Divorcing a Parent
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Divorcing a Parent

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Free Yourself from the Past and Live the Life You've Always Wanted

In this compassionate, intelligent book, renowned author and counselor Beverly Engel offers readers a serious, step-by-step guide to freeing themselves from an abusive relationship with a parent.
Paperback, 194 pages
Published June 6th 1996 by Ballantine Books (first published May 1990)
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Sam Dye
It is very well organized and filled with case history examples. A quote: "Just as in a troubled marriage, both people must be willing to work on the relationship in order for it to be mended. Unfortunately, many parents are so stubborn or so dysfunctional that they refuse to look at themselves and refuse to change."
The orientation of this book is for adult children whose parent(s) continually intrude in their life and demean them. "The purpose of divorcing your parent is to take of yourself, t...more
D. Jennifer Dawson
Couldn't find this Beverly Engel book as it's long out of print. Finally bit the bullet and purchased it from Half.com and am pleased I did.

If you know Engel, you're familiar with her straightforward, easy to 'hear' words on some of the more difficult topics of abuse, domestic violence and how to recover. She has published so many books on the subject of abuse, and healing and recovery - and she writes without a lot of mumbo jumbo. Just what you need to hear to start feeling better.

This book has...more
It is so true that, when our life's experiences are different from others, it is tough for us to empathize. There are times when we don't understand when a patient ,friend or colleague talks about their toxic parents. I am happy I read this book, I will not be giving wrong advice to traumatized children (turned adults). There is an ancient sanskrit saying that says " Kuputro buhuto santi, kumata eko na bhavti"---which translates to "there can be bad children but no bad mothers". Well this statem...more
This book truly helped me to realize how toxic my mother and father were, it was esp. hard with my mother,to let go of her and the hope of a relationship, but this book was a great resource and opened my eyes.
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“Why isn't there a commandment to "honor thy children" or at least one to "not abuse thy children"? The notion that we must honor our parents causes many people to bury their real feelings and set aside their own needs in order to have a relationship with people they would otherwise not associate with. Parents, like anyone else, need to earn respect and honor, and honoring parents who are negative and abusive is not only impossible but extremely self-abusive. Perhaps, as with anything else, honoring our parents starts with honoring ourselves. For many adult children, honoring themselves means not having anything to do with one or both of their parents.” 90 likes
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