I'm Nobody: My Mother Said It; I No Longer Believe It
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I'm Nobody: My Mother Said It; I No Longer Believe It

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As sixteen-year-old Erma Steppe stood in a one-room apartment over a bar in Columbus, Ohio, her mother said to her, "You are nobody." With no money, no clothes, and a rumbling stomach, Erma retreated into herself as her angry and intoxicated mother continued a familiar rant. Erma had always been her victim.

In her poignant autobiography, Erma Steppe shares her heartbreaking...more
Paperback, 176 pages
Published January 2nd 2011 by iUniverse, Incorporated
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Erma Steppe
Jan 19, 2014 Erma Steppe rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  (Review from the author)
I started this book as a journal because I was dealing with continual rejection from my mother. I put my memories and heartaches on paper and there was enough pain and suffering to complete a book. I was emotionally, physically, and sexually abused throughout my childhood. This memoir is my story of survival. My hope is for adults to recognize and respond to any child who encounters bullying or is a victim of any form of abuse.
I haven't stopped thinking about this book since I finished reading it. It's an amazing story of someones life that had every reason & every opportunity to never be more than what she grew up in, but her will and determination lead her down a different path. Although she may be still coming to terms with her pain, her story has the ability to change many lives or at least their outlook on their own lives. I have recommended this book to everyone I know.
Susie Spizzirro
A good read. I read it in one sitting. Difficult to put down once you start reading. A book abt. cruel life struggles and ones desire to be love by her mother. A strength unbelievable for a small child and later as a teen, to continualy strive for love and understanding. How many of us have walked a similar path?

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I'm Nobody written by Erma Steppe follows closely the path of life this woman was given as a child, as a teenager and as she began to make her own path as a young wife and...more
‘Zion said, “The LORD has forsaken me; my LORD has forgotten me.” Can a mother forget her infant, be without tenderness for the child of her womb? Even should she forget, I will never forget you.’ Isaiah 49:14-15

All mothers are not created equal. In I’m Nobody, Erma Steppe describes a mother who far surpasses the Scriptural maternal forgetfulness and neglect described by the Prophet Isaiah. And yet it wasn’t the great atrocities committed by Erma’s mother, her numerous boyfriends, husbands, vari...more
I was fortunate enough to receive this book as a part of Good Reads Giveaways, and I'm very glad I did.

I began reading this book earlier today as a break from study, I was unable to stop reading.

It tells the story of Erma who since she was a toddler found herself in and out of children's homes and foster care due to abuse of a physical, sexual and emotional nature as well as heartbreaking neglect, all the while dreaming of attaining her mother's love.

The true strength of this novel comes not f...more
Very heartbreaking story of a young women that had a very hard life. This book is truly motivational and a must read for everyone!
David Gallagher
I've never won a giveaway before, so I'm thankful I did with this book.

I wish there were half stars, because this book is a 3.5 for me. Currently, I don't have the heart to give it a 3.

I'm particularly critical when it comes to books that are autobiographies and/or memoirs. The information age and the internet has made us all writers, and unfortunately, so many stories of those being written are not worth being read.

That doesn't happen here however. A complete page-turner, with the author's vo...more
Nov 06, 2013 Wendy rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommended to Wendy by: Goodreads Giveaways
Shelves: contemporary, memoir
"I'm Nobody My Mother Said;I No Longer Believe It" by Erma Steppe which I won from Goodreads Giveaways is a poignant and heartbreaking memoir about a woman crippled all her life by the sexual abuse, torment, and lack of parental love she suffered as a child. Crushed by a lack of self-esteem, this courageous and gentle woman struggles to overcome the nightmares of her past, doting affection on her children and loving a domineering husband while still clinging to the hope that one day her mother w...more
Georgia Conroy
If I can recommend any book over the years I would say that this is it. This book has hit me on an emotional and intellectual level.
It is a book that has haunted me, it's taken me a while to try and even formulate a review on the book due to the impression it has made. Where do I start? This book sits with me because the author is brutally honest about what happened to them, how they felt and how they still feel. It is not a book about self-pity. It is simply Ms. Steppe telling her own story and...more
This is a book I would recommend highly. I can't stop thinking about it and have been telling anyone who will listen about Erma. The struggles one child went through and to be able to over come it is truly inspiring. The courage and strength that a child had to have to deal with things no one should ever have to go through. To see how her mother treated her was horrifying, the total lack of a mother love is heartbreaking to read I can't even imagine living it. It really touched me I just want to...more
Eddie Laudermilt
I'm Nobody, written by Erma Steppe is a real life history of Erma Steppe. A story filled with history of the social work programs for the children in need in the 40s, 50s and 60s. A history of the court systems and the school systems in dealing with children living in severe poverty and extreme cruelty on a daily basis.
Erma's story goes on to present day seeking only to hear these words, "I love you" from a mother who has no understanding of what these words mean.
As a part time teacher, I bel...more
Teresa Laudermilt
I read this book when it first came out. a true story of a little girl living with a cruel, unloving mother. Erma endured years of physical, emotional,sexual and deviant behaviours from her mother and her mothers' boyfriends. A child with the added responsibilities of her little sister and little brothers.
I'm Nobody, contains legal documentation of when and how a friend finally put a stop to the mothers' rule of Erma and her siblings lives only to be tossed into another world of childrens hom...more
Amanda Chalifoux
This sounds book sounds so good, but I'm glad from the title you were able to overcome it & it def. makes me wanna read more. And I think no one should go through that stuff, your mom but you through. I hate violence of any kind.
Laura Comley
WOW! This heartwrenching autobiography is a mustread for anyone who has been abused, knows someone who has been abused, or works with someone who has been abused. In otherwords,EVERYONE. Everyone should have a copy of this book.
Oct 31, 2013 Courtney marked it as to-read
This book is a must read for everyone, I simply could not put it down.
Such an inspirational and insightful tale into a woman's cruel life. Truly amazing.
This was a heart breaking book. A quick read too. She writes with honesty. I hope she goes on to let go of the past and have a bright future.
I just received the book! Thanks to goodreads and Erma Steppe for providing it!...Review forthcoming!
I'm glad I used my gift certificate to buy this book. I've started reading it as soon as I received the book from the mail, and found it really hard to put down.

