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Straight Talk, No Chaser

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In the instant number one New York Times bestseller Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Steve Harvey gave millions of women around the globe insight into what men really think about love, intimacy, and commitment. In his new book he zeros in on what motivates men and provides tips on how women can use that knowledge to get more of what they need out of their relationships,...more In the instant number one New York Times bestseller Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Steve Harvey gave millions of women around the globe insight into what men really think about love, intimacy, and commitment. In his new book he zeros in on what motivates men and provides tips on how women can use that knowledge to get more of what they need out of their relationships, whether it's more help around the house, more of the right kind of attention in the bedroom, more money in the joint bank account, or more truth when it comes to the hard questions, such as: Are you committed to building a future together? Does my success intimidate you? Have you cheated on me?

In Straight Talk, No Chaser: How to Find, Keep, and Understand a Man, Steve Harvey shares information on:

How to Get the Truth Out of Your Man
Tired of answers that are deceptive? Harvey lays out a three-tier, CIA-style of questioning that will leave your man no choice but to cut to the chase and deliver the truth.

Dating Tips, Decade by Decade
Whether you're in your twenties and just starting to date seriously, in your thirties and feeling the tick of the biological clock, or in your forties and beyond, Steve provides insight into what a man, in each decade of his life, is looking for in a mate.

How to Minimize Nagging and Maximize Harmony at Home
He said he'd cut the lawn on Saturday, and you may have been within reason to think that that meant Saturday before ten in the evening, but exploding at him is only going to ruin the mood for everyone, which means no romance. Steve shows you how to talk to your man in a way that moves him to action and keeps the peace.

And there's much more, including Steve's candid answers to questions you've always wanted to ask men.

Drawing on a lifetime of experience and the feedback women have shared with him in reaction to Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Harvey offers wisdom on a wealth of topics relevant to both sexes today. He also gets more personal, sharing anecdotes from his own family history. Always direct, often funny, and incredibly perceptive, media personality, comedian, philanthropist, and (finally) happily married husband, Steve Harvey proves once again that he is the king of relationships.(less)

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Published December 7th 2010 by HarperCollins e-books (first published November 29th 2010)

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Sep 20, 2012 Kimberly rated it 3 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Shelves: library, relationships, psychology

Well, this was an extremely quick read. Personally, I don't think the book is all that bad. I actually like it more than "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man."

I think I needed to read this book at this time as a reminder. Men aren't evil, overly stupid or lesser than equal. I do not have to use them before getting used or let my excess baggage come between me and the next best thing. In fact, I don't need to go to such extremes to protect myself and project hurts from men no longer into my life fo...more Well, this was an extremely quick read. Personally, I don't think the book is all that bad. I actually like it more than "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man."

I think I needed to read this book at this time as a reminder. Men aren't evil, overly stupid or lesser than equal. I do not have to use them before getting used or let my excess baggage come between me and the next best thing. In fact, I don't need to go to such extremes to protect myself and project hurts from men no longer into my life for the next guy to deal with. This book reminded met hat the change comes from me. Similar to the "Mama Gena's" series by Regina Thomashauser, Harvey yet again states that women have the power in the relationship. As "home executives" or not, we are a valued and beautiful half of the balanced yin / yang of the whole.

There's a true sense of power and self cultivated love and security in that.

The way that Harvey's text intertwined with examples is illuminating. But, the subjective level of "manilness" that he teaches women to look for, i believe, is a bit too regional specific (Southern style) and age range specific (apart from his children, I don't know any other fellow late 20s men who have everything together like he expects women to expect). I, for one, growing up in Southern California, am not at all used to the man that he paints a picture of as the male standard. But, I know what to expect when I meet one.

Now, do I believe that this book is regional specific or age range specific as his first book? No. But, I do believe that some of his suggestions to women as to how they should act in regards to a man is indicative of the expectation that the man is question actually is a Man and not a little boy in big boy clothes.

I understand his statement of appreciation regarding women who are always aware of how they look and show that they take care of themselves - and also feel that men should do the same. The "looking pretty" part of a relationship shouldn't be only on the female.

Harvey's vision, as I interpret it, is for women to drop the inflated sense of self worth of demands and rules for a man to even say hello; realize that everyone has flaws; and understand the difference between a guy that is sport fishing vs. a man that wants to be in a relationship. In this, I feel that he succeeded.

After reading this book, also I understand my parent's relationship now in more ways than I ever thought possible. That, alone, made it worth the quick read. (less)

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Apr 12, 2012 Zero vi Britannia rated it 1 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Shelves: no, never, no-just-not, why, one-page-was-enough, not-even-with-someone-elses-money

Hell to the No
To the tune of "Hell to the No" from Glee.

