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Following two years of living abroad in Thailand, Sandra Gregory suddenly became desperately ill and as her medical bills began to mount, her bank account dwindled. In exchange for $2,000 she agreed to carry 89 grams of heroin to Tokyo for a friend, but before she even boarded the plane she was caught by Bangkok Airport security and ultimately sentenced to 25 years inside

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Published May 24th 2010 by Vision Paperbacks (first published 2002)
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Jul 02, 2014 Lisa rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A touching story of one woman's heartbreaking journey through the Bangkok Hilton and the prison system in the UK. It is a story that actually transforms the reader into Sandra Gregory's own experiences and how she managed to make it through a horrific prison term and finally through the help of her parents seeing the light at the end of the tunnel! This is an excellent read and a lesson learned to late when we make the wrong decisions.
Jan 16, 2014 Kingfan30 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: true-stories
I read the Damage Done a couple of years ago which is also about life in a Bangkok prison but from the male perspective. It made for pretty horrific reading, but at the same time weirdly fascinating. So when I heard about this book I felt it needed reading to see life in a Bangkok prison from a female perspective, a few months later I found a copy in my local charity shop, took it home and there it sat on a shelf for a while!

This starts at the airport being found out by the police and I thought,
Nov 24, 2009 Shawn rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: own-book
I would have given this book 3 1/2 stars, if I could, as the last part of the book seemed to be just rushing through the last 4 years of her imprisonment. This autobiography is very good, in helping one to realize how one stupid decision can truly change the course of ones whole life. The author is very forthright in admitting that she did wrong as she was caught carrying heroin for someone else----trying to leave Thailand. She served about 5 years in a Thai prison, known as the Bangkok Hilton, ...more
S. Valentine
Jul 23, 2015 S. Valentine rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I like to read non fiction sometimes. This book gripped me straight away. What a sad story. I cannot believe the conditions of the prisons in Thailand, and the treatment received in UK prisons. This woman’s sentence was far too harsh, especially when compared with criminals that receive more lenient sentences for doing worse crimes. Sandra learnt her lesson instantly, told the truth at trial and kept out of trouble throughout, but it didn’t seem to help her case at all, and she was dealt a lot o ...more
May 23, 2012 Glenda rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I think every teenager and young adult should have to read this book so if at any time someone asks them to carry drugs for them, especially in a foregin country, they know to say no and get the hell out of there!!! It just goes to show you how making one bad decision could affect the rest of your life. Sandra was lucky she survived all of her prison stints, especially the one in Thailand. I knew foreign prisons were bad but what she had to endure was absolutely horrific. She was honest and fort ...more
Apr 22, 2015 Lee rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Wow what a way to end up, this is very heartening story about how one bad decision can change not only your life but all those who care about you. A good read.
Hannah Pham
Oct 24, 2016 Hannah Pham rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I don't usually read biographies but really enjoyed this one! I have loved my visits to Thailand and can see how someone could fall into such a mess of a situation. Have a read of this and you'll no doubt be dissuaded from taking such a risk!
Oct 27, 2016 Kulsum rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
True Story. Interesting but typical.
Jan 09, 2017 Carina rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
my favourite.
mrs ingrid smith

Fantastic Read. Any one thinking of drug smuggling in a foreign country. Should read this book. Or even read about our women's prison systems.
Sep 21, 2015 Babs rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 4-star
I finished reading this book this morning, and thought it was an extremely interesting read. I haven't seen the Nicole Kidman film, but am interested in autobiographies of interesting people and people who have been in interesting situations.

