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Vorrei che fosse amore

3.75  ·  Rating Details ·  3,533 Ratings  ·  484 Reviews
Sulla carta, la vita di Emily Haxby è perfetta. A soli ventinove anni è un avvocato di successo in uno dei più grossi studi legali di New York, vive in un loft nel Village e ha un fidanzato stupendo, Andrew. E dire che, due anni prima, quando aveva acconsentito ad andare a un temibilissimo appuntamento al buio organizzato da amici, Emily non aveva alcun desiderio di innamo ...more
Paperback, 348 pages
Published January 1st 2009 by Piemme (first published January 1st 2008)
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Dec 02, 2007 Kelsey rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Just finished reading this first novel and really wasn't that crazy about it. It's the story of a 29 year-old lawyer, Emily, struggling to find herself (fix her relationship, her job, her family).

Best part of the book: First line of chapter 1: "Last night, I dreamt that I chopped Andrew up into a hundred little pieces, like a Benihana chef, and ate them, one by one." Also, I liked the cold relationship she has with her father.

Worst parts of the book: The extensive use of cliches throughout the n
Nov 14, 2007 Allison rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Anyone who likes smart women's fiction
I was lucky enough to get my hands on an ARC of this book - due to hit stores in January 2008 - and I wasn't disappointed. An honest, believable portrayal of a 29-year old woman who is paralyzed by life and who has to find the nerves and strength within herself to literally move forward. Very touching, smart and well-written. I expect this will be a huge book come 2008.
Jun 20, 2008 Scribblegirl rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone
I was leery of reading another voyage of self-discovery book after the self-involved garbage of Patti Callahan Henry's Between the Tides, but Buxbaum gets right every single thing Henry does not, with none of the missteps and narcissism. Her heroine, Em, is someone you could know and like in real life. She has flaws and quirks and the capacity to care for others, even when she is being bitchy. Which isn't that often. Here is a woman I felt actually modeled on real life, who breathes through pros ...more
Jun 13, 2008 N.T. rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: mothers, daughters, grandpa lovers, elderly, 30somethings, lawyers
This book really got me, brought me in -- where a title like that can rarely get my attention.

The characters, and main character Emily, were endearing, funny, their own voice, brought to life, and surrounded and engulfed Emily in a way that rang true.

There were many heart tearing moments, surprising me constantly, and a deep exploration at other moments that left me blushing or feeling as if it hit very close to home.

There has been a theme of leaving or losing on purpose (or forcefully) an unhe
Mar 14, 2008 Jill rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Jill by: tommy
I'm not sure I've ever had this same experience where I'm reading a book and thinking, "how does this author know exactly what my life is like?" But the truth is, it doesn't matter that many of the details aren't exactly the same-- what matters is that Ms. Buxbaum captures so many universal feelings in a realistic, true and contemporary way. At first I thought, I have to make sure all my girlfriends from law school, the firm, and after read this; but truth be told, this is a great, engaging, hea ...more
Nov 20, 2007 Sarah rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Not my genre of choice, but it is a fine choice for a beach read/travel book...meaty chick lit. Very funny characters, and surprisingly realitstically writen. If I met the author, I can safely assume I won't see someone wearing pink and carrying around bridal magazines.
Jan 27, 2010 Leah rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: books-read-2010
When Emily Haxby suddenly dumps her boyfriend of two years Andrew, just as he’s about to propose, she can’t explain why to anybody, not even to Andrew or her close friends, not really. Once Emily realises her mistake, though, it’s too late and her life soon begins falling apart. She’s fed up of working for a lecherous boss, particularly when he assigns her to a case she doesn’t feel right defending. Then the biggest blow of all comes, her Grandpa Jack, the man she adores most in the world, appea ...more
Michael Rusk
Jun 10, 2010 Michael Rusk rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Put Down the Keyboard and Touch Somebody

Absolutely captivating description of the angst and redemption of a young professional person.

The book became a cherished companion and the character a friend to comfort and console. I wanted to read slowly, a chapter or two at a time, and then carry the words around with me until I could read again.

Each character is skillfully crafted, dialogue and situations are very realistic, and I found myself feeling the same tension and nervousness as Emily. I looke

Jan 02, 2008 Carol rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is a debut novel that got a lot of attention in review journals, etc so I have had in on my TBR list for a long time. I wasn’t disappointed. Emily is a 29-year old lawyer frustrated with her job as a litigation attorney. Her relationship with her father is strained, her beloved grandfather is ill and she has just broken up with the perfect boyfriend. Emily’s comments often made me smile and I even had a few tears during reading this book. Definitely a step above the chick lit/single women's ...more
Jul 16, 2008 Angeld01 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I randomly picked this up at the library and it was so good. Some of the themes were definitely covered territory.

A successful lawyer uncertain of her relationship, her career and her sense of family. But I really enjoyed Buxbaum's writing. She was gentle and compassionate in her story of Emily.