Mama said I should read this book
I said "Hell to the no."
My daddy said to give it a look
I said "Hell to the no."
Wanna make me read this shit?
Prepare to get your head split!
This book's a whole lotta
Oh oh oh oh oh
Hell to the no no n-no n-no n-no
Think I should give this book a chance?
You know what?
Hell to the no! (hell to the no!)
It'll help me with love and romance?
Hell to the no! (hell to the no!)
Try to get me to read this?
You better watch ou...more

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Feb 07, 2012 Taymara Jagmohan rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition

It analysed the previous book, but it just carved in a few old memories.
Steve, you have taught me a lot.
I feel very indebted, and im even happier that i made no mistakes as it regards dating.
-Still ebullient, and persevering.
Im a student, and i loved the way you mirrored the propinquities you shared with your wife.
That's a beautiful example for all the young men, although we dont wish for them to be all the same, but a few similarities are welcome.
Muchas gracias AND it was a measure of paragon...more

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Feb 21, 2013 Charlie Fey rated it 3 of 5 stars · review of another edition

It was "OK." The problem with this book is it's teaching women how to be good mates for their husbands/boyfriends. How to make him happy, how to get along with him, how to fulfill his needs, so he can then, hopefully, give you what you want.

Okay, if you want to know "how to please your man" and be the perfect Stepford wife, I imagine this is the book to read. But what about a woman finding HER happiness, having HER needs meet, having love she wants. No, this book does not cover any topic about w...more

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Oct 30, 2012 Stacey Marie Robinson rated it 2 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Steve Harvey's first book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man was a hit! It was being quoted, celebrated, recited, dictated, and read aloud like holy scripture to women near and far. Single woman, married women, dating women: it didn't matter. The ladies wanted to hear what Steve Harvey had to say about love and relationships...and were thirsty for his keeping-it-real male perspective that their girlfriends couldn't [accurately] give them.

After all, it came from a man we know and love: Broderik St...more

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Apr 02, 2011 Adrienna rated it 2 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Shelves: borrowed-book, relationships-marriage

So far, there are very limited good points in this book that I was able to take in perspective for my life and relationship. I do like "Let your man get to what needs to be done in his own time" since woman can expect men to be on top in some cases when women are doing well (breadwinner)...and men do accept women making more money than them but I know there has to be insecurity issues stirring inside of them even if they don't voice it or show it. We have to give them time to get where they need...more

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Feb 22, 2011 Emilia P rated it 3 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Shelves: real-books

Aw Steve.
My boo gave this for me the day before he asked me to marry him. How prescient! This is the logical follow-up to Act Like A Lady, in that this assumes you've got the dude. And now you gotta deal with him and vice versa. Every few chapters Errol would say "what's he telling you now" and I would read him the handily provided bullet points, and he would say oh I already know that stuff and/or it's wrong. :)
But the basic premise of this is --keep your man happy, and tell him how to keep yo...more

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Sep 13, 2012 Alexandra rated it 3 of 5 stars · review of another edition

I liked this book. A lot of what was being said was repetitious, but I feel like women need things repeated at times. Steve was very informative when it came down to many specific situations and how women should handle them. One in particular that I am going to try is when getting to know a man I am going to dig a little deeper for the true answer to (for example) why his last relationship didn't last. Women can't settle for the first answer. Steve says that's the answer he uses to make you feel...more

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Sep 28, 2012 Buggz79 rated it 3 of 5 stars · review of another edition

There are a number of basic truths covered in this book:

1. Men are more often than not, fairly simple. Don't be fooled by that though, simple organisms are capable of fairly complex behaviour..

2. A central tenet of manliness is "Doing what you said you'd do". Which in my world translates into Integrity. And this i completely concur with.

The rest of it is told from Steve's viewpoint of the world. Some resonated deeply with me (Antinag tips) and some of it was meh (wear makeup and blazers around...more

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Mar 03, 2011 Camille rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition

This book straightend me right up when it comes to men. I know now how to chose my next man and exactly what I need to do to keep him. Kudos to Steve Harvey. If women read this and don't understand that these words are coming out of a man who has been married three times and has finally learned how to be a good man.... then they just don't want to hear the truth. It is what it is. Be smart, keep yourself updated.. looks wise and intelligence wise. Keep it real. That's basically what Steve says....more

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Feb 20, 2013 Thandeka Maphumulo added it · review of another edition

Very interesting read...quick to read...straight to the point... and useful of how men feel or act...

