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The Five Love Languages: Men's Edition: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

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You know you love her - but is she getting the message? You bring your wife flowers but she'd rather just have a hug. You buy tickets to a movie when she wants to sit and talk. Tired of missed cues and confusing signals? Dr. Gary Chapman reveals how different personalities express love in different ways. In fact, there are five specific languages of love: Quality Time, Wor ...more
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Published November 15th 2005 by Oasis Audio (first published May 1st 2004)
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Sep 18, 2008 Meg rated it liked it
I know what you're thinking... "Meg, are you, in fact... a MAN???" Nope. My brother-in-law just handed me a copy of his book (the "Men's Edition") a few weeks ago and told me to read it, that it would probably improve my marriage and understanding of my husband. And it did! It's a great book, and Chapman’s a genius. My main issue with it was redundancy. There doesn't need to be a whole book about this theory (much less several), the following paragraph would suffice:

There are five major ways tha
Garrett Zecker
I am not a reader of self help books, but this book came recommended to me as a text that is helpful in the areas of communication with a lover or a spouse and can have a drastic impact in many areas of my relationships.

While I think that this book says many valuable things, there are also some places that I think that this book is complete nonsense and totally misses the mark.

First, trying to figure out what you best respond to and what your spouse or lover best responds to is definitely an imp
Trevor Acy
Jun 19, 2013 Trevor Acy rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is one of those books that while you are reading it you think to yourself "well of course" and "I knew that". Yet at the same time realizing that you've never really considering the ideas that Chapman presents about the way two people express and more importantly receive love from one another.

I pretty quickly discovered that my primary love language is definitely Words of Affirmation. Most men, and Chapman points this out often, assume they operate from the Physical Touch language but that
Mar 20, 2008 Ellis rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nonfiction
Let me just say one thing about this book. It claims itself to be a special edition for men. Well, I don't know what type of man this author is used to (maybe one that doesn't like to keep any dormant mushy side from being exposed to the world), but just because this book has a brown cover doesn't make it very "manly". I don't have many other books in my library that have big hearts with arrows through them on the cover. Every, and I mean EVERY, new chapter has the same big sweetie-pie picture o ...more
Sep 13, 2015 Brett rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A must-read for all married men and those considering marriage.
Hugo Gomez
Sep 29, 2015 Hugo Gomez rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I'm not big into self-help books. My priest insisted I read this book after a little complaining in the confessional. Turns out my mother-in-law had a copy of this book just sitting in one of the many book piles in her home. Seeing that it was probably the same week from my whining, I felt it as far from coincidental and so asked about borrowing it.

The book makes some interesting points I had never considered, even though I consider myself a good reader of persons, determinations, and situation
May 29, 2014 Grace rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Now, as a single young woman, I assumed I would read about communication modes of a well functioning loving marriage, which, btw, is a beautiful thing to behold. However I was surprised at how the 5 love languages are so universal and explained so articulately and relatably the different ways that people express and experience love. Although this edition was targeted at married men, I learned a lot about myself and my own love language by reading it. It helped me to understand a lot of the pains ...more
Eric Sullenberger
First I want to point out that I mostly listened to the Men's Edition of this book, but there was a glitch in the Overdrive download, so I ended up listening to parts of the original version.
Second, the question I, and a lot of others seemed to have, is this a variation/modification of the original or is it an extension/spin-off upon the original. It is a variation, the points specifically for men seem to be an after-thought and the cover is a different color, that's about it. At the end of the
Aug 21, 2015 Esther rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I picked this book up this morning and intended to read it in a casual fashion but ended up devouring it in just over 5 hours. Anyone who wants to understand themselves or the person they love and be the best spouse or partner they can be will get something from reading this book. It's not a magic formula but if you're committed to someone and you try to apply the ideas in this book, I don't see how it can fail to help and bring happiness to all involved!

Admittedly, I am not married myself. Howe
Dr.bilal Alabsi
Apr 18, 2013 Dr.bilal Alabsi rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
a nice Book helps you to keep the love with your partner throughout your Marrige,it leerns you how to learn the love Language of your Partner and how to stay in love with her/him
Nov 13, 2015 Ilze rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Ilze by: Cheryl Sol
It is done.

Now may i please continue my life in peace without you asking and asking me whether i've read the book? Have you read it? Because if you honestly have (and don't DARE say you will read it again because a book doesn't save anything!), you would not be treating me the way you do. You wouldn't have moved into another bedroom a month ago and stated: "I moved out and your behaviour isn't changing". Your choice to do that was yours alone. You wouldn't have withdrawn the money i was me
Very interesting idea. The author is a long-time marital counselor who believes that even very well-meaning couples can leave each other crying for emotional support because they aren't communicating their affection in the way their spouse can hear it best. Its not a perfect book by any means, but it does introduce the idea that some of us respond most to "Words of Affirmation (praise/compliments) and some respond more deeply to Touch (hugs, etc), Gifts, Service (dedicated actions) or Quality Ti ...more
Jul 16, 2013 Adrienne rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
My reverend asked my sweetheart and I to read this book so we could discuss it during pre-marital counseling sessions. Dr. Chapman is curiously fixated on locations. “It was in New Mexico that I became acquainted with the third love language, thanks to Debra, a woman who approached me after a seminar.” This is the beginning of pretty much every chapter. “It was in [State name] that I discovered the [number between one and five] language, thanks to [generic name], who sought my expert advice afte ...more
Stacey Franklin
Some really insightful, good advice, but - as usual with this sort of book, couched in almost unreadable stilted dialogue, and peppered with super gay terms like "filling their emotional tank"... Kinda sexist, too, in a stereotypical "stop playing video games and spend time helping her arrange flowers" type of way... (granted, I did read the men's edition) and it got way to religious-y for me. All in all, though, still enough very useful material to warrant a wade through the muck.
Aug 27, 2010 Andy rated it liked it
I read the original "Five Love Languages" when my wife and I were engaged. The "languages" were a helpful framework for me to understand how to love someone long-term. The original book also taught me something about myself: which "love language" I naturally speak and naturally expect to be spoken to me.