Of course too, I really enjoyed Emily's relationship with Grandpa Jack. It was really special and caused other supportive relationships in her life, such as the one with Ruth.

I look forward to the career
Feb 04, 2008 Julie rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I thought this was an amazing debut novel. Lots of interesting, complex characters and relationships. At the beginning of the book, Emily makes a rash decision that she later realizes was terribly wrong, but she can't quickly make it right again - with the help of some good friends, relatives and therapy she learns to grow and make positive changes in all parts of her life. A great example of more serious chick lit that's touching and humorous at the same time.
Dec 21, 2007 Karen rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: llovers of women's fiction
I really enjoyed this book. It reminded me a little of Lolly Winston or Sarah Dunn, but with its own distinct voice. I like books that are funny (without being too biting) and wise, and this one fit the bill.

There is has been a lot pre-pub buzz surrounding this novel and it definitely lives up to expectations.
Apr 24, 2008 Rachael rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I kept waiting for something to happen-- and yet, nothing. The prologue was bland and didn't tie into the rest of the story, and I think the main character wasn't likeable and quite boring. When things got bad, she drank too much (often) and also relied on the wisdom of the very old a little too often to be believable.
Jan 11, 2015 Marielis rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Esperaba que The Opposite of Love fuera una de esas historias ligeras que emocionan.
Lamentablemente no logré conectar con Emily y su "confusión".
Apr 17, 2017 Julie rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
After reading Tell Me Three Things last week, I decided I wanted to read another book by this author. I really enjoyed. It was about a woman who needs to step back from things she and others deemed important in order to move forward. I feel that the title is a bit misleading, it is not really a romance. More or less it's about the journey of one woman's self discovery by addressing issues she had not confronted. Looking forward to more by this author.
Nicole Dean
Apr 16, 2017 Nicole Dean marked it as did-not-finish  ·  review of another edition
DNF at page 106. I just couldn't get into this one.
Jul 10, 2009 Amanda rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: beach-reads, 2009
I picked up The Opposite of Love after first reading and enjoying Julie Buxbaum’s sophomore novel After You.

I try not to compare novels when I read them but I am in awe of Buxbaum’s ability to write about death and self-doubt while still keeping things relatively light and enjoyable; it’s sort of like the teacher whose class is so fun you don’t realize you are learning.

I found myself longing to have coffee with Emily and trade stories about our parental misadventures. The similarities in our fam
Feb 22, 2017 Cynthia rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was a quick read and I enjoyed the story. Parts of it were very relatable to my own life before marriage and career. The major characters were all likable and fun to get to know throughout the book. I felt like I grew with Emily as the book progressed.
Yelania Nightwalker
¡Pañuelos desechables por favor!

He llorado como no se imaginan con esta novela, sufrí con Emily, con Andrew, me divertí con Jack, en fin…

Emily es abogada y odia a su jefe (yo lo odiaría también), es hija única, huérfana de madre, con su papá no tiene una comunicación muy buena que digamos. La persona a la que más quiere es a su abuelo Jack, que por si fuera poco, está muriéndose…

Un día, Emily se da cuenta que no puede seguir adelante con la relación que lleva con Andrew, su novio. Aunque ambos s
Jun 07, 2014 M rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Proving yet again that you can choose a book by its cover, I was drawn to this as it had a great photo of the Flatiron building on the cover (a much underrated building, in my opinion.).

I was expecting chick-lit, but instead found a dark, grief-riddled story which really resonated with me. Like Emily, I lost my mother to cancer and some of Emily's observations were profound, and brought tears to my eyes.

Talking about her mother's funeral:
"It seems odd to me now, but I remember instead of focusin
Mar 26, 2010 Drew rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Emily Haxby is lost. She breaks up with her boyfriend of two years because she thinks he is going to propose (she's right, he was about to). Her job at a prestigious law firm is far less than satisfying, especially after one of the partners makes unwanted sexual advances. Her mother died when she was fourteen and she's never had an open relationship with her father (lying to each other about life is just what they do). The one person in life who has always been there for Emily is her Grandpa Jac ...more
Apr 12, 2010 Lindsay rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I love smart chick lit books. They are the ones that don't scream chick lit, but really they still are. The cover isn't pink and girlie, and the main character actually has a brain and doesn't need to rely on a guy or endless shopping to make her happy. This is one of those books. Even though it is about love and realizing that you had the right person when you no longer had them.

Emily breaks up with her boyfriend Andrew when she gets the feeling that he's going to ask her to marry him. Andrew
Mar 16, 2015 Amelinda rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: favorites
Emily Haxby is a twenty-nine-year-old lawyer in Manhattan. She has her own apartment. She has good friends. She has a happy relationship with her long time boyfriend, Andrew Warner. But when Andrew pulls her toward a window display of engagement rings, she knows what she has to do: she must break up with him.

