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The Ex-Boyfriend's Handbook (Ed & Dan #1)

3.54  ·  Rating Details ·  1,306 Ratings  ·  194 Reviews
"It's not me - it's you."

After ten years, Jane's had enough of Edward Middleton. "You've let yourself go," she tells him. "So I'm letting you go too."

Determined to get her back, Edward realizes that he must learn howt o make women want him again. But right now, he's the kind of man who puts the "ex" in "sexy."

One thing is certain: if he's going to be Jane's Mr. Right, he n
Paperback, 354 pages
Published November 1st 2010 by Sourcebooks Landmark (first published 2006)
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Tea Jovanović
Urnebesno zabavno i duhovito... Za ovu knjigu nagrađen je kao prvi muškarac koji je dobio tu nagradu... Romantic Book of the Year... :) Nažalost, grdne korice izdavača nisu doprineli popularizaciji ove knjige... :( Tražim mu novog izdavača...

"Edward. Let me get this straight. You've called me right in the middle of Antiques Roadshow just to tell me your girlfriend's gone to bed?"

Tibet, Dan. Jane's gone to Tibet. She's left me."

Poor Edward! Never in his wildest dreams would he have imagined his girlfriend of ten years leaving him (and taking almost all the furniture!). He's despondent, and in a little bit of denial, so he calls his best friend Dan. Dan is a local television personality and he has had many girlfriends. Actually, Da
Nov 29, 2010 Jennifer rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: chick-lit
2 words that describe the book―Male chick-lit

3 settings or characters I met

* Brighton, England, Present Day

* Edward Middleton comes home one day to find his apartment empty. No, he hasn’t been robbed; his girlfriend of 10 years, Jane, has left him. In her note, she says “It’s not me—it’s you.” It seems that Edward’s increasing weight, sloppiness and lack of ambition has made Jane rethink things. So she’s off to Tibet and will be back in three months. Edward decides he has three months to make hi
May 18, 2012 Hobart rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2011-reads
The book begins with our hero, Edward, receiving one of the (if not the) worst Dear John letters imaginable. What's worse is that Edward soon realizes that every nasty thing enumerated in the letter is true. In her letter, Jane essentially has given Edward three months to fix himself, which will at least open the door for a discussion of their future.

So, with the guidance and help of his best friend/ladies' man/cad, the lady bartender from their pub, his lecherous/man-chasing boss, and his new
Wendy Hines
Most chick-lit type of books are written by women. So it was a wonderful surprise to see that The Ex-Boyfriend's Handbook was written by a man with a man's point of view.

Edward Middleton has had the same job since college, and is happy with his relationship with Jane. They met in college and have lived together for ten years. So it's a shock that HE is shocked when Jane leaves him a Dear John letter, leaving him, but stating it really is HIM and not her.

Edward doesn't understand why she would
Nov 22, 2010 Cheryl rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Edward Middleton comes home to find his girlfriend, Jane has left him. Jane and Edward have been a couple for ten years. As if things couldn’t be worse, Jane not only left Edward but left the country. Jane went to Tibet. Though she did leave Edward a note. She told him that “You’ve let yourself go, So I’m letting you go. She left it on his scale and told him to use it for more than just stacking newspapers.

Edward has three months before Jane returns. Edward’s good friend, Dan tells Edward that
Brianna (The Book Vixen)
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3 stars

Why I Read this Book: I’ve seen The Ex-Boyfriend’s Handbook described as the male-equivalent to Bridget Jones’s Diary. I thought BJD was hilarious so I wanted to read The Ex-Boyfriend’s Handbook. I was even more curious to read a Chick-Lit book written from the main male character’s POV, figuring it would be quite a change from the norm. It was.

What I Liked: The book begins on January 16th, the day Edward discovers that Jane, his girlfriend of 10 years, ha
Rhoda Baxter
These books are good fun. I read this and the sequel one after the other and enjoyed them both (I found them whilst browsing the 'just returned' shelf in my local library). They are contemporary romantic comedies with fun characters and really great dialogue. Ed and Sam are lovely characters. The secondary characters are even funnier.

You can call them 'Lad Lit' if you like - although I don't see why people are surprised that men can write romance. We all fall in love. And why do people always a
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I had this debut novel of Matt Dunn's on my Kindle for quite a while, but after my sister started chuckilng whilst reading it I decided to give it a go. Edward Middleton is a normal bloke who has been with his girlfriend Jane for years. He wakes up one morning to find he is on the receiving end of a Dear John letter. According to Jane, Edward has let himself go, so she decides to let him go and takes all her things with you. The first few chapters don't particularly show Ed in a good light, I wo ...more
Melissa D'andrea
It was really funny book! Many times I laughed out loud and giggled. Matt Dunn made all the characters so interesting I wanted to know more about them.
Jan 10, 2011 Doreen rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: first-reads
Charming boy version of chick-lit. You'll root for Edward throughout, and probably spend a good portion of your time laughing aloud. There are parts which wrap up a little conveniently, as well as parts that are just as messy in real life, and I'd highly recommend this book as a look into the psyche of certain kinds of modern men. Quite lovely.