"Let your man get to what needs to be done in his own time" since woman can't expect men to be on top in some cases when women are doing well (breadwinner)...and men do accept women making more money than them but I still think there has to be insecurity issues stirring inside of them even if they don't voice it or show it. We have to give them time to get where they need to be. We do have to ch...more

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Sep 10, 2012 Kiesha rated it 1 of 5 stars · review of another edition

I read Steve Harvey's first book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, and thought a lot of what was in it was pretty spot on, but this follow up, I thought, was awful. I think that is makes men seem incapable of being loving creatures and just sets up women to get what they need from their girlfriends while making deals with their men to get what they want. There were some very funny parts, as would be expected from Steve Harvey, but for the most part I do not believe that this follow-up was near...more

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Feb 11, 2011 WillowBe rated it 2 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Shelves: say-what

Hmmmm. One or two interesting points, but the Male as unsophisticated knuckle-dragger, and Female as all things civilized, good and gentle tactic gets very wearing. He simultaneously stereotypes men and makes them look really dumb, barely capable of learning how to be part of a household thereby justifying their behavior. Yes men should have their cake and get to eat it too! My father cooked, cleaned, diapered babies and went to PTA meetings throughout our lives and was still a real Black Man- a...more Hmmmm. One or two interesting points, but the Male as unsophisticated knuckle-dragger, and Female as all things civilized, good and gentle tactic gets very wearing. He simultaneously stereotypes men and makes them look really dumb, barely capable of learning how to be part of a household thereby justifying their behavior. Yes men should have their cake and get to eat it too! My father cooked, cleaned, diapered babies and went to PTA meetings throughout our lives and was still a real Black Man- and this was in the 70's, no less. He just did what needed to be done since my mom worked too.

I think his real point is we should be glad we even have a man. So don't push him too much, and always be nice,sweet, dangle the sex thing in front of him as incentive, but be logical too- smother those angry feelings; don't raise your voice or nag.

Really the nagging thing got me. What planet is he on where a man, asked nicely will do household chores after only being asked once? I mean, that is rare, esp if it's a chore he doesn't want to do, though he agreed to do it " He doesn't mean to forget; it's just not important to him. He can't remember all the things you want him to do. Give him the benefit of the doubt. It's not in his nature to think of these things". What about the fifth time I ask and it's not done???
I should laugh indulgently and wag my finger at that naughty old XY chromosome? After all, I do have a man.

I think he was laughing his ass off when he wrote the don't nag chapter, wondering if we'd fall for it. I'd have to say "NOPE!".

So, this book is of limited value to me, esp since my husband isn't a Black man and the cultural stuff doesn't apply (though the behavioral stuff does). But I will finish it, and ask my brothers to read it to see if they agree with his take as a sociological experiement. Next book he needs to write is how brothers can find a good black woman!!!

Update: I decided not to finish the book. It may help a lot of people, but it's not for me.(less)

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Jun 03, 2011 Lee Sinclair rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition

An easy, interesting read. There may not be much new information for most women - yeah, we do know these things about men, whether we want to admit it or not. But I still found the book surprisingly thought-provoking. I also liked the way he put it out there. He simply shared a man's perpective about things and the way men were, without being defensive about it.

I wrote a much longer review on our group blog, if anyone is interested.

Straight Talk, No Chaser by Steve Harvey

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May 26, 2011 La'shaun Mcnicholas rated it 5 of 5 stars · review of another edition

I really loved this book. Hearing Steve voice was great in the audio though the message throughout the book would have played his voice even if I had read the print. He really did a great job with clearing up a number of challenges for women to men and vice versa. People think they are doing everything right but being human and busy makes it possible for mistakes to be made. I can only hope that I and others can make better efforts in the relationships we are in.

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Jan 03, 2011 Angela rated it 2 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Shelves: non-ficiton

Definitely not as good as the first book "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man". More useful for someone who is married. More insight into Steve Harvey's own life some of which turned me off---he's on his third marriage, cheated on his second wife, and requires his sons to get up at 4:30am with him to exercise and begin their productive days (ugh! 4:30am!!!!). Skip this one and just read the first one.

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Nov 03, 2011 Kecia rated it 3 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Shelves: non-fiction, relationships

Harvey shares his insights into the male mind, a place we women just do not understand. There are some nuggets of gold in here. But for every good bit of information there is one that just baffles me. I seriously don't know the kind of people he's talking about half the time.

Overall though, telling women to respect themselves and get out of bad relationships, you can't go wrong there.

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Jan 25, 2011 Johnna rated it 2 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Well, I kind of get tired of celebrities turned into authors when it's just another way to make big bucks. The guy is trying to make a difference (yawn) but I guess I don't have a lot of sympathy when he's on Oprah and doesn't know the first thing about poverty and how that affects men and women and their relationships. Unless, he wants to write about that and change my mind.

