The Birth Order Book: Why You Are the Way You Are
Do you realize that of the first twenty three astronauts in space, twenty one were first borns and the other two were an only child in their family?
Did you know that first borns are natural leaders? They are our CEOs and presidents.
Were you aware th...more
For instance I learned some supposedly need to know things abou myself, givin I am a first born:
1. I am very demending, perfectionist(well maybe i am a bit of a perfectionist!:)),c ...more
He didn't have much more insight beyond the ideas that first borns are either stern perfectionists or overly eager to please, middle children are negotiators, and the baby of the family is a charming iconoclast. He did say that the birth order can start over with large gaps betwee ...more
Here is what Leman did. I shall create three basic character types. I shall call one the first born, one the middle/second born, and one the baby (or last born). Then I claim to know which one you fit in. Say I call you a first born. Then when I find that you are not a first born I shall redefine my theory, by making you a first born by proxy because you either switched identities with y ...more
I was amazed at how much I could fit myself, my siblings, my parents, my husband and his family and my kids into his explainations of how birth order effect our personalities. And I love that he is not so absolute about his definitions either. They r ...more
* Firstborns tend to be conscientious, well organized, serious, goal oriented, achieving, people pleasers and believers in authority.
* One of the best predictions in life is that whatever the firstborn in a family is, the secondborn in the family will go in a different (and oftentimes opposite)direction.
* The bottom line is that parents expect too much of firstborns.
* A child's personality is pretty well formed by age ...more
That said, I think the author gives a little too much weight to birth order. He does admit that birth order is only one aspect of personality, but he also acts as though knowing someone's birth order tells ...more
What I enjoyed about this book was that it helped me understand myself better, which I hope will ultimately make me a better person ...more
His writing is entertaining, making this a swift read and preferable to a lot of other (and drier) psychological works. While this may ...more
The tone was interesting and entert ...more
I read it to help me understand my middle child better since I couldn't relate to her.
Overall I liked the book and would reccommend it to understand both yourself and your children better.
Dr. Leman is the founder and president of "Couples of P ...more