Now, years later, I listened to this "men's edition" and found it to be just as helpful and that the "languages" have indeed played a role in my marriage.

If you're looking for practical ideas ab
Sep 29, 2016 Isaac rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Except for the cover and the suggestions at the end of each chapter that are catered to men, this book seems to be identical to the original The Five Love Languages. I'm okay with this, since I was due for a reread anyway, and since I spent $1 on this copy at Goodwill, but I'd be pretty upset if I had made any significant investment, expecting to receive insights unique to this version.
Giju Abraham
Dec 06, 2013 Giju Abraham rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
It's a book that I put off reading for a long time and I regret that decision. Gary Chapman so clearly brings out some essentials about love that will help every individual whether married or not. The book helps one think about the many experiences in life and then understand why things did not turn out too well. The author offers a number of relevant examples that we can relate to and also offers simple steps/actions that one can take to improve the quality of relationships.

The book helps one r
Feb 25, 2014 Nick rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I thought I knew what my love language was before reading this book but I was wrong. I actually have TWO primary languages. I wasn't even aware that the second one was there, and was shocked to find out that the one I didn't know about was my primary language! For that realization alone the book was worth reading. The insights into Michelle's languages, and my acting on those insights, has made Michelle feel more loved and me feel more love toward her.
James Biser
Mar 13, 2015 James Biser rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book gives some fantastic advice. As you learn about different love languages you feel as if your relationships are books you have been trying to write while you were blind. The insight offered in these pages are priceless. This is a necessary read for members of any couple.
Grayson Key
Jan 30, 2014 Grayson Key rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A great book for self-discovery that offers help and hope for the future. Chapman's perspective of love through the eyeglass of Scripture points out ingenious Truth that was there for us all along. Whether you are single or married, dating or divorced, this book will offer you tools to love and be loved better.
Belal Khan
Aug 18, 2013 Belal Khan rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Excellent book on understanding the fundamentals of how to engage with your spouse and foster love beyond the early blissful couple years. The book outlines how people are wired differently and we make the mistake of treating others the way we'd like to be treated. What fills your "love bucket" isn't what necessarily fills your spouse's.

First step is understanding what your spouse's primary love language is. There are five: touch, words of affirmation, gifts, spending time, and acts of service.
Feb 22, 2013 Bella rated it it was ok
It was ok, and the concept of " love languages" makes sense. But I didn't feel like I learned anything ground-breaking or particularly special. I also felt like it was a bit old fashioned and biased toward a Christian perspective. However, the book is pretty good at not knocking you over the head with constant religious references so it isn't that bad. I just personally wasn't moved by anything in it. I did think it was funny how at the end ( I listened to the eaudiobook) Dr Chapman shares how h ...more
Logan Cook
The same as the first, a must read. Has a lot of the same information from the original book, however, it is geared more towards men. Helps all aspects of a relationship.
William Carver
Oct 11, 2015 William Carver rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Must read for husbands. Provides information and challenges to lead to a better marriage. Easy to read and provides insights into loving your spouse better.
May 01, 2011 Kimbolimbo rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: read-in-2011
I think this edition might be my favorite. I read the original version many years ago when I was in a failing marriage. It was great but I read it a bit too late to help out my marriage but it did help me understand love better. Last year I read the Singles edition, it was even better because I was no longer married and the book didn't dwell on unhappy marriages or marriage successes so I didn't have to relive pain that I had buried away. Now, I have read this edition and I think it is excellent ...more
Vicky Liu
Jul 07, 2016 Vicky Liu rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Concise and filled with great wisdom. Definitely adding this to my list of books that essential to reread every few years.
A concise book with numerous examples, outlining the importance of love as an affectionate and considerate relationship between the spouses. It outlines 5 different needs in a relationship a) Affirmation encouragement b) Quality time c) Gifts d) Acts of reciprocation and service e) Physical touch. It also shows the folly of the short term euphoria of 'falling in love' and subsequent reversion to old values and habits(baggage borne of the past) and upbringing. The book shows ways identifying and ...more
Brad Stone
Jun 26, 2015 Brad Stone rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I loved it! Taught me so much I never knew. I wish I would have read this years ago! Now I'm confident I can keep my relationship strong!!
Aug 28, 2010 Tim rated it really liked it
Typical self-help story (with a typical, though understated evangelical background most of the time), one solution (there are five different love languages - words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, physical touch), flavor it with personal stories, and serve. But because it is simple and straightforward and does not claim too much for its ideas (hope for better understanding and relating to your spouse and family) it is really quite useful. Probably helpful that its ...more
Nov 04, 2015 Kesha rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nonfiction
Sensible advice to create love-filled relationships.
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