I found the book was an interesting read and a Sandra seemed to be open and honest about her situation and what had happened to her. What did irritate me slightly about her though was her constant comparison of herself to other criminals both in Thailand and
Mar 27, 2011 ~*Kim*~ rated it really liked it
This is the story of Sandra Gregory and her time in prison for attempting to smuggle drugs out of Thailand. She does part of her time in Thailand and the rest in the United Kingdom, where she is from. Although she was guilty of attempting to smuggle the drugs, the sentence that she received was harsh. She received at first a life sentence, that was then reduced to 25 years. This was longer than some murders in Thailand. The story takes you from shortly before her trip to Thailand, through to her ...more
Jul 08, 2014 CK rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: real-life

I got this book as I was looking forward to delving into the reasons Sandra Gregory had for trying to traffic drugs out of Thailand, a country not exactly known for its leniency, as well as Sandra's experiences in jail.
The author does go into great detail on her though process and is candid that she was not smart and let her exhaustion and sickness along with her desperation for home to lead her into a terrible decision.
What was interesting was how close she was to getting away with it as Thai
Gavin Malavolta
Jan 08, 2016 Gavin Malavolta rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: biographies
I liked this book a lot. Perhaps Gregory is not the best writer, but there is a sense of honesty that pervades the pages, and while there is perhaps much that is moralistic (and rightly so) the novel also manages to be an effective indictment of the prison system, both in Thailand and in the U.K.
The novel is straightforward and chronological, and the detail is often graphic and disturbing. One thing that struck me and dragged me in to the novel was always the thought, from the beginning that "w
Joe Stamber
As someone ignorant of Sandra Gregory's story, I expected this book to be an account of her time in Lard Yao, or the notorious Bangkok Hilton. While this is certainly a main part of the book, there is more to it than that. Around the first quarter tells of the author's trip to Thailand and her adventures there. Eventually she becomes desperate to return home and accepts an offer to smuggle drugs to get the money she needs to pay for the journey. Of course, she gets caught and suffers the consequ ...more
Leila Summers
Jul 10, 2011 Leila Summers rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoir
Reading this incredible story reminded me to be grateful for every minute of my life. While reading the book in bed sipping on coffee, I could walk to the kitchen to grab a bite to eat or go for a long hot bath if I felt like it. Sandra Gregory could not do any of this. She spent years in jail under shocking and appalling circumstances. Her crime? She naively attempted to traffic heroin out of Thailand for a near-stranger in order to make enough money to fly home to England. She initially receiv ...more
Pia Stone
Jun 30, 2016 Pia Stone rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
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My first question is if she was so desperate to get home why didn't she contact the Embassy and tell them of her plight. She didn't want to ask her parents for the return fare home but wouldn't you ask for the money with a promise of paying back the money. That was the first thing that occurred to me.

This is a book which is worthy of reading, it clearly describes in graphic detail the repercussions for smuggling drugs. The conditions and the fellow inmates. It would be good for books like these
Sandra Gregory's warts and all account of her time served in the notorious 'Bangkok Hilton' prison is both gritty and highly emotional as you would expect from any kind of prison diary/recollections. Her sentence was brutally harsh for the crime that she committed, and the book details her experience from the initial arrest at the airport, to the final royal pardon and her release, including an eye-opening section on the time she spent at Holloway when she was allowed to return to the UK.