And this is exactly what she does. Breaking his (and her own) heart, Emily ends their relationship, and spends the following months trying to convince herself that she did the right thing. I
Jacki (Julia Flyte)
I loved this book. I feel like passing it onto all my girlfriends. I got completely caught up in it and I was rooting for the heroine to find happiness. It's about Emily, in her late 20s and working crazy hours as an associate in a prestigious New York law firm. She has been dating perfect Andy for two years, but when she senses that he's on the verge of proposing she gets cold feet and breaks up with him. Almost immediately she wonders if she's made a terrible mistake, especially when Andy seem ...more
Sep 30, 2009 Sarah rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
It's the end of the school year and it's time for me to start frequenting the awesome Casey Public Library again! And I mean that. They do a wonderful job of weeding the old titles in their small space, and I love the selection of audiobooks. Just right to entertain me in my vehicle during the summer![return][return]This adult novel intrigued me by the cover, but it almost needs a more chick lit-ish one. Emily Haxby is a power attorney, dealing with a boss who sexually harasses her, an important ...more
Jan 29, 2016 Abbie rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I really enjoyed this book! It was a light, fluffy chick-lit and exactly what I needed. It did take me a while to read it, which probably affected me not giving it a higher rating, but nevertheless it was nice. I thought reading from Emily's perspective was very refreshing she's definitely not your typical narrator but in a good way. Just the way she sees the world is fantastic. I really enjoyed the fact that the author was previously a lawyer as well, so despite the wide use of large vocabulary ...more
J&B Reviews
Nov 01, 2014 J&B Reviews rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition

Wonderful story about a young woman who is her own worst enemy. The story begins with Emily Haxby deciding to break it off with her boyfriend, Andrew. She is completely unable to explain to anyone why she felt that she had to do this.

After this everything else seems to follow suit. She is a lawyer at a large, self important firm where she is assigned a case that pretty much goes against everything she believes in. And on top of that, the lawyer she is assisting is sexually harassing he
Feb 17, 2008 Annabelle rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Fans of Marion Keys and Shannon Olson
After raising my testosterone levels with Five Skies, I craved something more girly. This has been billed as "smart chick-lit," actually a pretty accurate description. While the framework is stale--a 29-year-old New York lawyer who just dumped her boyfriend and hates her job has a quarter-life crisis--I thought the writing had surprising depth. The main character is haunted by her mother's death, struggles with her grandfather's illness and is believably conflicted about her relationship with he ...more
Dec 31, 2007 Paul rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
i liked this book. didn't love it. there is some fine writing along the way and the first sentence is killer, as they say. but i found the plot less than compelling. the book flips the modern chick lit book on its head and for that, it's to be commended. instead of a nyc woman trying to get it all -- the guy, the career, the apartment -- the protagonist here (emily) has it all and throws it away in a fit of ennui. well, okay, she does not ditch the apartment -- she's not completely crazy. there ...more
Tommie-Ann Ferreira
Reasons I love this book:

1. A girl realizes that her corporate job is sucking the life out of her and does something drastic about it.
2. She breaks up with someone she really loves because she loves herself enough to realize she needs to heal from personal pain before she could ever truly love someone else.
3. It was not the ending I expected but she gets gold stars for a cathartic journey in which the protagonist comes full circle in her journey.
4. Despite having written this while she was an
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“I miss the way he used to kiss my shoulder whenever it was bare and he was nearby. I miss how he cleared his throat before he took a sip of water and scratched his left arm with his right hand when he was nervous. I miss how he tucked my hair behind my ear when it came loose and took my temperature when I was sick or when he was bored. I miss his glasses on my nightstand. I miss watching him take Sunday afternoon naps on my couch, with the newspaper resting on his stomach like a blanket. How his hands stayed clasped, fingers intertwined, while he slept. I miss the cadence of his speech and the stupidity of his puns. I miss playing doctor when we made love, and even when we didn't. I miss his smell, like fresh laundry and honey (because of his shampoo) at his place. Fresh laundry and coconut (because of my shampoo) at mine. I miss that he used to force me to listen to French rap and would sing along in a horrible accent. I miss that he always said "I love you" when he hung up the phone with his sister, never shy or embarassed, regardless of who else was around. I miss that his ideal Friday night included a DVD, eating Chinese food right out of the carton, and cuddling on top of my duvet cover. I miss that he reread books from his childhood and then from mine. I miss that he was the only man that I have ever farted on, and with, freely. I miss that he understood that the holidays were hard for me and that he wanted me to never feel lonely.” 174 likes
“I don't even want to spend the rest of my life with me.. how do you explain to someone you love that you can't give yourself to them because if you did, you're not sure who you'd be giving? That you aren't sure what your own words are worth? You can't tell someone that, especially someone you love. And so you don't.

Instead, I do the right thing. I lie.”
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