject of building a positive relationaship. Thank you, John Gray
It was informative and very much based on evolutionary facts (ex men are work-oriented). There's a lot of facts in the book that wasn't very much universal. For example, shy people would approach dating in a very different approach than what he described men and women to be. The tidbit on continuing attraction sounds useful, but I haven't used it in reality yet. So let's see
Mar 10, 2008 Kat rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: all women, single or taken
This is a book all single women should have on their bookshelf. I was amazed how many of my different relationships followed so many of the stages. It helped me realized the things I was doing wrong right from the start. I don't know if reading it changed anything I was doing but it was at least fun to be able to see what path I went down.
Kryssy Kirsch
I couldn't finish the book. 2 plus chapters in, and it made me so angry. Yes there were some good points, but then again, I don't need to buy a book to tell me these pointers, my amazing friends have told me some of these things. I don't believe in "soul mates" or "soul love" so I found this book to be extremely corny and truly not informative.
I understood men better after reading this book. One insight that stood out was the fact that men like to talk about what they DO in a social setting such as a date, which women often perceive as boring and arrogant. That explained a lot to me though. :-) Oh, and women would rather talk about how they feel.
Should be required reading for anyone who ever wants to have a successful dating relationship or marriage
Ana - Maria Lenghel
De 10 minute am terminat cartea aceasta, care mi s-a parut extraordinara. O prietena de-a mea si-a comandat-o de pe internet, iar mai apoi i-a adus-o si surorii mele. Cu toate ca stiam de cateva luni ca am mari probleme in domeniul relatiilor amoroase, nu am fost deloc incantata cand am luat prima data cartea in mana. Am inceput s-o citesc din cauza entuziasmului cu care mi-a fost prezentata, insa nu stiam ce avea sa mi se intample... In prima noapte am ramas cu ea in mana pana la 4:30 dimineata...more
Stephen Grilley
RE: Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship (Kindle Edition)

I am grateful for the opportunity to experience this book while in a new relationship. I became aware of habits I have carried for many years that do not contribute to a relatively healthy relationship...and was able to experience reliable discernment(s) from the relationship's 'other half' in 'real time'. Awesome! Next book and perhaps the next perfect gift to...more
Mar 04, 2008 billy rated it 3 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: people who fuck up at love time and again
Recommended to billy by: joanie wolkoff (via zoe greenburg)
It's nice to actually think about dating sometimes, to not just believe that it's this magical organic process of getting swept off yr feet. He breaks down our approaches pretty simply: it's more satisfying to please a woman than to be pleased. I can roll with that. Here's to courtship.

Overall, this book more often addresses women and what they need to do to get a solid dude. It also was a little embarrassing to read on the subway--and I read some pretty embarrassing shit. For two pages, he brok...more
A friend of mine recommended I read this book to get a better understanding of why I was so different from my better half. Although I was totally in love and happy, I felt that he was moving substantially slower than me. I read the book thinking it was going to hold the answers to all my questions... not the case. Patience is a virtue, as I have now discovered. This book basically told me everything we already know. Men and women are two different beings, neither understanding the other.
I thin...more
An interesting communication book. It does, however, take some patience to sit through the pages. I agree with the author's logic/theory but I do not agree with the way he puts it. Yes, I'll be nonchalant if I want to stay in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship, for the sake of some higher callings, or superior genetic procreation, etcetera etc. I guess the burning question is "Does the end result justify all the petulant annoyances?" John Gray is no doubt an intelligent man....more
Allen Rauschendorfer
Never to old to learn a few things.

Good read. Dating later in life makes things more complicated but the material in this book still applies. a lot of good suggestions.
Quelques vérités éternelles non-négligeables, mais la façon á laquelle le livre essaie de banaliser les relations hommes/femmes fatigue le lecteur après un certain moment.
Aug 15, 2013 Teri rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Anyone interested in understanding and improving their relationships with the opposite sex
Shelves: non-fiction
I ended up reading this book immediately after I finished reading Gray's classic work, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, and I was again shocked that I actually liked what I expected to be a dated and sexist text. In fact, not only did the messages and examples resonate with experience, but I found myself enjoying the more spiritual take on relationships in this book over Gray's initial offering. Again, this is a book I will recommend to others. I'm also interested enough to check out oth...more
it is very interesting and give u deep insight of men and women difference and how to treat them accordingly.. i have learnt a lot from this book and i like the way he wrote this book.
Sebenarnya saya agak kurang sreg baca nih buku. Coz saya memang bukan penganut pacaran. Hanya saja ada banyak pelajaran sih yang bisa kita ambil tentang memahami karakter pria dan wanita yang emang bener2 beda tapi bisa nyatu. Sapa tau bermanfaat ntar saat kita menjalin hubungan dg pria (disini saya menyebutnya bila udah nikah). Biar kita nggak salah mempersepsikan cara pandang atau gaya komunikasi lawan jenis kita dan menjaga keutuhan hubungan tersebut. Selain itu disini juga ada bahasan tentan...more
I liked this one better than the original
Wan Siti
Sentiasa mencari benda-benda baru untuk mengenali diri-sendiri dan juga kenali juga orang-orang sekitar kita.

Sambil baca buku ini, praktikkan terus apa sahaja sub-topik yang terdapat dalam buku ini.

Kepakaran emosi dan intelektual dalam meneladani teori yang diutarakan, dapat mengajar diri untuk menghormati dan mendengar apa sahaja yang ada di sebalik yang tersurat di depan mata.

Selamat membaca dan rangkumkan ilmunya secara 'hands-on' dalam kehidupan.

in syaa ALLAH, semoga berjaya ^_^
i like that the author classified the dating life cycle to five stages, which would help u to identify which stage u r in and what u suppose to expect within. i like the fact that he highlighted "chemistry cannot be created" but we only can have the right conditions to feel the existing chemistry degree. after all he become to repeat the same advises for both Martians and Venusians which i i didnt like coz he disturbed the concept of the natural difference between the two sexes.
Mimi Somsanith
I like John Gray's collection of books. He reminds me of Dr. Phil before it became sensationalized and Delilah Luke from the Delilah Show on the radio stations. The authors may not necessary be champions of the topics of their discussion, but they bring insight, hope, help, and joy to their audience.

When you've read one of John Gray's books, you may feel like you've read them all. Avid fans would read them all and enjoy them all.
I will say that there IS some decent advice in here, but overall it's just a bunch of games and the final answer to anything is "you'll just know". I've come to the realization that there are no absolutes in life or love, and advice doesn't always work on everyone. Even the best relationships can utterly fail at some point. So "knowing" doesn't mean crap...if you "just knew" then there wouldn't be any heartbreak, would there.
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John Gray is an American author on relationships and personal growth, best known for his 1992 book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, and other "pop psychology" books offering relationship advice.

He was previously married to fellow self-help author Barbara De Angelis, but they divorced in 1984. He is now m...more
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