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Feb 15, 2013 Arielle rated it 2 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Shelves: el-oh-vee-ee, true, resources, kings-queens-and-leadership

This book was a very easy read. It read like a person talking you. It didn't feel like reading a book. It was like Steve Harvey talking to you in your brain--without expecting an answer from the reader. It was a little repetitive, but easy, quick, and potentially good advice. I liked it enough that I will read the prequel, "Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man."

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Feb 24, 2013 Chelsea rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Shelves: kindle-is-the-new-way

quick read like his first book. this book is for the people that just didn't get what he was saying in his first book. I got it all and understood it all, so i personally could of not read this, but it was still nice to know, and a few things were even more explained and made even more sense to me. Great book. love steve harvey.

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Dec 26, 2012 Carolyne Afandi rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition

simple and easy to read...love the dating tips, how to get true answers frm ua man to avoid deception...the best of it ol...AVOID NAGGING YOUR MAN..Ladies..ths attitude really kills the mood of evrything as well as meks ua guy to find Love somewhere else!!..We should create harmony!!steve harveys books tok of reality!!!Great!!

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May 14, 2011 Colleen rated it 5 of 5 stars · review of another edition

Exactly what you would expect. Liked it just as much as the first. It's really just an extension of the first book clarifying and adding on a few more things. Its a lot of info and the books should be kept like bibles that are read sporatically throughout your relationship life. Now if only men would ever read these things. ha

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Feb 02, 2011 Ann is currently reading it · review of another edition

I've mde it to the chapter on how to keep a man. I'm sorry, i'm not going to always put on make up and do my hair and never ask him to do something for me, particularly if I"m busting my butt cooking and keeping life in order. Man, that sounds bitter. But it will do that to pretty much any woman who reads it.

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Jan 30, 2012 Shannon rated it 4 of 5 stars · review of another edition

You don't have to agree 100% with everything Steve says to get some good insights into the mind of man with this book. Quick read, some good tips that just make sense. After all, a relationship is just as much a business partnership as it is an emotional one. I especially appreciated the negotiating scenarios as some good examples of how to approach a subject. I actually used them the weekend I read the book and it worked!

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Dec 28, 2011 ChaChanna Simpson rated it 2 of 5 stars · review of another edition

I didn't really get anything much out of this book. I was actually bored reading it and just wanted to finish it. He was repetitive and I feel he could have summed up his points in about ten pages. If you've listened to his show in the morning you pretty much have heard everything he has to say in the book.

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Feb 24, 2011 Cheryl rated it 3 of 5 stars · review of another edition

I never read the first book, but found this one interesting. I think it's one man's views. And certainly, one man cannot speak for all men (just the same way I for instance could not speak for all women). Having said that, I think any woman who was, is, or will be in a relationship with a man could benefit from reading what Harvey has to say.

"8. WHY DO MEN STOP CALLING... because we're done. You need closure, but men don't; we just need it to be over. We don't need to know why it didn't work, we...more

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Nov 26, 2011 Tiffany rated it 5 of 5 stars · review of another edition

All I have to say about this book is...funny. I really enjoyed Steve's work in the form of a book. I've always enjoyed his stand up, this was different. He was quite serious, but brutually honest in this book. I didn't read his first book, but it seems he reiteriates a lot of what he says in that book in this one. So I will probably skip it.

I really did enjoy this one, though.

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Mar 12, 2011 Maureen rated it 5 of 5 stars · review of another edition

I liked this book so much better than the first. It was funny and truthful. It's really about women needed to treat themselves better and have more self respect. It's a very quick read too. I read it in a day. I hightly recommend this to any women whether they are in a relationship or not.

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Oct 21, 2011 Denise rated it 2 of 5 stars · review of another edition

This was a quick read. Again, alot of what's been said has been covered by my father. I was expecting a bit more. It had one or two valid points. I would still recommend this book to readers as a reminder of the last book. Just a fresh reminder from the last lesson that Steve gave.

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Mar 31, 2013 Karen Peyton rated it 5 of 5 stars · review of another edition

"Every Women should read this at age 15"

If you could sum up Straight Talk, No Chaser in three words, what would they be?
That way we can avoid so many bad decisions. This should be a prerequisite to dating.

What other book might you compare Straight Talk, No Chaser to and why?
I have none in my library to compare it with. This is like a bible for dating men.

Have you listened to any of Steve Harvey’s other performances before? How does this one compare?
No this was my first. I wish his first book was...more

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