In fact, my only question is: what happened to Billy exactly?

I received this book gratis as part of GoodReads' First Reads program.
Despite liking this enough to finish it, I cannot recommend this book, so that is an automatic three stars. I probably shouldn't have read this book right on the heels of the author's One Day at the Office. In some ways, it was like reading the same book which could be a good thing or a bad thing depending on one's point of view. For me, it was not a good thing. It felt more like a duplication. Also, in this book, the sexual innuendo and references were too much, really. I do not want to read fu ...more
Ramya (Idea Smith)
A spin-off genre called LadLit, this one apes the ChickLit category except that the protagonist is male. It's not too different otherwise, from the formula - angsty protagonist, falling short on the dating/love stakes, good friends to provide comic relief and dramatic contrast in lifestyle. What is sweet for an avid ChickLit reader is to read about men having feelings (of guilt, loyalty, hurt, regret etc) since most male characters in ChickLit are typically one-dimensional heroes or bastards.

Nomcy Ahamefule
Jun 16, 2014 Nomcy Ahamefule rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
The Ex-boyfriend's handbook.. I guess I can add it to my list of favorites. I loved Ed because he was so adorable, clueless and a good guy who'd just been dumped by his annoying girlfriend cos he was fat. Though he really wanted to get her back and was working on his flaws (and they were numerous), I kinda had the feeling that he'd fall for his instructor (which was cute by the way) and ditch Jane (the annoying girlfriend). Anyway it's a really cool book and it reminded me so much of 'How I met ...more
Feb 04, 2015 Suzanne rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: on-kindle
cute, quick read....first "chick lit" by a man...i enjoyed it!
Mar 02, 2015 Obsidian rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I went to the bookstore a few weeks ago and bought a lot of new books, i.e. never read the author beforehand. I saw this novel and decided to give the book a chance. I am glad that I did this little experiment since I have really enjoyed reading this novel and the next two in this series starring Eddie Middleton.

In The Ex-Boyfriend's Handbook, the main character Eddie gets a "Dear John" letter from his long-time girlfriend of 10 years, Jane. Jane leaves Eddie for Tibet for three months. Addition
Erika Schotty
This book had it's moments and was amusing, but nothing great. I still don't understand why Edward is friends with Dan, at least not after Edward starts to grow and realize he needs to make himself happy. Edward says Dan's a great friend, and while Dan does attempt to give advice and does show up when asked, he's very selfish and shallow. He always expects Edward to pay for his drinks, and seems more of a leech than a friend. Edward's growth seems pretty realistic on the process and realizations ...more
Blodeuedd Finland
Ok for, my chick-lit for men thing, well, I mean it has the way of chick-lit, but it's from a male POV, and instead of all that romance there is more humour. Something for women to enjoy and also a book that men will like.


One day Edward comes home and his girlfriend has left for Tibet. She has left a note telling him that he has left himself go so he starts this journey to improve his looks, his job, his life, in hope to get her back when she comes home from Tibet.

My thoughts:

I do chick-lit
I bought this book after having read few reviews which caught my attention and the fact that it was considered a witty and easy-going story sealed the deal and determined my decision to give it a try.

It was indeed an entertaining and funny reading, sarcastic and hilarious at times but serious enough to highlight the terrible experience of being dumped. The author deals with a very strong issue that happens every day in our society and if it hadn't been for his enjoyable writing, it would have be
Apr 24, 2011 Jay rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: for-review
I shouldn’t have liked this book. I generally don’t like chick lit written by men and I don’t read British fiction as a rule (it frustrates me when I don’t get British slang or references). However, from the first page of The Ex-Boyfriend’s Handbook, Matt Dunn had me laughing and he kept me laughing through to the end. A twist on the “Now that I’ve got the guy, I can let myself go” tale, it is Eddie who’s no longer the man he was when he and Jane first started dating. He thinks everything betwee ...more
Chandler Baker
Mar 31, 2011 Chandler Baker rated it liked it
It’s been a long time since I’d read any chick lit. In fact, I think several of my friends had recently vowed to swear off it–only I kept a copy of Bergdorf Blondes as my guilty pleasure. Anyway, when I received a copy of The Ex-Boyfriend’s Handbook in the mail, I decided to break my vow (So soon?) and check it out. Except this was different. This was boy chick lit, if there is such a thing. At least it was written by a boy.

