The Seven Levels of Intimacy: The Art of Loving and the Joy of Being Loved
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The Seven Levels of Intimacy: The Art of Loving and the Joy of Being Loved

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<CENTER>We All Crave An Authentic Experience Of Intimacy.</CENTER>

Though our hearts crave intimacy, though our minds understand our deep need for it, the self-revelation it requires is often too daunting a task. Complete and unrestrained sharing of self exposes the deepest human fear of being rejected for being ourselves. In The Seven Levels of Intimacy,

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Paperback, 288 pages
Published November 1st 2005 by Fireside (first published 1388)
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C.liddelle.a
This book is killing me. I have to force myself to read it. I've actually started reading it twice because it just bores me to death. I feel like the idea's are probably good, but each paragraph is so redundant that it could be whittled down to half the length just by taking out all the repetition. I just want to scream, "I get it! We're supposed to be the-best-version-of-ourselves! Now what?!" If I have to see that hyphenated phrase one more time I may throw the book across the room a...more
Thomas
Thomas rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: All my friends!!!
Recommended to Thomas by: Gloria Callejas
This book is outstanding, and it deserves to be read again and again. In a society where everything is supposedly getting bigger, faster, and better, we haven't had nearly as much success with our relationships. Matthew Kelly's Seven Levels of Intimacy addresses this topic head on and offers profound insights that can put us back on track.

The book is divided into three sections. The first part contains holistic analysis and far and away the best content. The second part imparts "...more
Rosanne
The message of this book was positive, and I agreed with most of what Kelly suggested about how to achieve a deeper level of emotional intimacy in any primary or high-level secondary relationship. However, his style was a bit grating. He's a public speaker, and the book was written as if he were speaking to an audience. Sometimes that style works, but in this case it just annoyed me. He repeated sentences, word for word, multiple times on one page, I'm sure to get his major points across, but ...more
Stacey Lynn
At first I thought his book was a redundant nightmare simply because the author uses too much repition with his statements. But I gave the book a shot and realized there was much insight to be learned from the chapters further in. The book even inspired me to create my own handmade "Dream Book" which I think will have a greater impact on the focus of my life.
Shaun
Shaun rated it 4 of 5 stars
I learned much from this book and I hope to be able to implement a few of the nuggets I learned in my own life. One key I learned to devloping a truly loving, intimate relationship is to help each other become the best version of ourselves. If that's your focus, you can't fail.
Molly
Molly rated it 3 of 5 stars
This was recommended by a friend - good follow-up to 5 Love Languages. It had some good points, but like most of these kinds of books, it was very repetitive and wordy. I read it on the beach and got to ask Charlie a bunch of questions, so all in all, a good time!
Jean
Jean rated it 4 of 5 stars
Will open your eyes to understanding, appreciating, and developing all types of relationships. I was surprised by what an easy read this was, and found myself 'dog-earing' MANY pages that I wanted to come back to...
Sandra
Sandra rated it 5 of 5 stars
This is an excellent book. I finished it about a week ago. It deals with connecting on 7 different levels in a relationship. I felt a calm come over me as I read this book and I felt very peaceful.
Danielle
Great idea...but not such a great read. Truly it should be called "Becoming the best version of yourself" since this was the true theme. The seven levels were vague and forgettable but this statement was used over and over and over. And over. It probably should have more than 2 stars, as I did get some good insights on how to strengthen relationships in general. But that is kinda what is was...very general. It seemed like the author was trying to compile a book of profound one-liners. ...more
Carrie
Carrie rated it 4 of 5 stars
Very helpful in understanding confusing aspects of relationshps: understanding love, understanding behavior, and personal problem areas. Read it! Thanks Dave for the recommendation.
Chrystal
I think he does a great job of evaluating relationships and the building blocks towards true close and thriving relationships vs. shallow, empty or dying relationships.
Kristen
I'm not sure how I came across this book, but I'll consider it part of my Love Research. :)
Parts are kind of repetitive, but there's some really good stuff, too.
Annwidrig
Content is very good. Like many books of this type, the author could have used half the words and still have conveyed the message just as effectively.
Duc
Duc rated it 2 of 5 stars
My first books about self help and relationship. This is an area I'm increasingly interested in yet no little about. I like that the author began with a story. He also ask the question: "What is your story?" Reading about intimacy, I ask myself and recall some scene in a movie or a work of fiction, have I seen this before? Often it's not spelled out but I can see many examples of people relating to each other in intimate and non-intimate ways. The thesis seems to be happiness is...more
Holly Paluck
A good, basic book to understanding intimacy issues/barriers and potential excercises for development within relationships.
Laura
Laura rated it 4 of 5 stars
While I forget a lot of what he says about each level, a number of the basic concepts come back to me a lot.
Spencer
Great book with a lot of insight into the tricky, for me, path to emotional intimacy with another.
Dora Traynor
I HIGHLY recommend this book to every person!!!
Patty
Patty rated it 4 of 5 stars
I wish I read this 20 years ago!
Megan
Megan rated it 4 of 5 stars
Decent book. The beginning is redundant. However Kelly does well outlining how each of us can have dynamic relationships of our own. Not only romantic relationships, but all of our relationships.
However, Kelly only helps in creating dynamic relationship, he does not say anything about what if you are on the way to a dynamic relationship and the other person falls into the trap of running when faced with adversity. The levels and approaches only work if both people are willing to figh...more
Scott C.
This is a great book.
Laura
Laura rated it 4 of 5 stars
Shelves: audio, inspirational
This book is a great tool to use in strengthening any relationship. The ideas make a lot of sense!
Alicia
Alicia rated it 5 of 5 stars
Defn. the best book I have ever read. This should be a must read for everyone. It tells you straught up why your relationship is going through what it is going through. how you can help the relationship and all your relationships. So many of us spend are whole lives with the people we beleive to be the closest to us not really knowing those people. Knowing who they are, what their dreams, are and you helping them chase those dreams. Good book to help with anytime of relationship.
David
David rated it 4 of 5 stars
Great book that makes you reexamine relationships and helps you set yourself up for dynamic relationships. The seven levels are fairly simple but some of the practical application and spots where Kelly has you stop and do an activity to take a deeper look at what's driving your relationships and how relationships should be mutually concerned with helping another become the best-version-of-themselves.
Sharleen
There are clear and true ideas in this book about having better, closer, more loving relationships and about deciding who you really want to invest yourself in. My husband and I read it together so it took a while to get through it since we would pick it up here and there. Good pick for couples or for anyone who wishes to improve their relationships with family and friends.
Chris Unterreiner
The book was a bit uneven in grabbing me. I found myself paying close attention at times, only to lose that focus and find myself glossing over a page or two at a time. There are some very good thoughts in the book, though...ones I'll try to take away and apply to my relationships.
Tia
Tia rated it 5 of 5 stars
All I can say is that this book was amazing and is definitely a personal classic for me. I need to buy it and read it over and over and use and apply it. If you're looking for a good book on relationships, this is definitely worth a try. Read it, make a plan, follow through. Have a great relationship!
Kathy
Kathy rated it 5 of 5 stars
It's not about sex. Really. Even Matthew says that at his talks. It's about relationships. And the categories, explanations, and concepts make sense for couples, for families, for friends. Can I get a yes or yes?
Elliot Crane
This book is a great way to help add depth to the relationships you have in life. It addresses things like conflict, self revelation, judgement, etc. I found it to be very helpful.
Sherr Bear
Sherr Bear rated it 4 of 5 stars
Shelves: self-help
I have been taking lots of notes with this one. First 3 chapters were very insiteful! Cant wait to share what I am taking from this read!
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