The Happiest Toddler on the Block: the New Way to Stop the Daily Battle of Wills and Raise a Secure and Well-Behaved One- to Four-Year-Old
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The Happiest Toddler on the Block: the New Way to Stop the Daily Battle of Wills and Raise a Secure and Well-Behaved One- to Four-Year-Old

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Toddlers can drive you bonkers…so adorable and fun one minute…so stubborn and demanding the next! Yet, as unbelievable as it sounds, there is a way to turn the daily stream of “nos” and “don’ts” into “yeses” and hugs…if you know how to speak your toddler’s language. In one of the most useful advances in parenting techniques of the past twenty-five years, Dr. Karp reveals t...more
Hardcover, 336 pages
Published August 26th 2008 by Bantam (first published 2004)
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Susanne
I was SO impressed with Dr Karp's first book, "The Happiest Baby on the Block," that I didn't even look at the "Happiest Toddler" before buying it. The five "S's" in "The Happiest Baby" absolutely saved our sanity when Isaac was a newborn. For him, it really was like flipping a switch from cranky to calm.

After reading"Happiest Toddler," I find myself thinking that there are some suggestions I might refer back to at some future dat...more
Kelly Cooke
This book made me wish for the rebirth of the pamphlet. You know how Thomas Paine and those folks around the birth of our nation had these big ideas but then put them in a pamphlet? I think that's what Harvey Karp should do. Only, his ideas (in this book, anyway) aren't really that big.

Here's something that bothers me. A writer or somesuch will have a decent idea and sell many, many books (i.e. "The Happiest Baby on the Block," which I enjoyed in DVD form and "Th...more
Lynne
A solid basic parenting book for toddlers, although with a somewhat strange twist about considering your toddler to be a caveman. Most of his points are very good basic parenting advice, but the "toddler-ese" thing is a bit strange. Tried it with some of my patients and some of the parents out-right laughed at me or looked at me like I lost my mind and it didn't really actually help with the kid's distress. Definitely, it doesn't work on Spenser who just looks at me like I'm nuts and ...more
Sally
I think it's important to relate to your kids, to try to understand where they're coming from, to even speak to them on their level, respecting their abilities. But I will not get on the floor and cry in baby-speak just because my 2 year old is doing it! There are better, gentle, more dignified ways.

I was surprised that I didn't like this book (I actually watched the video) as much as The Happiest Baby on the Block because there were some ideas in the baby book that are right-on. ...more
Jackie
I really, really hope this book gives me some ideas on how to deal with the angry alien that has invaded my once happy child....

So far Toddlerese has not exactly worked. But it will still be a tool we will try.
Tracyesine
My two star rating is based on the "it was okay" description. Yes, this book is okay. It contains some good advice about how to make a toddler feel his or her feelings have been heard, and why this is important. I appreciated the little techniques for creating a positive, encouraging vibe by letting the child overhear positive things about his/her actions, as well as the actions of others. I also agree that lengthy reasoning with an angry toddler is not productive, and will likely ...more
Jamie Hergott
I read this book because Dr. Karp's first book, Happiest Baby on the Block, saved or lives when my daughter was a baby. She was inconsolable every single evening for 2 to 3 hours before bedtime. Most people chalked it up to her having colic and told me it would get better in a few months. I picked up Happiest Baby and started implementing his 5 S's (Swaddle, Ssh, Swinging, Sucking, Side/Stomach) and it worked like a charm every single time. I was completely relived. I figured his second book wou...more
Stephanie
I really liked Dr. Karp's Happiest Baby on the Block because it was so straight forward. This book? Not so much. He advocates talking to a child in what I find to be a silly and non-sensical way. If a child has a tantrum about say being hungry, for example, you're supposed to tell her: "You're hungry. Hungry. Hungry. Hungry." I mean, I get that toddlers can't be reasoned with, and I understand his point that toddlers are essentially uncivilized cavemen, but really? I just can't do this...more
Hilarie
These days, it seems as though every book written by a doctor has a catchy gimmick designed to grab the interest of the reader. This book was no exception, as on the back cover Dr. Karp lovingly refers to toddlers everywhere as pint-sized cavemen. Since I am currently in the throws of the toddler years, I had to agree with Dr. Karp, as there are days that my little one happily wreaks destruction. Lest you think that Dr. Karp is somehow being insulting, let me assure you that it is very eviden...more
Shana
Great starter book for understanding toddler emotions and how to respect them and handle tantrums. The only thing I didn't like about this book is the dramatization, which I find escalates the child emotions. They need us to bridge the gap from how they feel to how they can feel good again. We accept their negative feelings. We allow them to have negative feelings. But we dont have to have negative feelings with them. We can come from a place of peace, bridge the gap with empathy, and let them w...more
Cheryl
This book is absolutely BIZARRE!!!! I picked it up last week at a bookstore's going-out-of-business sale, and I have mostly just been skimming it. But I had to stop, because it was so strange! The author advocates GROWLING at your child like a dog or a bear to get him to stop misbehavior! He also advocates speaking to your child in "caveman" language when trying to stop misbehavior or tantrums. Here is an example: "Cookie! Cookie! You want cookie! Cry! Cry! Cry! Emma Cry!...more
Leslie
I was pleasantly surprised with this book. Not only is it an easy, quick read, but it's also really congruent throughout; everything fits together like a perfect puzzle. It's like you've hired a personal parent trainer who has provided you with a complete "work out" plan, and all the parts work together for the general benefit.