The Ex-Boyfriend’s Handbook follows the story of Edward Middleton, a dow
MB Hubbard
Jul 14, 2012 MB Hubbard rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I loved this book!

Jane leaves Edward because he has "let himself go", has become stagnant in his career, and seems to be stuck in his less than stellar life. However, Jane left with "I'll be back April 16th, so perhaps we'll talk then," and Edward takes this hint of a possible reconciliation and he runs with it. He embarks on a quest to lose weight, hiring a hot personal trainer to get him in shape. He goes shopping for a new wardrobe and new apartment furniture. He consults with his friends, an
The Ex-Boyfriend's Handbook by Matt Dunn

I got this book as a freebie from Amazon for my Kindle and decided to read it.

Edward's girlfriend, Jane, has just broken up with him. And she blames him: "It's not me, it's you." Edward is completely heartbroken. How has he lost her? She's been in his life for so many years, and now, suddenly, Jane is gone.

Edward takes the time for self-examination and decides it is time to make some major changes. He is going to make himself over, and he is going to win J
Dec 16, 2011 Amy rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
My review for Library Journal:
There’s a fair amount of debate over the term chick lit. One definition is a novel about a young woman in her twenties or thirties facing life’s challenges, typically career- or family-related, and dealing with her romantic life. This describes Dunn’s (Best Man; From Here to Paternity) latest novel. Edward Middleton is bereft when his long-term girlfriend leaves him by saying, “It’s not me, it’s you. You’ve let yourself go.” Jane is heading to Tibet on a spiritual q
Lauren Biddell
This was my first attempt at reading a book by Matt Dunn, despite the fact that I have several of his novels. I went into it with an idea of what the book would be like, and there weren't really any surprises.

I did have a few pet peeves though. Obviously Ed is the kind of person who is always doing what others want, but this TOTALLY aggravated me. If someone left me the way his girl friend did, I would cut them out of my life completely from that moment! No matter how much it hurt. She was so r
Teena in Toronto
Feb 09, 2012 Teena in Toronto rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I enjoy reading the occasional chick lit and it's always fun to read guy lit.

This book is set in Brighton, England. Edward arrives home to discover that Jane, his girlfriend of ten years, has moved all her stuff out and is spending the next three months in Tibet. In an attempt to win her back, we following him as he hires a trainer so he can lose the love handles he's gotten over the years, he trades his Volvo in for a Mini, gets a new wardrobe and haircut, and does speed dating so he can find o
"It's not me. It's you."

Yes, you read that correctly. Matt Dunn puts a spin on the ever famous "It's not you. It's me." line for the basis of this book.

Unlike most chick lit books, The Ex-Boyfriend's Handbook is written from a guy's point of view. When Edward Middleton's girlfriend of ten years suddenly tells him he's let himself go so she is letting go too, he realizes he has to make some serious changes to his lifestyle if he has any hope of winning her back. With the help of some friends and
Nov 29, 2010 Anita rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: adult, romance
Edwards girlfriend of ten years, Jane, has left him. There was no discussion, no fight, no warning; she just packed her stuff and left. She leaves a note explaining that Edward has let himself go in every way imaginable, and she can't live with it. He has 3 months to get his life in order for when she gets back, or else.

Because it's not done very often, I am a fan of books that are told from the male perspective and are also a part of a genre that I enjoy. The Ex-Boyfriend's Handbook one ups tha
Oct 22, 2011 Geoffrey rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: humor, lad-lit
I've had this sitting in my kindle for a while but left it unread. I was finally in the mood for something light and amusing and this book certainly delivered. It was nice to read a breakup and recovery story from the guy's point of view - usually we're the cause and not the recipient of all the angst and melodrama.

This is no great for of literature. The characters are a bit stereotypical and the ending is a foregone conclusion but it's witty and entertaining. It was said all through the book bl
Jul 04, 2011 Sheryl rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: fiction, kindle
2-1/2 stars

This book read a lot like a "chick-lit" book from the man's perspective. It had the same narrative tone to it. However, this book is more a voyage of self-discovery for Edward than it is a "chick-lit" book, as it really lacks the romance found in that genre. There is a hint of it, but I wouldn't describe it as a romantic comedy.

I often found myself laughing, but also found myself annoyed, too. The main character, Edward, is a nice guy. How he is friends with Dan is beyond me. Dan seem
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Matt was born in Margate, but eventually escaped to Spain to write his first novel (in between working as a newspaper columnist, and playing a lot of tennis). Previously he has been a professional lifeguard, fitness equipment salesman, and an IT head hunter, but he prefers writing for a living, so hopes people will keep buying his books.

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