The ti
Claire Martin
Sep 02, 2014 Claire Martin rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I love a real life overseas prison story - and I always tend to get drawn to them when I go on holiday! It seems it is a bit of a tradition for me now. Anyway there isn't much I can say about the horrendous situation Sandra finds herself in that hasn't been said. It is a lot like Damage Done (though perhaps not quite so brutal) but from the female side. You get the usual background story, where you want to scream at the pages "don't do it!" but of course she does, as otherwise you wouldn't be re ...more
Debby Hallett
I saw the author briefly on the news remarking on the experience of the two young women recently detained in Peru and night her book. I've been interested lately in people's personal accounts of their experiences of being caught up in horrific situations. Gregory's descriptions are vivid, but the story doesn't make clear to me how she managed to improve her situation. No lawyers mentioned, and changes seem to happen magically. As a descriptive narrative of someone paying dearly for a rather sill ...more
Mon Maryum
You learn that most of drug-offenders are like Sandra, vulnerable young women deceived by men in their lives and then abandoned by them when caught. It made me realize not to just quickly judge others. And how people can become bitter in prison, I have more compassion for drug-dealers now, especially poor women who deal them, who have no place to go to WHEN released from prison. And then they go back to their old ways to make ends meet. Today Sandra gives speeches to youth-programs on the danger ...more
May 23, 2008 Shari rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I first heard about this book on my new favorite National Geographic show, "Locked up Abroad." Tivo it, it's always gripping. One episode featured this British woman, Sandra Gregory, who made one stupid decision in her life (very, very, naive stupid decision) and was sentenced to death. I won't give anything away, but her tale of her ordeal is such a page turner I canceled all of my plans and spent two days pouring through the book till it was finished. If you're planning a trip to Thailand and ...more
Jul 08, 2008 Selinagreene rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone who likes prison stories and strength of the human spirit
This is an incredible story about a woman who was arrested for smuggling heroin out of Thailand and the time she spent in a Bangkok prison, and later in prison in the UK. What I foudn interesting what that Sandra Gregory felt that doing time in a British prison was harder to cope with than the terrible conditions she endured in Thailand. She said that in Thailand even though safety, health and survival were daily challenges, she was outside and busy enough to keep going. In the British prison, s ...more
Apr 14, 2012 Jessica rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
An incredible story that I think everyone should have to read before they take a gap year. It makes you realise how different Britain is from other cultures, but also allows you to compare the British and Thai prison systems (although not with the results you might expect; the Thai prison, in some ways, is much better than the British).
Being a young, British woman who visits Thailand often, it hits very close to home. Sandra Gregory is a very inspirational woman, who was punished far too harshly
Aug 18, 2011 Al rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
A rather tragic tale about a young English lady living in Bangkok who decides to do a drug run to earn money to go home to Britain.
Unfortunately she gets nabbed and gets a 25 year sentence in prison.
The woes and misery she experiences and the friends she makes while in prison make for a fairly interesting story.
She eventually gets a pardon from the king and is sent to prison in Britain which according to her was way more horrific than anything she had experienced in Bangkok!
Interesting reading .
Cearúil Swords
While the subject matter is disturbing and sad the author has been able to write in a way that makes it easy to read. How she came to be in the prison, what happened while there and the struggle to return her to Britain to finish her sentence are all regrettable but I think that is part of the point. This is not a nice story but it is a good lesson for people on the dangers of drug trafficking. A woman lost a great many years of her life to a stupid decision that only took a few weeks to make bu ...more
Oct 27, 2012 1976 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Gosh I remember reading this! and she story still haunts me to this day. I still get very paranoid at the airport just in case some one dare asks me to hold or carry something for them, even for a millisecond. This book kept me on the edge of my seat right to the end of the book. I still remember the horror I thought of when I read that she had to sleep in the space on the floor of the size of the prison floor tile due to the mass of inmates. Oh and the bra's...the life sentence, I could go on a ...more
Oct 22, 2009 Krista rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
What a harrowing story. After living in Thailand for 2 years, Sandra Gregory is desperate to return home and makes an incredibly stupid decision that changed her life forever. After agreeing to be a drug mule, she was caught red handed and sentenced to one of Bangkok's most notorious prisons. The conditions she describes are gut wrenching and I am still amazed she survived 5 years. Gregory also recounts her eventual transfer to the British prison system -- shockingly, a system that is perhaps ju ...more
Mar 18, 2007 Risu rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Anyone planning on going to Thailand
I really loved this book. The author, Sandra Gregory, has an amazing story to tell and throughout the book there was always something interesting, whether it was the awful conditions of the Lard Yao prison in Bangkok, the small pleasures she managed to squeeze out of her awful position or the survival tactics she used during her prison sentence. It was very depressing in a lot of places, and very well written.
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