I went into it with the mentality of taking everything as a grain of salt (is that the expression? or is it "with" a grain of salt? neithe...more
Jenny
I'm mixed on this book. I love that it is a somewhat realistic guide to dealing with small children and some of the advice is going to be very useful in regards to setting limits, helping kids develop patience and learning about consequences. However, I do thing some of it is wrapped up in a bow a little too easily. For example, the book is filled with anecdotes where a parent discusses a particular tantrum he/she is dealing with and how she tried the methods in the book and instantly there wa...more
Philitsa
A lot of this book didn't really resound for me except -- as others have stated -- the FFR. I use that all the time in my personal and professional lives, so it made sense to extend it to my daughter. There has been an improvement in her tantrum recovery time that I'll attribute to that. However, I simply refuse to speak like a caveman to her when she's upset. I just don't buy it. How will dropping pronouns and prepositions make her understand me more? I'm happy to hear from other parents ...more
Lisa
This book has been talked up a lot by several friends. So I was really hoping I would like it and I would get some insights as our daughter started throwing full blown tantrums at 10 months old when she wouldn't get her way when it came to stuff like climbing the stairs, going in the kitchen, etc.

However, being that I didn't much like Happiest Baby on the Block and found Karp's writing style annoying there, I probably should have expected the same from this book. Seriously, I think ...more
Nada Ali
Nada Ali is currently reading it  ·  review of another edition
So far I have read the acknowledgements (always like to read those first. Acknowledgements reveal so much about the writer(s) and about the process of writing the book.). I have also read the Introduction, chapter 4 "24 to 36 months: Your Clever Cave Kid", and the Appendix: "Ten Steps Every Parent Should Know: The Basics of Raising a Happy Toddller."

Contains useful advice on how to raise a happy toddler. The authors argue that toddlers are not just miniaturized...more
Jessica
I was actually surprised by how much I got out of this book. I never really used Dr. Karp's Happiest Baby on the Block techniques, although that was mainly because our little one was already older when I read it. But I thought I would check this one out, as I needed a little guidance for the toddler years!
Many of Dr. Karp's techniques sound a little ridiculous, and they honestly feel a little ridiculous at first, but I think they work. It's all about respecting your toddler by acknowledgin...more
Harmony
I loved this book. I was so surprised to come onto Goodreads today and find that so many people gave the book low or mediocre ratings! I think that it basically comes down to doing what you feel is comfortable and successful. Perhaps the methods that Dr. Karp recommends don't sit well with all parents, or don't work for all children.