I give I'm Nobody: My Mother Said It; I No Longer Believe It a rating of 4.5/5. It's not one of my favourites, but I definitely really liked it. Simply because of how Erma's story drawn me in so easily.

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I received a copy via Goodreads Giveaway and I express my sincere appreciation to the author Erma Steppe for giving me the opportunity. It was with a heavy heart that I read Erma's life story. I chose not to review her book as I would with all the others as to do so would be unfair and judgmental. I cannot put a rating on someone else's life, only I can rate my own. Erma Steppe endured unimaginable abuse and suffering at the hands of the adults that were meant to protect her. She and her sibling...more
I'm Nobody: My Mother Said It; I No Longer Believe It
I was sent this book by good reads.com - and I would like to warn people not to read this unless they are prepared to be reduced to tears.
I find it incomprehensible that any mother could treat a child so, and Erma looks such a dear little girl!
The story is told very straightforwardly, without any traces of self-pity, and is heart-rending at times. It is incredible that a child who has been so abused still yearns desperately for her mother's l...more
Lucy Leblanc
I received this book about a month ago from Good Reads and put it aside as I was already reading two books at the time. Once I picked it up today I couldn't stop reading. Erma Steppe shares her heartbreaking story in a way that makes the reader feel as if they are having a conversation with her. From the Introduction right through to the Epilogue, Erma had me hanging on every word. Written simply and honestly, "I'm Nobody" is Erma's haunting memories of her abusive childhood and her journey thro...more
Out of all the giveaways I had won, this book was the first that I actually wanted to read.
The cover and the print saying "I'm nobody" craved that I should read it.
I read the book expecting nothing but entertainment, like any normal book, but I ended up getting so much more out of it than imagined.
I learned that forgiveness is a valuable lesson that no one learns easy. What ermas mom did to her was inexcusable and probably something I wouldn't have forgave her for, so for you Erma Steppe, I admi...more
Won the book from Goodreads First-Read Giveaway.


What is a mother?

According to Dictionary.com, a mother is a "female parent". And what is a parent? According to the same source, a parent is a "protector or guardian". So, if a mother couldn't protect her offsprings, does she still deserve to be called a "mother"?

As a toddler, Erma was neglected. Not only denied the love and care from the only parent she knew, her mother, she had to endure physic...more
Mary Hosmar
This is a disturbing and thought provoking book. Erma is told over and over again by her mother that she is a nothing. She has written this book in an effort to make her story known and possibly to exorcise some demons. At the end of the book she lets the reader know how successful that exercise has been.
The style of writing takes some getting used to. It is written very simply, almost in the manner of a child listing a series of events. At first glance there seems to little if any emotion invol...more
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Lucille Spizzirro
Excellent book. When things get tough, the tough get going. Despite a terribly hard life Erma proved that you can still come out on top. Nothing prevented her from getting what she wanted. The book was extremely easy to read, very compelling. Your beginning is your beginning; but the end is what you make of if. It may not be easy but with a little determination and hard work the end results can be wonderful.

I feel this book should be in a requirement in all middle schools. Perhaps someone will...more
I was excited to win this book as part of the giveaways and began reading it as soon as I got it.
Erma led a very heartbreaking life and I applaud her for wanting to share the details of it with others. While there were some parts that were hard for me, as a mother, to read, I still enjoyed learning about how Erma overcame her struggles. She did her best to end the cycle of abuse that she was put through and never allowed her mothers example to influence her actions with her own children.

Steve Wilson
Received this book courtesy of Goodreads First Reads

The subject matter of the book is disturbing (child abuse, abandonment, foster homes, alcoholism etc). Certainly not the type of book to pick up for pure enjoyment and pleasure. Regardless, this is the type of book which everyone should read from time to time to get a first hand appreciation of what the victims have to endure, cope and survive. The author's experiences are vividly portrayed in this book and I admire her courage for openly putti...more
Peggy Roberson
Erma's story is one that you will never forget. When I started to read this book, I couldn't put it down. I had to continue reading, to find out what happened in the end. My heart goes out to Erma, and I pray that she found some peace in writing this book. I will be passing my copy to my friends to read. I thought it was THAT good, and I give it 5 hankies!!
Diana King
The book is haunting. Shows how cruel your own family can be to an innocent child. I have to admire Erma for surviving the cruelty and finding the good in some of the people who helped her along her journey. Its to her credit that her own children (one daughter in particular) helped her with the research for this book. This amazing woman who endured so much is stronger than she thinks. This book is a testament to how someone can be hurt so badly and yet cause no harm to those around her...unlike...more
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My name is Erma Steppe.
I grew up w/a mother who was an alcoholic w/no desire to be a mother to her children. She gave birth to 6 children and never gave us another thought.
I have spent the majority of my life waiting to hear my mother say," I love you". She never has uttered those words.
I was abused, every possible form of abuse. I have several learning disabilities.
During my lifetime to da...more
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