I really felt like the book further opened my eyes to how toddlers see the world. Many of things he recommended, I already do with the toddlers I bab...more
Karen
No! NO NO NO! Dr. Karp, I hear that you are trying to write an accessible book about children for overworked parents, but I am not a toddler myself! Too many exclamation points and twee little pictures! Too many fallacies (homo erectus does not equal neanderthal)! Too obvious that you are writing mainly, if not only, to mothers, and those mothers are probably pretty well-off!

I read the first half and skimmed the second before I took it back to the library. In my case, the only possibly...more
Esmeralda
Toddlers have their own way of communicating: ME, NOW. They have their own perspective of being a little person in giants world. Mr. Karp offers a paradigm to create effective communication. A baby's brain is that of a monkey which goes through an evolutionary change into a homosapien brain at age 4. He developed a language to use for the Neanderthal babies. One of the mistakes parents make is to be dismissive of a toddler's pain / perspective. By doing some grunting and cave man talk one can mi...more
Jenny
I agree with the basic communication tips in this book - validating anyone's feelings when they are upset is a good way to diffuse a situation. But, I recoiled at the notion that I should speak to my 2 year-old in short sentence fragments. I have used this way of speaking on my almost 2 year-old and she looks at me like I am crazy for not using complete sentences. Getting on her level and meeting her frustration level in my validation of her feelings (in complete sentences) has helped me diff...more
Michael
Review: How to Convey Information

To get your point across, it helps to repeat it.

Harvey Karp has a few ideas about how to deal with toddlers. Some of them might be good, some of them might be bad. But he will repeat them.

I know what you're thinking. There's a lot of pages there. I'm worried I might miss something. You will not! Harvery Karp will repeat it for you.

You see, back in prehistoric times, people couldn't read! There was no permanent recor...more
jacky
I was hopeful for this book, but whenever I tried anything he suggested that we don't already do, it didn't work. Its possible that I just need more practice, but there were many cases where trying the Fast Food Rule and Toddlerese made my daughter cry harder. So, it was interesting to read the techniques, but I don't think I will be using them as much as he talks about. That brings me to his writing style. I found it a little too optimistic, almost like an infomercial. He makes very big pr...more
Lisa
I really want to give Dr. Karp's book 5 stars because his ideas about how to deal with toddler behavior are spot on. In fact, a lot of his ideas mirrors the ones in The Mirages of Marriage, the marital advice book I read six months ago. But I really disliked the presentation in spots because it was so! darn! excited! and had lots of ellipses...and kind of silly language (not his descriptions of Toddler-ese, those work wonderfully, just his regular language at times). Just because I'm a busy pare...more
Lisa
As with the Happiest Baby, busy parents may want to just watch the 30-some minute DVD which covers all of the good Doc's tactics plus show them in use with real families
Holyn
Happiest Toddler on the Block is an interesting but dense book about living with children during their toddler years. I think this is a book which I will need to reference as my daughter continues to grow. The steps Dr. Karp recommends change as a child matures from a young toddler into an older toddler since children develop a greater understanding as they grow.

Dr. Karp's theory is that toddlers are cavepeople -they are led by basic desires of survival - food, warmth, etc - and th...more
Leta
This book made so much sense and honestly inspired me to parent differently. The only concept with which I am struggling is that we need to speak "Toddlerese" to our toddlers. Toddlerese is a primitive language which is quite hilarious. He explains it fully in the book. I have tried speaking toddlerese to both my two and three year old toddlers and have to admit that it works extremely well. I just feel so silly when I do it. I always look at my husband after speaking it and we bo...more
Amy
a helpful tool in understanding my "spirited" child....seriously, only 10% of toddlers are given this label???? Help me!!!!!!
Amy
We need a bit of help. ;)

Sadly - didn't help & weird theory. Still a huge fan of his baby book though.
Valerie
Overall, the book had some good ideas and pointers. Some things I like include the use of "gossip" (which we tried last night at dinner and successfully got Luke to eat pepperoni), and the idea of being sure to work on building positive behaviors (instead of just focusing on how to "fix" negative behaviors.) However, I didn't like the "time out" section AT ALL! (It was too sugar-coated and didn't explain the fundamentals of changing behaviors).

The writin...more
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